New Name??

[Guest Naomi Stardust]

first a little back ground

i have gone through a lot of names!

the first one that really stuck was Jayla

then purging and back to my given name

then i toyed with names like Alyssa, Cassandra, Deirdre, Callisto, and Katrina

then more purging

then sick of always fantasizing about being a woman and the frustration i at the time attributed to said fantasies

i came up with with a male persona to daydream about being

Moebius

(being a writer my daydreams ranged from realistic/bland scenarios to sci fi/fantasy extremes)

but for some reason, this Moebius character i came up with

would always eventually end up becoming female somehow... odd wasn't it?

so some more purging

suicide attempts

and failing that i found Laura's

seems like it was nearly a year ago or so

and once again i was between names

but after weeks and weeks of spying on the sight

i was ready to join

then they asked me to pick a screen name!

wonderful

Naomi was kind of picked at random

it just sounded pretty

so i went with it

but!

after all the support and kindness from the wonderful insightful caring people on Laura's calling me Naomi

it really started to grow on me

so i kept it

although it has never had any of the symbolism for me that i always looked for when thinking of names

then there is my friend Lana

the first person i came out to

she never liked the name Naomi

i just figured she would get used to it after a while

but now i have learned why she doesn't like this name

from kids who tormented her in grade school through high school

to i suspect the name of the woman her first husband had an affair with

they were all mostly named Naomi!

i do not want to always be bring up bad memories for my best friend every time she says hi

and Naomi lacks any symbolism that strikes me as fitting with my personality

any name i choose will grow on me as people who matter start to me call me by it

also Naomi was a name i picked to call my transsexual self

but after responding to one of Lizzy's posts

i think i need a name that reflects me as a woman

so that said i feel like it is time for a new name!

now... what new name...?

i am looking for suggestions!

those of you who known me since i have been posting here, what do you think is appropriate?

for now i am considering Maia, i figure i have been in the winter mood of my life far too long

Maia is a Spring name

right now i don't have any other ideas

love and hugs

Naomi (for the time being)

[Sally]

Here is an idea.

You want to come out of Winter and move into Spring so why not select a Hawaiian name - they live in perpetual Spring and the names have prett sounds and wonderful meanings.

Like Leilani which means Heavenly Flower.

Or Mele which is poem or song.

I'll give you a sight for those names if you are interested - or even if you aren't because here it is.

http://www.babynamescountry.com/origins/ha...aby_names1.html

Aloha,

Sally

[Guest Nikk]

Here is an idea.

You want to come out of Winter and move into Spring so why not select a Hawaiian name - they live in perpetual Spring and the names have prett sounds and wonderful meanings.

Like Leilani which means Heavenly Flower.

Or Mele which is poem or song.

I'll give you a sight for those names if you are interested - or even if you aren't because here it is.

http://www.babynamescountry.com/origins/ha...aby_names1.html

Aloha,

Sally

Oh Auntie Sally, lucky you don't live in Hawaii - we don't just have Spring. We have "the hot season" and "the wet season"...

As far as names go (if you're looking for a Hawaiian name), I recommend Koa. It's not really feminine persay (I've met some girls with the name though), but it means strength - and what do you have if not strength. It's also the name of one of the most incredible trees in the world.

Alana is also a beautiful name that I thought meant beauty, but it seems to have multiple meanings when I looked it up....

~Nikk

[Guest Isabella]

One of the few pleasures gid brings is that we have the chioce of picking our own legal name. I changed everything, first middle & last. Don't let yourself feel rushed! It helps to bounce your ideas off others you can trust & listen to theirs, but in the end the choice is yours & no matter what anyone thinks, if it really feels right no matter what your frame of mind, that's the "one".