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Hi everyone!!

Another new girl here. My name is Kacee (actually, it's my nickname. My full name would take up half the page!! lolz).

Anyway, I have recently come out, although I have known my true identity since I was around 5 years old (I am 48 now (eep!!) and recently widowed.) My wife, God bless her soul, was the only one who knew about me for many years and she was very supportive and helpful. I think that really gives me a leg up on transitioning, because she taught me so much about make-up, clothing, etc. During our marriage, I usually dressed in "girl clothes" at home, and, sadly, put on the "boy clothes" to go to work. Because of my profession (I am an auto mechanic) I have been reluctant to come out at work. I'm workin up the courage tho!! It's a great job, and something I love doing, even tho it is hell on my hands!! I work in a small shop (4 other people) and I don't usually see customers, so I don't think my boss has to worry about any issues there. I've been there quite a while and the guys know me pretty well (Hmmm... mebbe not!! lolz) but I'm still scared. I have told some friends and my mom. That was very difficult. We live very far apart, and neither of us is able to travel right now, so I did it over the phone. The jury is still out on it. She was accepting and encouraging when I told her, but that was 4 days ago and in our conversations since, she has said nothing. Dunno. Anywayz, I'll shut up now. Thanks for being here and thanks for letting me in!!

Love

Kacee

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I'm sorry to hear about your recent loss, and you have my sincere condolences. It sounds like

you have a good handle on who you are and where you want to go. We'll do what we can

to help you get there.

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Hello, Kacee,

I am so glad that you have found us, do come in and have a seat.

I'll bring you some cookies and cocoa and let everyone know that you are here.

They tend to take the cookies so you might want to hold on to a couple of them.

We have a good time here as well as learning and supporting each other so welcome to the family.

Love ya,

Sally

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Guest ~Brenda~

Welcome Kacee!!!

Sorry to hear about your wife. She sounded like a wonderful woman. I just you to know that you are safe and welcomed here. So, don't worry hon!!! We are here to help!!

Post to the forums hon!!

Love

Brenda

P.S. We are the same age!!

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Hi Kacee and welcome, i have a good friend and her nickname is KC. I am sorry to hear about your wife, sounds like she was supportive and that was good.

You are by far not the oldest here or the oldest to transition, i started last year at the young age of 56.

HUGS!

Paula

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Guest joeytheman16

Kacee,

Welcome to the Playground! Sorry to hear about your wife. She sounds like an awesome person.

It is my experience that most mechanics, at least here in AZ, are fairly open minded about these kind of things. I am a mechanic too. Just 17 though!

Joey

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Hey everyone!!

Hi & thank you for being so nice!! I need that right now. Things are a lil strange here and I need all the support I can beg, borrow or steal!! lolz

Thank you for the condolences. Yes, my wife was a fantastic girl We had 28 great years together, even tho she was very sick for the last 6. She had a lot of serious medical problems, the worst was lung cancer. That's the one that finally beat her. She died in my arms at home last January and I moved out of that house the next day. I just couldn't stay there any longer. I miss her terribly, but I take (small) comfort in knowing that she is not suffering anymore. We were great friends and had many great times together. I will always cherish those memories. I told her all about me before we were married and she surprised me by being very understanding and supportive. OMG!! The shopping trips we went on!! We drove everyone nuts at WalMart & Victorias Secret on many occasions!!! Oh!! The looks we got!! Not to mention all the goodies we bought!! lol

Anywayz, thank you all for being here. And I hope I can not only learn and grow with your help, but hopefully, I can help someone else out here in some way.

As for the pic, no, I am a singer, not an artist. I didn't draw it, and YES, I do want it as my avatar, if I can ever figger out how to put it there!! (psst.... HELP!!!)

As for my singin, I'd love to post some of my stuff somewhere so y'all can listen and enjoy (I hope!)

I don't write songs, but I think I do pretty good with covering other folks stuff.

Y'all take care and I'll be back shortly!!

Love ya!!

Kacee (BTW, that comes from my initials: Kristina Alexsandria Caitlynne Elisabeth E... (don't want anyone yellin at me for postin my last name!! lol) But PLEASE!!! For God's sake, call me Kacee!!!)

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Guest Jean Davis

Hi Kacee

Try this to put your picture as your avatar

First- have your pic in your computer (somewhere you know where it is like your picture's file or desk top)

Second- click on "my control"(top right of screen)

Third- click on "Edit Avatar Settings"(left hand column about half way down)

Fourth- Go down to "Upload a New Image from your Computer" and click on the "Browse" to find your picture.

Last click on "Update Avatar"

That should do it.

Jean

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Hi Jean!!

I dunno, mebbe it's me. I tried that, but there was no option for uploading from my 'puter. Only options were to pick one from the gallery or to upload from an online url.

Thanks for tryin tho!!

Love

Kacee

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Guest Tammy Maher
Kacee (BTW, that comes from my initials: Kristina Alexsandria Caitlynne Elisabeth E... (don't want anyone yellin at me for postin my last name!! lol) But PLEASE!!! For God's sake, call me Kacee!!!)

Lol one of the neighborhood kids near my house is nicknamed TAHJ. Those are his intials. Pronounced TAAAAAWWWSSSHHHZZZZ. Hehe Welcome Kacee. Enjoy yourself here.

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