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Hello everyone. My name is piper gray, im 23, and i joined yesterday. Ive been nervous to actually post anything and i hope i dont regret it. 

   Ive been trans for most my life but have only been indentifying that way for about 8 months. I joined looking for a supportive community that is willing to pass on tips to their sisters who are just starting all of this. truth be told im kinda overwhelmed xD. 

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Thank you! Ill unfortunately have to pass on the pie for fear of my kitchen. I cant cook to save my life! But as far as being trans goes. I guess you could say im not sure how to approach the waiting. Ive been on h.r. t. since june and while i was never very masculine, i still appear very manly on the outside and struggle to see anything other than my dead self.

Is it natural to second guess if you made the right choice? To wonder if im good enough to transition? Im so afraid of having to live my life as someone im not. But i cant seem to escape my old life either?

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Hey  Piper.. Your in Oklahoma which is a tough place to be LGBT, but you super young which is great. As Always , best to start at yr age or younger make a big dif, your hair will grow out yr, face will become more refine , etc..Like Mary said, it's not going to be easy. F I am 56 being on HRT almost 16months and I still look like a man..it's really screws with my head and its not getting easier. Everyday I second guess my actions and to top it all off I am still find that I am attracted to woman. However, like I said you have a head start in yr youth..Mary is right..if you can find GT it would benefit you. Good  Luck keep in touch, Be safe , be proud and kick ass 

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Welcome. Piper!   You are definitely in the right place to find love acceptance and tons of support with your journey.  TP is an amazing place and it has literally saved my life.  My advice is read and participate as you feel comfortable and know that here there are truly no stupid questions or topics.  Just we are asked to keep things PG as we do have young folks here too.  
Please don’t hesitate to open up and share your experiences as you will shortly find out you are not alone.  
May I correct you on one point?  You have been trans since you were born.  As were we all.  I took 52 years to figure this out.  Lol

 

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Hello and welcome Piper! You needn't feel shy. I lurked for more than a month just reading before signing in at the encouragement of my gender therapist!

Lots of good information and friendly folks here.

TA

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Hi Piper,

Welcome to Transpulse. I'm glad you're here!

 

We are a friendly bunch. We won't bite, I promise.?

 

Lots of love and a big welcome hug,

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Salutations Piper and welcome to TransPulse!

 

So yeah, the occasional bout of doubt is pretty normal.  However,  here's the good news: You never need to take a step that you're not comfortable with. There is no set road map for transitioning. Nobody is going to be upset if you just do it your own way. It's about alleviating your body dysphoria and taking steps so you can learn to live comfortably in your own skin. The biggies to remember are: Cis people don't question their gender. Like Mary said, we're our own worst critics. Finally, don't do anything that makes you uncomfortable. This isn't a quick process. No need to rush into anything before you're ready.

 

In the meantime, here we are with experience, advice and snappy answers. There are no silly questions and we'll do our best to answer.

 

Hugs!

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Welcome Piper.

This thing called transition is a journey.  It takes time but i'm glad to be on this road. Being here has helped me immensely.

Remember to breath deep and enjoy yourself.

 

Hugs,

 

Charlize

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Hello Piper!   A Charlize wrote, this is a journey, and a long one with time to make adjustments along the way.  Focus on the future and enjoy the ride.  Its amazing and time changes everything.  


Please join in the conversation.

 

Jani

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Thanks everyone! Ill try my best, and i appreciate all the reassurance! If i have any questions i wont hesitate to ask.  

This seems like an amazing community already. Im really glad to have such amazing people as a resource.  

 

Hugs to all! 

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Hello, and welcome, Piper!  I found this place because I was bookmarking just about every transgender-related thing I could.  I had asked on another board (inclusive, but not trans-specific) if anyone knew of a good forum where I could find a community, but no luck.  On an impulse, I signed up for the forum, and I have not regretted it on moment.  Everyone here is kind, caring, and affirming.  Most important, non-judgemental.  I have really found a home away from home here, and I hope you do as well!

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