Growing Up Male On The Outside And Female In The Inside.

[Guest Mrs. Miniver]

I won't bother talking to you about all the trials and tribulations of trying to be male as I grew up. We've all been there girls at one time or another and it's just frustrating. What I didn't find frustrating was that I certainly felt that I could relate to my female friends more closely than I could to my male friends and thus I've always had more girlfriends. Women just seem to understand things more and they certainly have more compassion and listen better. I think that when I was going through the part of my life where I couldn't understand which gender I was, ultimately my association with all my girlfriends and the understanding we had between each other made it clear to me who I was. I thank them for that and I thank you for listening, because as a woman I know you care.

http://www.lauras-playground.com/forums/st...s/icon12.gifLuv,

Mrs. M.

[Sally]

Hey Mrs. M!

I know just how you felt - I had a lot of female friends in college and the guys thought I was just really lucky to have them hanging around all of the time.

The truth was that they were around because I fit in so well but because of my male body, I was always excluded from so may things that I would have loved to have gone to.

To women, the ones we knew, know and will know and the ones that we always were and will always be.

Love ya,

Sally

[Guest Zabrak]

[Guest Elizabeth K]

But it hurts when you suddenly DON"T get invited to be with them, because of 'an all girls night out' thing or something. But It's so good to be loved for yourself and just be at ease. I often carry my purse. Women will look at me like they have a question? "WHAT?" I say thinking the worst? Do you have any aspirin? Of course I do, and tums and kleenex and - well. some touch up cosmetics. That's what purses are for.

And I am married. Once, my wife asked, "do you have your lipstick with you? I need a touch up." (I did). And she has me carry her personal things when she wants to NOT carry her purse. I won't mention what that is...

Its a world of women out there just as often as a world of men.

Lizzy

[Guest darlene lynn]

Mrs M

I was always wishing I had girlfriends back in school. But I was gender dsyphoric, I didnt fit in with the guys cause I was to wimpy and I didnt fit in with the girls cause I was a weird guy.. Go figure right.. And after puberty I was lost because I didnt know where I fit. So I just became a loner..

Darlene Lynnette

[Guest Mrs. Miniver]

My Dear Darlene,

I suspect that I would consider myself a loner also, Yet I am rarely alone! I'm always doing something somewhere with someone. I do cherish my time alone though and I usually don't follow the crowd and for some obvious reasons and some not so obvious. I guess I just love being different and it is a beautiful feeling. Socially I've always had the knack to make friends or acquaintances, but I must admit I am quite particular about them as they are about me. I am fortunate enough to know a lot of girls who I can bare my soul to or also have a good cry with. Something I was never able to do as a man or with one.

I count my blessings that I was able to discover who I was and fulfill the dream through these people.

I wish you all the best in the future with all my heart.

Take care.

Mrs. M.http://www.lauras-playground.com/forums/style_images/pro/folder_post_icons/icon12.gif

[Guest Isabella]

That's the best feeling ever, being one of the girls & not some horrible freak!

[Guest ChloëC]

I guess I was very fortunate at times in my life. In college, for whatever reason, a lot of girls decided they liked me as a friend. Maybe I came across as non-threatening, or maybe they sensed something about me.

There was a pop/rock song just before my time, but was still being played occasionally, about a girl who didn't actually cheat on her boyfriend but flirted heavily and then she sings/pleads to him - Johnny, get angry, Johnny get mad, give me the biggest lecture I've ever had, I want a brave man, I want a cave man....

What she wanted definitely wasn't me. I think a number of girls who broke up with me went for the cave man type next. They initially liked my sensitivity and caring, but in our teen years, I think they didn't want that for a boyfriend, but as a friend...well, I easily fit in. (Once, I went to visit by train a girl I had met earlier and two girl friends - who were seriously into other guys - came with me to the station to see me off, each giving me a hug and a kiss on the cheek. That is friendship)

[Carolyn Marie]

It's been the same for me. Yes, I have a couple of male friends that I've had since high school. But I've

always enjoyed talking to women, and they seemed to always find me empathetic and someone they

could confide in.

When I was in my 20's, a girl that I was trying to date, or at least befriend, told me

when she turned me down that I was the most sensitive man she had ever met. While I was

very disappointed about being turned down, her remark meant so much to me that I've

never forgotten it, and kept the "thank you" card she wrote it on. Weird all these years later,

I'm doing this work at Laura's.

The world never ceases to amaze me.

Carolyn Marie

[Guest mia 1]

I have ahd the same experiences as Carolyn Marie..always considerd a sensitive "by/man" and women were always attracted to me..and I could sit at the table in abar/reataurant and thalk all night,,when if camme to going home I would get a lot of hugs and pats on the backand a kiss on the cheek,,but sometimes I would get luckya nd a perceptive women would want to spend some time with a "sensitive" man..one who saw her side of "life.'

So yes it is there with all of us AMAZING the common thread love,,,Mia

[Guest Donna Jean]

That's the best feeling ever, being one of the girls & not some horrible freak!

Interesting.....

I used the term "freak " in reference to myself early on with my therapist.....

He actually got angry and forbade me to EVER use that term again.....wow!

And like so many of you...I was the sensitive male.....I fit in all of the girl circles...many female friends....

You telegraph it and it is received.....

Huggs

Donna Jean