Um Um Can You Realize Your Tg At Any Time Of Life

[Guest Emily Violet]

my mom is very un convinced bout me being tg and im going to show her lauras to help her and i want to ask this and for your thoughts on this and it is can you realize your tg at anytime during your life whether you be 1 or 100 i know when i realized right around 4th grade i believe

i just want to make some progress with my family and get my mom to get me a therapist so um please help thank you

[Carolyn Marie]

The first time I can remember thinking "I want to be a girl" I was 7 or 8 years old. That was a LONG time ago.

I suppose its never really gone away. I just thought it did.

Carolyn Marie

[Guest mia 1]

I never thought of the "girl" thing until I was 15 yrs.old.

It can happen at any time..but so many here have these thoughts and knowledge before puberty.

Hope that helps......Mia

[Guest Emily Violet]

i think that like it can happen alot at puberty cuz like first off your finding yourself lus if your like me and wasnt forced into a gender role liek all the sudden being flooded with male hormones feels really weird cuz really theres not much difference for boys and girls as toddlers other than clothes and genitalia but thats pretty much it idk im not a doctor though

[Sally]

Well like so many other things in my life I was pretty happy until I got to school and they ruined my world - told me what I should do and what I should be and took away all of my freedom - I have no fond memories of anything about school other than the people.

I never knew that boys had to try to kill each other to have fun until I went to school and was taught about dodge ball.

I never knew that playing with dolls wasn't allowed and I certainly didn't know that I wasn't supposed to like or even talk to girls.

I learned a lot in school, basically how to be totally intolerant of anything or anyone who is different - what a wonderful lesson to teach the children.

I found out at the age of 5.

Love ya,

Sally

[Guest Nikki A]

I was seven or eight, and really confused! Lol. Spent the rest of my life until recently hiding it! I think it could happen at any time, but more likely pre-puberty. It is also no suprise ur mother doubts u, she is just holding on to the little boy she had. For me it was all an act! So I call him the actor.

Hugz, Nikki

[Guest Emily Violet]

i hid it pretty well to like i felt really bad bout wanting it cuz my mom told me how much she wanted a son

[Guest Evan_J]

I was dissatisfied with being a girl and wanted to be a boy in that way you hear children say "maaan, I wish I was 'x'" when talking about somethingthey wish they were doing, HOWEVER I didn't in "I need to have a sex change" type words have that clear connection and determination till I was 24. Were there a million things along the way that "should have told me"? Sure. In hindsight. The most glaring of which are that I fit in no way at all with my birth sex socially; even when they meant to include me and tried I was an "ill fit"; that I clearly felt; and they picked up on and it was "awkward" always. Whenever I was expected to respond/react/act in a way consistent with the birth sex teachers, employers, heck dates all experienced "dissatisfaction", "disturbance", "clash" with me. I also had a very telling recurrent dream that happened through my teen years that CLEARLY depicted literally being trapped in a body that others approved of and even that didnt' put the words in my brain. But I wasn't raised to think people experience a pattern of feelings and thoughts and so thats what takes people to the determination to change sexes. I wasn't exposed to ANY of that. So I COULDN'T figure it out and I think thats true of most people unless you put them online looking at transgender sites at 8 and sit them in from of discovery channel documentaries. Was I suddenly knowledgable of those matters at 24? No, not particularly. But being more mature I could distinguish the need more exactly.

[Guest Emily Violet]

i hit puberty really early actually like at 10 or 11 and like remember not fitting in with the boys and feeling more comfortable with the girls idk my moms in major denial and is coming upw ithe very thing to prove that im not i remember feeling around 4th grade really strongly wanting to be a girl and it didnt go away idk if i ever felt that before than

[Guest AshleyRF]

I knew I didn't feel like a boy in my earliest memories. I had to be around 4 or so. I was staying with my aunt and cousin while my parents where at work. My cousin was a few years older than I was so she was around 7 or so and she was getting to be all girlie and got to do all these girlie things like ballet and girl scouts. I was so jealous of her because when I asked if I could go do those things I was told that they were only for girls and not boys. I think that was the start of all my anger I had so much of later in life (especially through my teen years).

