Peeking Head In...

[Guest Colormyworld]

Please forgive me if I jump around a lot and don't make total sense, but I don't know where to start or how to go about this so I'm just going to start spilling everything....

First off, I'm 20 years old, my birth certificate says I'm Female, and even though I try to stay away from labels I believe I fit into the bisexual or pansexual category or as of lately the "why does it matter who I'm attracted to, since nobody is attracted to this anyway" category, but alas..

To start from the beginning, growing up, the friends that I played with most were all boys, and I liked it that way. I loved playing outside, and I would always be riding my bike with the boys. One of our neighbors even commented how I was so cute, and I kept right up with the boys on my bike, despite being a girl and being shorter then all the boys, even the ones that were my age. And at the time I wore dresses quite a bit. I also did play with dolls and barbies and other girly toys too, but I also had to have hot wheels cars and tracks for them, I loved hot wheels cars!! I even had a big rug with roads and parking lots and buildings for my hot wheels cars. Also looking back I had "penis envy" (obviously didn't know what that was at the time) I was jealous of the boys that could pee standing up. I wanted to be able to do that like the boys.

(this is where I ramble on about clothing for way too long, you can skip this if you'd like)

I wore dresses a lot when I was little (and my mom likes to remind me all the time how I *used* to wear dresses, and why won't I now?) but I also liked wearing 'boys' clothes, too like race car shirts and pants so I could run around easily. I think my clothing was pretty typical of a little girl, I liked to wear casual dresses, but pants and shorts made it easier to play and run around and still be a proper girl and not go showing my undies to the world LOL After age 9 or so I wouldn't be caught dead in a dress unless it was for a special holiday like on christmas or easter. By age 12 ish I wouldn't wear a dress at all, they were stupid and pointless! Right now, I own exactly one dress, wore it exactly two times, that was a few years back in high school. I had to dress up for a recognition day, then I had to walk across the stage at the assembly wearing a dress and wedge heels in front of the whole school (luckily I didn't fall I don't know how I made it through the day let alone walking up the stage steps without falling). I was quite embarrassed wearing the dress in the first place (it made my mom really happy though, and she was proud I won an award and stuff) and going up on stage in front of all the senior class and their families was nerve wracking enough on it's own, but being seen by so many people while wearing a dress?? I felt like I should have been part of a freak show!! The only other time I wore that thing was at graduation, and it was under the graduation gown most of the time anyway, so I didn't feel so awkward this time. (I'm not exactly sure why it was mandatory for all the women to wear dresses under their gown, but it was dress or no walk, so I had no choice that time) I did feel okay enough wearing workout type shorts under the dress. made me 'feel' like I was wearing pants, but it doesn't change the fact that I still LOOK like I'm in a dress because I am.. Same for my uniform at work, I'm required to wear a skirt every day to work, so I wear cotton leggings (you know those things preppy girls wear under super short denim skirts, LOL don't know how else to describe them) so at least the FEELING isn't that of a skirt. Whenever I have my skirt on without the leggings, it just feels sooo weird! I don't like it! I feel too exposed and it's just.. odd. I hate that they won't let me wear pants to work, I would be much more productive if I had pants, it's so much easier to move in pants!! I would be happy to follow the male dress code (black slacks, white button down shirt with a collar and a tie, black shoes) and the accessories allowed is a bit different, so I'd have to get rid of my earrings, as they don't allow men to wear them.

(okay, I get back to the point about now..)

