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More than a crossdresser ?


Denisenj

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A couple weeks ago I got my first set of acrylic coffin shaped nails. I love them so much but I didn't get gel polish. I got a purple I changed to white now I just took the color off. I wear them in guy mode and in girl mode and I love the look and I'm really starting to enjoy wearing them. I really want to get them polished A nice bright red with gel but it's funny I have a stigma about red nails. 

   Would I be perceived as 2 much of a sissy. I got a dilemma here I think I'm more than a crossdresser. I'm going to need to fill soon next time I might get a nice red gel color or a French. I wasn't feeling it all white. What do you girls think.

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Jackie C.
2 hours ago, Denisenj said:

What do you girls think.

 

I think your nails look way better than mine. I need professional help.

 

Honestly, I don't think 90% of guys would so much as notice your nails if you didn't draw attention to them. Men are kind of oblivious. They usually notice that you HAVE hair, but not so much that you have it styled. They realize that you're wearing clothes, but not that it's a new blouse/skirt combo that looks super cute. Unless you did something super obvious with your hands, I don't think most guys would pick up on it. Even less of a chance if your nails aren't painted.

 

2 hours ago, Denisenj said:

I got a dilemma here I think I'm more than a crossdresser.

 

I love the way you phrase that: "I'm... I'm more than just a crossdresser. The power... it frightens me. My female side... she's breaking free! Oh no! Run! I'm changing!" I'd buy that comic-book. Of course I've also thought that "Coming Out" stories should be called "Origin Stories" so there's probably something wrong with me.

 

So yeah, give me a little hint. What's the dilemma? The whole point here is doing whatever it is that makes you happy and comfortable in your own skin. If that's painted nails and dresses full-time with nothing else, that's a perfectly valid way to be. If you feel like you want HRT and/or surgery to feel more authentic, that's OK too. It's just about making yourself happy and making life a little easier to deal with.

 

Hugs!

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I like that last comment how true that is . It's about feeling good about yourself and not worried about other people and what they think of you.

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11 hours ago, Denisenj said:

I got a dilemma here I think I'm more than a crossdresser.

Yeah.   I thought I was just crossdressing at first.  But it didn't last long.

That Pandora's Box thing.

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Erica Gabriel

I plead the 5th!

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Red_Lauren.

I have had acrylics for about the same time. While mine aren't as long. I have come to love them, and won't get rid of them. I would love to get color on mine also, but I also hate red nails, and I can't because of the stegima of it. 

 

I'm also at point. We're im more then a crossdresser. I get things waxed, I get typical female haircuts, I spend more money on my female side. Then I do me male side. Short of being on hormones. I consider my self a woman at this point any more.

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I can relate to that last statement you made. I shyed away  from red nails because I assumed them being too feminine. The next time I need  a fill my nails  will be polished a sweet Red. They are

 starting to be a part of me and I love them. Tomorrow I'm going to Philly for some laser on my upper lip. Yes I'm finding myself spending more money on Denise then Dennis and I don't mind that. I guess that's what girls do. Current ombre 

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Red_Lauren.

I have like a cranberry metalic on my toes.  Before it was very close to plum crazy purple.  Maybe if I tired like a darker red on my fingers. I might like it more. I'm more attracted to darker automotive type shades. Ones with pearl or metalic flake in them.

 

I bought a blue shade. That is pretty close to subaru wrc blue. So i would match my car, but didn't like it on me. After work tonight. I'm going to get some metalic bronze color, and try that. 

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Heather Nicole
6 hours ago, Red_Lauren. said:

I bought a blue shade. That is pretty close to subaru wrc blue.

 

Oooh! Subaru WRC blue. Girl after my own heart! ;) Not usually a car person, but I can certainly appreciate certain models, like a good WRC/WRX...

 

My "trans-age" is very, very early, still. Once I learned (from here) that nail art stickers were a thing, I ordered a couple packs and made an instinctual beeline for the most "pink" designs in the pack, no matter how adolescent!  For my toes. I'm not "out" enough for fingernail art yet (drat!), but I tossed in a base coat and top coat, and I'm still enjoying the same design here halfway into week 3 :)

 

Nice design and length, @Denisenj! (I have such a bad nervous habit of pressing down on the ends of my fingernails, I'd probably destroy those within the day!)

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Erica Gabriel

Red glitter on my toes. I just polish and file my fingernails clear since I work with my hands (latex gloves are my friends).

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Red_Lauren.
3 hours ago, Heather Nicole said:

 

Oooh! Subaru WRC blue. Girl after my own heart! ;) Not usually a car person, but I can certainly appreciate certain models, like a good WRC/WRX...

 

My "trans-age" is very, very early, still. Once I learned (from here) that nail art stickers were a thing, I ordered a couple packs and made an instinctual beeline for the most "pink" designs in the pack, no matter how adolescent!  For my toes. I'm not "out" enough for fingernail art yet (drat!), but I tossed in a base coat and top coat, and I'm still enjoying the same design here halfway into week 3 :)

 

Nice design and length, @Denisenj! (I have such a bad nervous habit of pressing down on the ends of my fingernails, I'd probably destroy those within the day!)

I grew up srounded by cars. My dad and his friends all in their mid 60s now. Were avid muscle cars guys. I turned 16 around the first ff movie, and played grand trismo a lot. So I was going to be in to cars no matter what. 

 

As for breaking nails. I can't vouch for longer ones, but I have nails. That are about 1/8 or so past my tip of my fingers. In 2 months of having them. I've broken one completely off some how, and didn't notice. Then chipped a corner last week. They are strong, but fragile at the same time.

 

I say give them a trial run. Of at least a month or so. I say that because it takes about a week or two to get use to them, and you can decide after that. If you want to continue down that road. The picture below is what my nails look like right now. My nail tech says it's a waste not painting them a pretty color, but I cant right now. So I just get a nude base, with a mat top coat. They look feminine, but don't scream look at me.

 

I do love the ombre nails though. One day I'll have nails like that. 

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