More With Mom

[Guest Emily H]

So I brought up the subject on the way home from work today, about shopping. She said it would be just fine, she said no matter what it is I am buying when we are out, it is my business and it doens't matter to her.

She told me she was talking with her psychiatric doctors, and asked for some names for this issue, so that i might have somebody to talk to freely about this. She is still waiting on them. I really don't' know how I feel about therapy......I mean...telling all of this to a complete stranger? I just don't want to get judged, i don't' want to explain something the wrong way so they think I am something I'm not...

And my mom asked "What do you get out of this? What does it do for you? Does it just relieve stress?"

Hm. i really had a tough time answering her. I'm not exactly sure what it does for me. I'm much more calm while dressed, and can be way more upbeat and bubbly but.....I don't know exactly what it is doing.

~Andrea

[Guest ChloëC]

Andrea,

This is just my personal opinion. I don't believe a truly qualified competent therapist will (or should) ever judge you. It is my belief that they are there to help you understand yourself, help you determine if you have a problem that needs work on...or not. If you determine you do have a problem, they will try to help you through it, if you want them to. If you don't have a problem, well, that should be the end of it.

However, I don't think I've ever come across anyone that most therapists don't think has a problem. I guess because we're human, that having problems seems to come with the description. And even then, many of our problems can be worked on by ourselves. Sometimes they just need little shoves or pushes or encouragements. Or sometimes additional things might be needed, such as only a professional can provide.

The problem I have is that I think therapists are pretty much like any other population of humans. There are excellent ones, there are pretty good ones, there are... Basically the whole gamut of human activity. And there is no guarantee you will find the excellent one the first time out. And in today's society, still, I think it's hard to find people who would be able to recommend a good (or better) one because few of us feel comfortable explaining our particular situation to casual friends or relatives who might not even know any people they could suggest we contact for recommendations.

So, it comes to some form of trust involved that someone you trust might know someone else who can recommend someone who seems to have a good reputation. Sometimes, that is just a little too much for me to deal with.

It's one thing to admit I may be overstressed or can't get out of bed each morning. It's entirely different, for me at least, to say that I have this ...whatever... to take on feminine appearances.

I guess, if I decided to go to a therapist, I would have a list of questions a mile long I would ask the first time, trying to determine my level of comfort with this stranger.

I do think in the proper setting and for the right reasons, therapy can be highly beneficial. I would just need a lot of assurances. I wish you well.

[Guest mia 1]

Therapy is helpful. It massages your needs and helps answers a lot of questions about why you receive pleasure from cross dressing and other people receive no pleasure nor have an interest in this part of our lives.

You will find out why sometimes you are in denial and other times that your cross dressing will usually go no further than that. Most likely you will not feel the need to transition,so HRT and SRS are almost never part of your life.

You will never be "cured" of this part of your life and from what you have posted you don't seem to want to let go..

So yes go to therapy and see what you already know...therapy for us is confirmation....

One caveat be sure that you have a therapist that is not trying to tell you any negative things about yourself..almost all follow the theories and medical confirmation that there is no way you can be changed...thank god for that!!!!