Another Talk With Spouse

[gennee]

Last night I shared more things about being transgender with my wife. It was a conversation that was coming up because she sees me dressed much more often. I was telling her that many transgender folks have known they were this way as children. I mentioned again my feelings of being different throughout my life. She listened intently as she tried to understand what I was saying.

I also shared with her that I can be transgender and Christian. It's my prayer that transgender people will take into account their spiritual condition. I do enjoy having these discussions because it helps her to see what it is to be transgender.

Gennee

[Guest AllisonD]

Last night I shared more things about being transgender with my wife. It was a conversation that was coming up because she sees me dressed much more often. I was telling her that many transgender folks have known they were this way as children. I mentioned again my feelings of being different throughout my life. She listened intently as she tried to understand what I was saying.

I also shared with her that I can be transgender and Christian. It's my prayer that transgender people will take into account their spiritual condition. I do enjoy having these discussions because it helps her to see what it is to be transgender.

Gennee

Gennee

How did she take it? Did she accept what you told her at face value, and go with it? Or was she having a little trouble coming to terms with the implications? Sometimes people are open enough, or strong enough, or self confident enough (or maybe some mix of these and other attributes) that they can hear something like this, something that must sound completely off the wall, and roll with it without missing a beat. Others seem to have a great deal of difficulty having a foundation of their belief structure rattled. How does your wife react?

Allison

[Guest Evan_J]

Just so happens, along the way I met this woman who has a website and a lot of her stuff (just an info site, what is trans blah blah) is from the perspective of being very much a christian. She gives talks around the country and has done some workshops. If it helps your wife to see that you hardly are the only one, might be worth letting her pull it up? www. gendertree.com

[Carolyn Marie]

Gennee, it sound like you've got a really good approach to your coming out.

Taking it one step at a time, discussing things calmly, rationally, letting it sink in, giving

your wife time to adjust and adapt. I'm happy that things seem to be going well.

I hope that they continue to go well.

Carolyn Marie

[Guest ~Brenda~]

Honey,

I think it is wonderful that you are doing what you are doing. I do hope your wife isaccepting. It seems like she is since she wants to understand!! She clearly loves you. I have noticed that you really have a very strong sense of yourself and where you are going. I love that!!

Love

Brenda

[gennee]

Gennee

How did she take it? Did she accept what you told her at face value, and go with it? Or was she having a little trouble coming to terms with the implications? Sometimes people are open enough, or strong enough, or self confident enough (or maybe some mix of these and other attributes) that they can hear something like this, something that must sound completely off the wall, and roll with it without missing a beat. Others seem to have a great deal of difficulty having a foundation of their belief structure rattled. How does your wife react?

Allison

She does understand what I say. She is accepting up to a certain point. She does accept that this is a part of me but I think she is trying to decipher how it will affect our relationship. I told her when I first came that our marriage is top priority.

Gennee

[Guest mia 1]

And that's the way it is . Those who aren't gender dysphoric and are attached to us emotionally accept it to a point and then they can't go any further,,,there are exceptions but they are a tiny minority..

What we do about it.? That is the question, that goes un answered.....

[Guest nymphblossom]

Talk, talk, talk, Gennee. Life is all about compromise. You will find a balance that works for you, her and your marriage.

Blossom

[gennee]

Talk, talk, talk, Gennee. Life is all about compromise. You will find a balance that works for you, her and your marriage.

Blossom

I have found it personally. We'll find it regarding my gender status.

Gennee