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maddyfuem

Hey all.  So I think I know Tricare doesn't pay because I came out after the ban went into effect.  There's a lady in the Navy, like myself,  who says that there is a possibility of an exception waiver.  I cannot diagnose myself per-se but, I'm almost 100% certain I have gender dysphoria.  I hate the fact I have a penis and hair grows all over my body.  I wear a gaffe all the time now except in the shower.  I wear breast forms at every opportunity.  I'm in distress when I cannot wear them.  I hate that my wife doesn't want me to wear my wig or breast forms when I'm with her.  I want to be authentic all the time.

 

So, I'm not sure what I can do for help when I'm active duty other than paying for HRT myself.  I've had several people tell me I'm moving too quick to want HRT since I've only 100% known I'm trans for a little more than a month.  I'm so confused, especially when my therapist, which thankfully after next week I will no longer have her, tells me that I need to be told "hard truths" not just what I want to hear from people.  I really don't like how she said that i was abandoning my Catholic faith, which is not true at all, abandoning ever having a family with kids, again not true but a little more difficult, and that she equated finding support groups online to support groups to encourage an eating disorder where people encourage the eating disorder behavior.  She told me I need to talk with my priest a lot before transitioning.  It sounds like she was trying to do conversion therapy on me instead of helping me out.  I originally went to her over 2 years ago for sex addiction.  Now that that is no longer a problem because I've came out, she isn't helping me.  Yet she says that she has worked with many trans people before.  I am pretty sure that she tried to convert many trans before.  She is a christian based counselor.

 

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On 5/9/2020 at 2:06 AM, maddyfuem said:

It sounds like she was trying to do conversion therapy on me instead of helping me out.

Hi Maddy.

Sounds to me like maybe you should seek out a new therapist.  I hope that is an option for you.

wishing you all the best

 

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