I was pretty content being a girl growing up, I was no different than the boys except I couldn't pee standing up, I could do anything they could, life is good, right? Well yes, until *dun dun dun* puberty started... even before puberty actually set in, just talking about puberty, I wanted to constantly hide! In 5th grade, they split the boys and girls up and we all had the "this is what's going to start happening to your body" assembly, and parents got to come and sit next to their growing children and all that jazz... I don't think I looked at my mom the whole time, I just didn't want to face reality, didn't want to have this happen to me, hoped it wouldn't. I just sat there with my hands in my pockets, listening to the lady at the front talk about periods and hair growing places that you had to remove it from, and breasts and uteruses and acne and all that icky stuff I just didn't want to hear! Oddly enough, I was more comfortable with the health teacher talking to the whole group and listening, than I was of hearing all the stuff my mom said to me afterwards. I didn't want to hear it from my mom at all, and I would do whatever I could think of to get away from her when she would talk about it. Then one day, I was laying on the floor watching TV or something and my mom says "I think you're developing a little figure!" and was all excited about it. I on the other hand wanted to cry, I'm sure I did cry later on. I hated that this was happening to me. A few weeks later, we were shopping at Walmart, picking up whatever we happened to need, and my mom decides that I need some new socks, because half of mine have holes in them, I was always rough on socks. Well socks are right down the isle from... bras... I didn't think anything of it, they were always close to those things, it wasn't a big deal.. until mom says "You know what, you're really starting to develop, I think you should start wearing a bra." Can I just die now?? This can't be true, I can't be developing ANYTHING, especially not... breasts. I didn't want to believe it, but I knew it was true. I couldn't hide it any longer no matter how much I tried. Once I noticed that those things were starting to grow, I tried my best to hide it by wearing loose fitting shirts and sweaters over them. Surely if I hide them nobody will notice them, but that wasn't the case.. my mom could tell I was growing boobs and there wasn't anything I could do about it. My mom made me pick out a bra I liked, err.. well I didn't like any of them, but I had to pick one that I didn't hate. Then when we got home, my mom wanted me to model it for her, and see if it fit okay. Model this thing for her? Surely she has got to be joking if she thinks I'm going to put it on at all and see myself it in, but she wants to see me in it? This is not going to happen! After about 20 minutes of staring at this thing laying on my bed, I reluctantly tried it on. It fit, I think. It was on me, so it must fit. I immediately took it off though and shoved it in the back of my drawer. Then I laid down in my bed and 'fell asleep' until my mom knocked on the door and asked me how it fit. "It's fine. I took it off though. I'm tired and I want to go to bed." I wasn't tired, but I did want to go to bed. When I fall asleep, I don't have boobs, I don't have to wear a bra I'm just me and I'm happy. I didn't want to face my mom and answer any more questions about that thing. When I woke up the next day for school, my mom suggested I wear my bra for the first day. NOOOOO how can I wear that thing to school?? Surely everyone is going to notice it under my shirt and know that I'm wearing it! I don't want that! I decided that if I wore overalls, maybe nobody will notice. I wore it one day and decided I didn't want to wear that thing again. So I didn't wear it anymore, I couldn't bring myself to wear it. Once in awhile I'd try it on by myself in my room, to see if I liked it any more, but I never liked it. Never. Unfortunately even though I refused to wear the bra, my breasts continued to grow, and my mom confronted me and told me that I really needed to wear the bra now. (according to my measurements and the help of a book I had, I was already at an AA cup and I was only 11, I hated them at the time, but I'd give anything to go back to that!) After a bit, I got used to wearing the bra, and actually liked wearing it opposed to not wearing it, because then I didn't feel any jiggle in my chest and I could almost forget the breasts were there! I got to the point where I could accept the breast thing. Everything was okay. By that point, all the other girls in my classes were wearing bras, so I didn't feel like such a freak. Still didn't like having to wear one, but at least I wasn't the only one that had to wear one. (although many other girls were actually excited about it) Then.. puberty got even worse... I got my first period.... I had always cringed when my mom would ask me if I had any signs of getting a period, but I could always answer "no" and that was it. What was I supposed to do?? This can't be happening to me!! No way can I just go up to my mom and tell her I got my period! No way, I can't do that!! But how was I supposed to take care of this?? I'm bleeding all over (okay so looking back it wasn't bad at all the first few times, but it was MASSIVE at the time) I decided that if I rolled up toilet paper and just kinda stuck it there, nobody would know. It seemed to work, and all I had to do was make sure I switch the toilet paper a lot. I told myself that next time this thing happened, I would tell my mom I had just gotten it... then next time came around and I still didn't want to tell her, same for the time after that.. and fast forward to age 17... I never told my mom. If she asked about it, I just continued to tell her that I had never gotten it. I'm not sure if she totally believed me, but she seemed to believe me, and I didn't have any 'products' as I was just using toilet paper, so she continued to believe what I told her. She finally made a doctor's appointment for me, thinking something was seriously wrong. Even after she told me that she had made the appointment, and she was really worried something was seriously wrong going on, I still couldn't muster up the courage to tell her I had gotten it years ago... I couldn't let those words slip past my lips, even though I knew she was very worried about me. I felt bad, but I just couldn't do it! The whole car ride to the doctor's office(which isn't very far, but seemed to take forever) I had that song from RENT in my head.. the part that goes "I should tell you..." it wouldn't leave, I was shaking and nervous, I knew I *had* to tell her, I was about to go to the doctor's and have all sorts of tests done to find out what was wrong with me! I can't go through all that, not to mention put my mother through that, and whoever had to do these tests to find out what was going on, 'cause I knew I would be putting them through a huge pain trying to find something wrong that didn't exist. It was killing any other thought, I knew I had to say something, but I just couldn't do it! Not until I was about to go into the doctor's room, like the second I was about to go in there, I told my mom "I got it before" I was frozen as soon as I said it. She was confused, "Got what?" "period" "When?? Why didn't you tell me??" "16, I dunno". I knew that was a total lie, but I didn't want her to think I'd been hiding it for as long as I did.Not only was I trying to convince her I had never gotten it, 'cause I didn't want to talk about it, I was really trying to convince myself I had never gotten it. I don't even remember what age I got it, 11? 12? 13? I blocked it out of my memory completely. I do remember a few months after I had gotten it, thinking, "I wish they could just put testosterone into my body instead, then I wouldn't have a period and I wouldn't have boobs anymore. I'll just be a girl that looks like a boy." At the time, I had no idea what transgender was, or what FTM was or that it was even possible to put testosterone into your body if you didn't produce it yourself. As soon as I found out that you CAN take testosterone, I was like "Wow.. I was half right, if I would have taken testosterone then I wouldn't have a period, It wouldn't have gotten rid of my boobs", but I was probably only a B cup by that point anyway, I could have handled that (I was a C cup by 8th grade, and now I'm a DD... B would be GREAT compared to what I have) So I could have stopped then and started to become more of a boy! I wouldn't have had to worry about getting rid of hair in odd places 'cause boys can keep that hair if they want and it's fine! I wouldn't have a penis like boys who were born boys, and I would still have to have surgery to have a flat chest, but I could have gotten rid of all those years of stress and anxiety!

