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Mx.Drago

Interesting. Many thanks.?

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Erikka

Very inspiring. In my own field, I worried that once I transitioned I would loose credibility, It has happened, but not to the overall degree I was expecting which was zero credibility among my peers. Before I retired I was a saw filer in a large, high production sawmill. Sawfilers are pretty much a closed off. close knit fraternity of craftsmen (people. although there are almost no women in the field). Most of my brethren ignore the new and disapproved me, but shockingly enough there are a few, albeit very, very few that will accept what I have to offer from 30 years experience in the field.

It is hard for the world of men to see expertise in a woman or worse yet a traitor to the manhood fraternity. This one area where division and discrimination  is done by gender, not only by the color of ones skin, to define ones ability and credibility.

 

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