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Sydneyblue

The Trans group that was suppose to happen today didn't happen.  I'm not sure what happen i tried email the contact person. I think its because it my only outlet other then here. Why do i need so much support ? 

 I went over my resume today and fixed some errors i had on it and reposted it. I have alot of time on my hands and i want to get back to work. I think that might give me some goals to start saving for more surgeries. I took a more current pic of me for me Profile pic. I finally felt like i could do that post ffs surgery.  

 I dont know what to do about my girlfriend. She doesnt like me as a girl/women. She says its weird. It really hurts me. She is all i have right now and with this pandemic you cant really go anywhere and there is nothing to do. Im glad i dont live with her.  We have sex anymore more me. She gets mad at me because we dont anymore. 

 I just need to reach out today. Hopefully i get feedback 

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1 hour ago, Sydneyblue said:

I dont know what to do about my girlfriend. She doesnt like me as a girl/women. She says its weird. It really hurts me.

I feel for you @Sydneyblue. That hurts and I can empathize with the situation. My oldest daughter said the exact same thing about me to the second oldest daughter. It got back to me and it really stung for awhile. She is  s l o w l y  coming around though. She came over and spent the day with my wife and I and we all had a wonderful time. Things can change if you can stay positive and continue to love her as you do. I think initially some of those who accept me now had a similar initial reaction as my oldest (I know of at least one other for sure) but they now understand what life was like before transitioning and now today and they can see the improvement and happiness in my life. Stick by your g/f in her doubt and indifference...it takes time and good communication. I hope things will get better for you in your relationship soon.

 

Warmest Regards,

Susan R🌷

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@SydneyblueI am having the same issue with a girlfriend who doesn't want me to undergo GRS. I have tried to tell her that is really not her decision to try and force on me, and we have had many talks over this matter. So far the I am still going through with it no matter if she decides to leave or stay. My opinion is she just wants me to not have it done for her, not for my wellbeing. 

Like Susan says it takes a lot of communication, but both have to realize what is good for both and not just the one. 

Gina

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