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Markie

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Hi Girls,

Going to do some shopping this morning. @Tori M @KayC  I do love just browsing and being girly. An androgynous look today should suffice. With these masks we wear, makeup is almost a non issue other than a little eye makeup. My pink mask completes my slightly feminine look. A padded bra, painted nails, baggy top and shorts with flip flops should be nice. A nice floral scent and I’m out the door. I let you know if I find something nice. ❤️

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Thank you, @Markie!  Sounds fun! wish I could go with you ?

I was just browsing on Amazon ... Androgynous is not exactly a "category" for their search options but I was able to find some jean, blouse, vest/jacket combos I thought would fit that type and might look good on me.  Maybe we should start a clothing line?

I think this is a good topic for this Forum.  Thank you for getting it started❣️

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Kay C, I think you are on to something. In the beginning, I would go to Kohl’s and pick outa couple of tops then grab a men’s shirt and go try them on. Once at the Gap, the girl in the changing rooms was so nice that I asked her to check out the way the ladies jeans fit me. She ended up getting me a different ladies style to try on. They fit so nicely, I bought two pair. It was a very nice experience and helped me get more confidence. Have a sweet day!

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That would be awesome and I am early in my transition and being a 60s/70s girl, I love the look of Boho dresses but as you say, Amazon isn't too good for what I'd like to see. Ebay isn't much better - especially with what I like so far coming for overseas vendors.

Shay

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Yeah, with women's clothing you REALLY need to try it on to see if it fits right. Different brands and styles are cut for different body types and we're all so DIFFERENT that buying online is really a crap-shoot.

 

Hugs!

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Yep - I've had to buy many times just to figure out what my size is in every item it seems...sometimes pleasantly surprised, most of the time sadly disappointed and can't return....maybe we could put together a clearing house for unusable items we have instead of just throwing out or giving to Goodwill and make these available to our sisters for the cost of the lowest shipping costs we can find. Maybe even better is to set up a link we can use to list what we have to give away and then charge lowest shipping costs available. I do ebay to sell my comics to help pay for things and I would be willing to put together a guide to shipping cheap.

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Hi All,

My little pink mask got me “4-mams” this morning. I do think that working on my walk is helping a lot. I think that it would be great to have a shopping crew of gal pals. I think that would be so much fun. I saw a cute dress and really wasn’t sure so I passed on it. Now, I miss it so much. I may go back tonight to get it. I might ask the salesperson their opinion. Be safe and happy. 

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you deserve it and if you like it that much, treat yourself

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Markie,

I went computer "window" shopping this morning. Didn't buy anything, but so much fun to just look. I do Old Navy a lot there clothes almost always fit me.

Velsignelser,

Erikka

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9 hours ago, Shay said:

Yep - I've had to buy many times just to figure out what my size is in every item it seems...sometimes pleasantly surprised, most of the time sadly disappointed and can't return....maybe we could put together a clearing house for unusable items we have instead of just throwing out or giving to Goodwill and make these available to our sisters for the cost of the lowest shipping costs we can find. Maybe even better is to set up a link we can use to list what we have to give away and then charge lowest shipping costs available. I do ebay to sell my comics to help pay for things and I would be willing to put together a guide to shipping cheap.

 

I like this idea if you can figure a way to make it work.

 

Online, I've been buying a LOT of summer casuals at this chain called Beals.  Lots of clearance deals, decent quality for the price (a few pieces are a little thin but it's a southern chain; think HOT), good shipping (free over $75) and everything I've ordered fits!  $23 for Lee jeans.  I even found slippers and Hushpuppy mocs in my size (12 ladies).  https://www.beallsflorida.com/online/

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15 hours ago, Jackie C. said:

buying online is really a crap-shoot

I agree with Jackie, at the beginning of my online shopping it truly was a crap-shoot.  But, after a few "Fails" I was able to nail down my size and style options.  Very rarely disappointed now with an online buy.
But, in-person shopping would be much better and more fun obviously.  I just don't have that option right now.

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One of my most liberating moments came when a sales lady asked me who I was shopping for. I replied “for me”. She leaned in and said, “let’s go girl”. She asked me about my tastes, told me it was a slow day and had me trying on different styles for 2 hours. I learned so much about how different styles would look on me. She was my angel!

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Glad to tell you said... she was an angel...just for you...

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10 hours ago, Markie said:

She leaned in and said, “let’s go girl”.

I love your story, Markie❣️

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