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Been testing underwear and I am not wearing a bra

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Emily michelle
3 hours ago, Allison Meadows said:

I know that feeling exactly, it's affirmation of your self as you really are. In fact, for two weeks not needing yucky men's dress suits, I have worn heavy shirts or sweaters with my bra underneath. It helps the dysphoria and reaffirms who I am, not who my body displays. My wife thinks I'm crazy in general, it seems, telling me last night, I really wish you wouldn't wear them. She won't even call what I wear a bra and it's Victoria's Secret. Probably not a good omen when I announce that I am transitioning.

My wife has told me the same thing about wearing my bras but then she noticed what it does for my mood and she hasn’t said anything else but that I can’t wear them to bed.

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On 3/9/2020 at 4:12 PM, Julialikesfashion said:

What I really mean is one pair of panties. In the future I will get more fun stuff.

I will also get silicon breasts and two wigs. Thats going to be awesome.

This is my main site for stuff: Glamour Boutique

Glamour Boutique is good.   But I prefer the Breast Form Store.   I find their friendlier...

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I got my forms from janets closet. American wide series. They fill my chest completely and actually LOOK like the real thing (under a bra/shirt)... Plus, with body safe glue, they actually feel like I think the real thing would. Plenty of bounce! Lol.


For my size at 6', with a band size at 38, I chose the 38c cup they sell. My wife says they are about right for a C cup. Even with the masculine shoulders, they still look right. 😁

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On 3/21/2020 at 11:50 AM, Allison Meadows said:

My wife thinks I'm crazy in general, it seems, telling me last night, I really wish you wouldn't wear them. She won't even call what I wear a bra and it's Victoria's Secret. Probably not a good omen when I announce that I am transitioning.

Ouch :(

Sometimes I...



sometimes I wear boxers


(Don't laugh, they are surprisingly comfy when I'm at home! It confuses the heck out of my spouse though XD )

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Maid In Bedlam
5 hours ago, Zeda said:

sometimes I wear boxers


 openly admiting that? 🤣


You wait until you have something to fill a bra with.. Some times i wish i could take mine off but i keep looking for the velcros. I cant find it.

I wish i could get the cheeky so and so who strapped these to my chest. Oh hold on a minute it was me. DOH :banghead:




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Since I am pre-HRT (fingers crossed, not for long), I need a bra to keep my breast forms in place. They go on first thing in the morning, and do not come off unless I am going into the tub or my bed.  i am lucky in that my first bra is rather comfortable, and the fact that it is on fades into the background of life fairly quickly.


However, I would vastly prefer breasts that were permanently attached - I suspect I would go braless, like most of the women in my life.  Or else sports bras.  I like the look of them, and they do help keep the breasts in place. 

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I didn’t start wearing bras until I actually had something to put in a bra. Since then I morphed from feeling sad to take it off to go to bed to ditching it when I get home. At first I wouldn’t leave the apartment without a bra but even that has changed now quite often I will walk to mailbox , take out the garbage or pop over to the neighbors sans bra and not get embarrassed that my nipples are quite noticeable under my T-shirt or tank top. But then again I live in the Emerald Triangle, a land that is a bit stuck in the ‘70’s, a place of hippies and Humboldt Honeys.


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I only ever take my forms off to bathe, or work. I sleep with mine and depending on the bra, they are fairly comfortable and stay in place all night. Even with my tossing and turning! Lol. I hope to start HRT soonish and start growing my own, but for now, I am satisfied with my forms. I want to get another pair so I dont wear out the good pair I have.

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Most times the puppies don't come the same size as they grow, and it can lead to great discomfort. Clothing physically turns and pulls while you wear it cuz one side is shorter and your moving around so nothing stays in place. Sometimes you need an extra pad or two, to make it even-ish, cuz bras are made with the thought that things naturally are even when they rarely are. What I'd give for a better solution to uneven boob size other than sports bra, bra pads, or surgery. I'm totally fine with not wearing anything, I just have baby bottle tops for nipples and they get pointy and sensitive and people can be very rude when they see them poking through.

I love boxer briefs so much more, so comfy. I have a large posterior and women underwear doesn't cover it well enough especially if you add extra thick night pad for that fun time in the month.


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Mia Marie

I wear sport bras to work and I do have a couple of racer backs with no underwire or extra support that feel good. When I get larger girls I will look for better support bras. I think this was the better way to feel fem without the discomfort.

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On 3/16/2020 at 4:43 PM, ShawnaLeigh said:

Yes!  I so loved the switch from tighty Whites to panties and bras.  
They do make you feel so feminine even after you get use to them.  Jmo

Amen. Thats a special day when all the tighty whities get tossed into the trash.  I think men's underwear (at least in the US) is the most boring ill fitting stuff.  A year of HRT hasn't caused enough development to require a bra.  My female family members are not endowed with the largest breasts so I don't expect mine to either.  Which is fine.  It is what it is.

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