(Now we get to the point of the post)

Here's where I get really confused though... despite the above, (I bet a few of you were about to say, "DUH, you're FTM! Congratulations!") I don't think I'm really FTM... I *hate* my boobs, one day I will be having a breast reduction, but until then, I'm okay with them being there, as long as I can't feel them move too much. I wear a minimizer bra, and then a tight sports bra or one of those tank tops with the "built in shelf bra" thingo, and I have the jiggle down to a minimum. I still hate that I can *see* them there all the time, and no clothes fit like they should around the chest, but I would be perfectly fine if I had up to a C cup. They wouldn't be as in the way and the jiggle would be even less. I think I could like myself with C cup breasts. I still cringe when my period comes (but I've gotten the diva cup, and it's a life saver, only need to empty it in the morning when I wake up and at night before I go to bed.) Otherwise I forget that I have it. I have it under control. I can deal with it. I wish it was gone, but I make the best of it and it is fine. (Okay crazy chick, you're a GIRL, a girl with a lot of problems, but a GIRL none the less)

It's not as easy as that either... (are your heads spinning yet??) While sometimes I'm happy being a girl, there are certain conditions of 'girl' I would like to change, such as my breasts, but I'm fine being seen as a GIRL, it doesn't bother me, SOMETIMES I just really wish someone would see me as a guy. Sometimes I really just wish I was a guy. When I think of my perfect self, I think of a stereotypical gay guy. That's what I would really love to be seen as. I feel that is REALLY who I am. I want the body and bone structure of a male. I want the little things I just can't have. I want them more than anything and it kills me!

I wear men's jeans, unisex flip flops (they came with both men's and women's sizing, and I've seen them on both genders) and t-shirts or polo shirts. I'll also wear capri style pants or men's shorts. (NOOOO short shorts, they have to at least come to my knee, I don't show my legs) I also do wear women's jeans as long as they don't fit super tight, and I'll wear women's t shirts as long as they aren't tight fitting, but I prefer men's t-shirts overall for the way they fit me.