I suppose you could figure it out later in life, but I think the feelings of being "different" are probably always there in some way or another. Some people just don't understand it as soon as others.

[Guest Emily Violet]

i liked like the theater alot like balet and all that and romeo and juliet was my favorite play

[Guest rachael1]

My first memories of wanting to be a girl where at around the age of 5 or 6.

I repressed these desires for many years upon reaching puberty.

They never went away and are now back with a vengeance.

You are doing the right thing trying to deal with your TG nature rather than pretending it doesn't exist.

Hopefully your mother will let you see a therapist.

Good luck

Rachael

[Guest N. Jane]

I was a pretty normal girl up until about age 8 and thought adults were just kind of silly for thinking otherwise. From 8 to 13, I was just confused by the whole thing, no longer knowing what I was. Puberty was tumultuous, some male development and some female, but emotionally totally girl, which was even more confusing. As soon as SRS became possible, I leapt into the unknown and found out I had been right all along, just totally natural girl.

But that was me. Others seem to drift into it over time.

[Guest angie]

I first became aware at three that something wasn't right.

At four when I saw my baby sister being changed,that is

when I knew what was supposed to be between my legs.

Told my parents at five,at a birthday party,that I was a girl.

Tried to tear my genitals off at eight,I hated them that much.

Started wearing girls clothes at eleven because it felt so right.

At sixteen I grew my hair out and dressed androgynus to express my female.

At twenty one,I said to myself I knew who I am supposed to be.

At thirty four made the decision to raise my children to adults,

and forego my want to become the woman I knew I was.

At forty seven I came out to the world about my true gender.

At fifty one I started taking the medicine to change my body.

At fifty three I have lived female for the last two years.

Sweety,that should tell your momma you know who you are,

and she isn't going away.

Big Hugs,

Angie

[Guest AllisonD]

I knew when I was 4 or maybe 5. I remember distinctly the event that made me think about it at all, and the discussion I had later with my mom, but I didn't come out then. It took another year or so before I came out. And then I came out repeatedly, got punished and repressed, and tried again, year after year, each time we changed schools (I am an Army brat. we moved a lot).

By the time I was starting 9th grade I refused to be repressed any longer, regardless of consequences, and things got really ugly. But I adapted where I had to at home, took the consequences everywhere else, and was the happiest I could possibly have been in that era - with no support, no information at all. I was alone in my beliefs about my identity, but I managed.

Allison

[Guest praisedbeherhooves]

my mom is very un convinced bout me being tg and im going to show her lauras to help her and i want to ask this and for your thoughts on this and it is can you realize your tg at anytime during your life whether you be 1 or 100 i know when i realized right around 4th grade i believe

i just want to make some progress with my family and get my mom to get me a therapist so um please help thank you

I realized over time sort of. I perceived myself as a guy by the age of three because when I found out I was biologically female at three years old I threw a huge tantrum. I spent the next five years feeling very confused and knowing something was reallly wrong. I read at 8 about penis envy and, being only a little kid, misunderstood it to believe that all women literally and conciously wanted a penis. I thought I was normal until I was 10 and learned that penis envy is not literal. Then I was basically really confused again. From eleven to thirteen I thought I was androgynous though I didn't know the word for it. I kept silent and just called myself a lesbian. When I was thirteen I realized I was just a boy conclusively.

[Guest angie]

This young ladies Mom is going to be in for an awakening when

she reads all these posts.This is real validation of her claim for

who she knows she is.I only hope her momma reads them with

an open mind and takes in all our experiences as fact.And decides

that her daughter is better off a healthly happy girl than trying to

maintain the facade of who she is not.

Angie

[Guest Emily Violet]

me 2 i hope she does