Seriously Confused

[Guest Lionheart12]

Ok I have a way to express myself I am neither masculine or fem but recently discovered that I have bi gender expressions so even though I am a male I dress male and feel like a female trapped in male clothes and shen I dress fem I am a male trapped in female clothes. I honestly can't picture myself as a female and when I do I get depresses becuse I love my body. Thoughts of loseing my genitals really hurts and is vary depressing imagineing haveing intercourse as a female is painful and depressing. I can't cross the clothes becuse that puts thoughts into my head that depresses me. I find that I want to express myself as male and female but is unable to match my gender id no matter what I do what do you think I should do?

[Carolyn Marie]

Lionheart, it sounds like what you need most right now is a gender therapist. They can help

you sort out your feelings and make sense of them.

Don't worry about putting labels on yourself - its not important. You just need to sort out

what makes you most comfortable and most at peace with yourself. You can find out

a lot my looking through these forums and reading about what other people have gone

through in similar situations.

But really, the best thing to do, if its within your means, is to seek out help from someone experienced

with gender issues.

I wish you the best.

Carolyn Marie

[Sally]

Hey Lionheart,

I think that you should not try to match your gender to your clothing but match your clothing to your gender and that seems to be a sliding scale for you so you don't want to alter your body and therefore have no need to.

Do not get caught up in trying to be just one or the other, everyone isn't and it will just make you unhappy either way that you choose, so let your gender feelings each day determine how you will dress - androgyne as a slightly more female look sometimes and slightly more male so just within those ranges you should be able to be quiet happy.

Love ya,

Sally

[Guest ~Brenda~]

Sweetheart,

Try not to consider yourself as one way or another. I think of gender and gender expression as an infiinite spectrum where the possiblities are endless. Just relax and be yourself. There is nothing wrong with that.

HUGS

Brenda

[Guest Evan_J]

Exaaactly. What they all said is on point. You don't have to do ANYthing to your body. In fact, personally, it sounds as if to do so would be (in your case) the very worse thing that could happen!! Also they hit it on the head that you should not be trying to match body to clothing. Instead you just pick whichever, or whichever combination of clothing makes you feel best.

[Guest mynw]

Ok I have a way to express myself I am neither masculine or fem but recently discovered that I have bi gender expressions so even though I am a male I dress male and feel like a female trapped in male clothes and shen I dress fem I am a male trapped in female clothes. I honestly can't picture myself as a female and when I do I get depresses becuse I love my body. Thoughts of loseing my genitals really hurts and is vary depressing imagineing haveing intercourse as a female is painful and depressing. I can't cross the clothes becuse that puts thoughts into my head that depresses me. I find that I want to express myself as male and female but is unable to match my gender id no matter what I do what do you think I should do?

All what they tell you are sounding great,,

please take your time,nothing behind you,,more than feeling peaceful with your self,,

so:

1- test more through site here.you can find what you seek about your self.

2- as Carolyn Marie said,, find therapist.

3-think deep and wisely.if you still as you now,is better than take any hasty

steps what you can't rollback from it.

all wishes for you to find your peace mind

we are here all for making you reach to that,,

love