Many times, I'm quite happy being a girl in men's clothes or a girl in mixed gender clothes, or a girl in tomboy clothes, whatever, but other times I just REALLY want to look like a GUY in men's clothes, a GUY in mixed gender clothes, a GUY in girls clothes. I'm happy with the clothes I wear, I wear whatever I like no matter what section of the store I buy it from as long as it fits! I just hate that sometimes I want to be seen as a guy and that will never happen with my body, I have a girl's body, I have the bones of a girl, I have the fat of a girl, I have the skin of a girl, I have the EVERYTHING of a girl except for the brain... or maybe my brain is of a girl, 'cause sometimes I'm perfectly happy being seen as a girl. I just don't know anymore! I know that I would be *happier* being seen as a feminine GUY, then as the tomboyish girl that I'm seen as now (and sometimes I'm fine with it, sometimes I'm not). I know there's a fine line between the two of them, because I know if I was born in a boy's body I would probably wear pretty much the same clothes! I don't wear makeup, but I do like having my nails painted. I like having nail polish no matter what I'm wearing, if I'm in the mood to wear all men's clothes, I still wear nail polish. Crazy thing is, I want to be the guy with nail polish!

I've thought about transitioning, because I know I'd be happier seen as a guy.. but I know I'll *NEVER* pass as a guy. Well maybe if I dressed extremely masculine, but I don't want to be seen as a super masculine guy, I want to be seen as a feminine guy! I know that will never happen because I'd still want to dress the same as I do now, and even without the breasts, I still have female bones, female hips, smallish hands (but they are the same size as my dad's, but I always thought they were small, maybe not though), TINY feet (I wear a 4 mens, or 6 women's, If I like any shoes I see in the men's department, you can't find a 4, I can wear boy's shoes though, but sometimes they really look like they should be on a little boy!) Also, I know this is going to sound shallow, but it's how *I* feel about myself.. I know if I tried to transition, I wouldn't see myself as a male. I can't change the bones I have, if I had chest surgery, I would have horrible scars and it wouldn't look like a genetic man's chest, I wouldn't have a penis, or a 'normal' one anyway. I will forever see myself as a girl unless a miracle happens. Nothing is going to change THAT, and I know I'll never be seen as the guy I would like to see myself as!

Funnily enough though, on OTHERS, I see their target gender completely. If I see an FTM on youtube or something, I don't think "He has girl bones, he had his breasts removed, etc." I see "MALE", same for MTF, only the other way around. Why can I see it on others and it's completely fine, they look great, etc., yet on myself it's just not going to cut it. I keep thinking, maybe I don't want it enough, it's just maybe a phase, but I don't know. And, it's not like I always want to be a boy, sometimes I'm perfectly happy being a girl, but when I'm not, I really badly want to be a boy. There's very little in between. I just don't know. I think if I had been born a boy I would be happy being a boy all the time, I never have any feeling like "I really want to be seen as a girl" but maybe because I was born a girl, sometimes I just suck it up and go with it. I'm so lost..

Also, for the most part, my family is happy with their strange daughter. My dad was very sad when I cut off my long, almost down to my hips curly hair at my chin a few years back and never grew it long again. It'll get shoulder length and I just can't stand to deal with it any more so I cut to about my chin, maybe a little shorter, in long layers. I think my hair is overall in a female style, but my brother's hair is almost as long as mine and a very similar style. Only difference is, my brother's hair is long, my hair is short. It's all about the gender stereotype.. grrrr... Also, I have this one pair of jeans (I love them, they're really comfy) that are men's jeans, and when my mom found them in the was she didn't know who they belonged to. She hates those pants with a passion, and says "Why do you like to wear those, they're boy's jeans, they weren't made to fit a woman's curves" Well they fit fine thank you very much, pants don't have to hug your body, they sit fine on my hips, they don't fall off of me, I don't see the problem. Once when a lady complimented my jeans, and said they looked cute, my mom yelled out "They're *boys* jeans, I can't stand when she wears them!!" Well boy's jeans don't always have to look boyish, I like pairing them with girlyish cute flip flops (okay, they're not that girly, they're plain flip flops with decorative stitching) and a cute "tomboy fit" t-shirt. I certainly look like a girl still!! I'm sure if I told my parents "I want to be a boy" they would be like "No, you can't be, that's silly, you were always such a cute girl, bla bla bla. You're a girl, you've always been a girl, and you will always be a girl. You're not a boy, maybe it's a phase, maybe you're just a lesbian" I don't think they would really like the idea, maybe accept it, doubt it though, but I don't think they would ever believe it. My family knows I do like men. My mom has blatantly asked me "Are you a lesbian" though, because I wasn't dating anyone for a very long time, so she thought maybe I was hiding being a lesbian. I've never told them "I like men and women, I'm bisexual/pansexual" or any of that, because I don't think it's an issue. It doesn't define who I am at all, I'm me that's all there is to it. I don't need any sort of therapy to get over it or accept it or anything. I'm fine with it. It is what it is. I don't fall in love with a certain gender body, or the body at all, I fall in love with the soul, the real person deep down inside. Afterwards I "love the body" because it is their body, seeing an individual's body reminds me of who they are inside, so when I think "Wow, so and so has really nice eyes" it's not necessarily because "OMG I love their eyes" it's because those are the eyes that belong to that soul. I know, I started rambling, and it prolly didn't make much sense, haha.. Kinda like.. "I don't like you because of your eyes, I like your eyes because of you." maybe that makes it a bit more clear??

ANYWAY, I've rambled on enough and probably made you all think I'm insane, maybe I am... Who knows! I just feel SO confused and lost and so on and so forth, maybe this was the right place to come, maybe I don't really fit in here at all, but maybe there are others out there that feel the same that I do.. maybe.. small chance but maybe.. LOL

If you've made it this far, I give you a pat on the back and an aspirin, as you probably have a headache by now!

[Guest *Elizabeth Anne*]

NOT insane - you are like us - conflicted... and I hate to say this (GRIN) You are going to fit right in!

WELCOME WELCOME WELCOME!

YES - avoid those labels - and if you feel like you do today, stick around and maybe you will feel like something else tomorrow!

HA!

We love the diversity here and we are multi- purposededed (no such word I know)... we provide support - mainly advice and sympathy and shared laughter. Sometimes we even talk about how we are and wonder how the heck we got this way.

The KEY! You are just absolutely 100% OKAY just as you are!

YOU HAD THE LONGEST introduction I can remember! WOW - are you good at expressing yourself - seriously - it was a good look at who you are... and I think you have just come home!

You are among friends - and remember - post post post. This site is not like chat - you may get a ton of readers! Only about 10% may respond - why? Well, many are shy, many agree and never add anything, and many are so lost that they think long and hard on what you wrote... and it does them a world of good, especially to know they ARE NOT ALONE!

So welcome again - and soon all sorts will be here to welcome you - some even have cookies!

Lizzy

[Guest gwenthlian]

Hi Colormyworld

Welcome to the site and I do hope you find what you are looking for here. I thought your introduction was fascinating and it makes such a nice change to feel like you know someone right from the beginning. I really love this line,it struck a bit of a chord.

"I don't like you because of your eyes, I like your eyes because of you."

[Guest Donna Jean]

What's the matter? Cat got your tongue?..................................LOL!

Welcome to the Playground, Honey...

Just tugging your chain a bit!

I'm here with the cookies.....Sally's Double Chocolate Chip.....And to wash them down, some nice hot coco!

Lizzy is so right.....

You are 100% OKAY!

Diversity is what we're all about here......non-judgmental.....caring....fun....we like new people for the new thoughts and ideas that they bring in!

So, you just makeyourself at home ('cause you are!) and lets see who comes by to say "Hi"......OK?

Happy to have you here!

HUGGS!

Donna Jean

[Guest StrandedOutThere]

Hey there and welcome! Don't let my avatar fool you. I'm actually pretty friendly. Sounds like you've had a lot on your mind. I think you'll find some good friends and good conversation around here.

Help yourself to some refreshments. The girls around here are good cooks.

[Sally]

Hey Colormyworld,

We are so glad to have you here.

This is a place where you can belong.

We have everybody here from all points along the gender spectrum so you have plenty of time to figure out exactly where you belong.

Welcome to the family.

Love ya,

Sally

[Guest Joanna Phipps]

Hey colormyworld, appropriate nick for someone with so many flavors , welcome to the forum. You sure are going to fit right in with the rest of us, we all have other issues.. but thats beside the point (which point I have no idea but its beside it).

BTW are you a fan of the band Chicago, the did a beautiful song called Color My World.

Welcome aboard feel free to jump into the rest of the forums when you feel like it, IMHO you may feel more comfortable as androgyn (switching apparent gender as the mood strikes).

[Guest Colormyworld]

*huge sigh of relief* I'm not crazy! *does a happy dance* Okay.. well maybe that's still up for debate, but the gender issue isn't crazy!

haha, Introduction, whole life story.. same difference! I figured if I'm going to say anything, I might as well let everything spill out, everything I've been analyzing, anything that maybe for a second seemed relevant. I just started rolling and didn't stop! LOL I can't believe how much I wrote, honestly. I'm usually a very shy person believe it or not.

I do feel relieved to know that I'm not crazy with my "I feel like a girl, now I feel like a boy" mindset though. I understand feeling one way or the other, but feeling BOTH ways at different times, I'm still trying to wrap my head around! haha

It does kind of sound like androgen might fit me (still not a fan of labels, but sometimes its good to have a name for what you are, even if you don't exactly label yourself that way, just to know that there's others in the same situation haha)

Ironically enough.. I had my ipod on shuffle and "if I was a boy" by Beyonce came on right before "Man I feel like a woman" by Shania Twain... Something fishy is going on.. and it's not just my odd tastes in music... I'm over thinking things again maybe... haha

[Guest *Elizabeth Anne*]

*huge sigh of relief* I'm not crazy! *does a happy dance* Okay.. well maybe that's still up for debate, but the gender issue isn't crazy!

haha, Introduction, whole life story.. same difference! I figured if I'm going to say anything, I might as well let everything spill out, everything I've been analyzing, anything that maybe for a second seemed relevant. I just started rolling and didn't stop! LOL I can't believe how much I wrote, honestly. I'm usually a very shy person believe it or not.

I do feel relieved to know that I'm not crazy with my "I feel like a girl, now I feel like a boy" mindset though. I understand feeling one way or the other, but feeling BOTH ways at different times, I'm still trying to wrap my head around! haha

It does kind of sound like androgen might fit me (still not a fan of labels, but sometimes its good to have a name for what you are, even if you don't exactly label yourself that way, just to know that there's others in the same situation haha)

Ironically enough.. I had my ipod on shuffle and "if I was a boy" by Beyonce came on right before "Man I feel like a woman" by Shania Twain... Something fishy is going on.. and it's not just my odd tastes in music... I'm over thinking things again maybe... haha

Ironic - I moderate - here I am reviewing a reply to MY reply! grin... you are are definately not crazy - ha! Far from it... complicated - conflicted - but not crazy! I am so glad you gor a charge out of this - you are going to fit right in!

Lizzy

[Guest Javey]

Wow. Thats amazing. Like, really. You pretty much just described me. Perfectly accurate. So yeah, TOTALLY FEEL YOU ON ALMOST ALL OF THAT! Your not alone! I think there were only maybe.... 3 or 4? Maybe even less, Parts where we differed.

Your definitely not insane =P just have some figuring out and soul searching to do. But definitely okay!

Welcome to Laura's! Everyone here is real helpful for just that and more! Hope your ready for the feast of E-snacks.....and epic proportions!

[Guest Colormyworld]

Yeah, definitely complicated and conflicted, very much so! I'm glad I've found others like me! Very grateful for that!! I still hate that I feel this way, but I guess many people do, too. I think it might take awhile before I can be fully happy, 'cause it's hard to be happy when your "happy" jumps around so much! ARgh! Yesterday, I was totally regretting posting this.. Ugh! I couldn't believe I had let all this be KNOWN! But, now I'm yet again feeling like "Yeah, I'm glad I got this all out, I think I found a place I belong and I can actually feel a bit normal" (I know, "normal" I'll never be totally normal, but I like it that way! )

I think I'm gonna like it here! (at least for the most part, I think I'll get used to this little secret being out soon enough!)

[Guest *Elizabeth Anne*]

No such thing as normal. Even normal people are not normal.

Even nornal people who are not normal but think they are normal are not normal.

Even normal people who...

Oh you get the idea.

You are you and that is perfectly fine. You are certainly 'NORMAL" for you!

If you woke up and everything was suddenly worked out, you would feel weird. Things would not seem "normal." Silly but sort of true.

Strange world - but we are glad you are in it and sharing yourself with us. Ask us about how we are? We wanna compare notes!

Lizzy

[Sally]

So many people waste so much time trying to be normal which in reality just means average.

And where else in life is average the goal - sports? - business? - Love?

No we want to be first in everything that we do in sports and business and have the best relationships ever - so that isn't average is it?

So why aim for the middle? - aim for the stars!

Only the truly mediocre are at their est all of the time!

Love ya,

Sally

[Guest Colormyworld]

Okay, my bad! Normal is not really the best word choice there! What I really mean is I feel like I fit in here, and I don't feel like such an outcast and a freak, because I know it's all good!

Ooh yes! Let's compare notes!!

(ahh I'm starting to think I'm not so much of a freak, can I handle this? I spent years of my life coming to terms that I *was* a freak, now you tell me I have to come to terms that I'm *not* a freak?? LOL)