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[Guest kerryl13]

Hi everyone, Im trying to find myself, I'm pretty sure that I'm transsexual but I'll let a therapist help me decide that. Ive never done research on or become familiar with gender issues throughout my life so far I always just thought that I must be a cross dresser. I started wanting to wear girls cloths and makeup before I was 9 yrs old. I didnt really start doing it regularly unitl I reached my teens. I cross dressed to school every day under my guy clothes which was fun but kind of distanced me from others because I was scared of getting caught. Well now I'm 30 and things have started to change a bit for me because I'm really starting to feel compelled ever more so to become more feminine. Ive always felt this way though, I wish I could just turn into a woman I would be so happy... The main thing that is really holding me back is: How could I out myself to family and friends, I think it would be really awkward and what if I get rejected omg! that would suck. The other thing I think about is what if I decide to transition but I don't become passable as a female, I dont think I could live with myself. Those are my two biggest concerns that I think about all the time; they are not neccessarily questions for anyone but I would love to see you share your input!

[Sally]

Hey, I just dropped in and noticed a new member.

So glad that you have come to the playground and the forums.

I wanted to make sure that we had plenty of cookies and hot cocoa for the new members.

So have a couple and a cup and wait for the others to come by.

Welcome to the family.

Love ya,

Sally

[Paula ult]

Hi Kerry and welcome to Laura's Playground,

The welcoming committee is in a top secret undisclosed location so i will ask you to come sit in the comfy chair and offer you coco and Sally's special cookies while we wait for others to say hello.

Outing to parents and friends is hard at first but does get easier each time, at least for me it has, you must be prepared, you could lose friends family and job along the way or like me i have virtually lost nothing yet and i am out to everyone except work.

Is passing important, for me somewhat, but just finally being me is so much more important, i am 57 and started transition last year and for the first time in 57 years am at peace with myself. hormones can do wonders as far as making you passable.

The first thing you need to do is find a gender therapist and let them help guide you. Here is a link for you.

http://www.lauras-playground.com/gender_therapists.htm

HUGS!

Paula

[Guest rachael1]

Hi Kerry,

Welcome to Lauras.

You have come to the right place to ask questions and find support.

This is a great place and you will like it here.

Enjoy Sally's cookies they are really yummy.

Your concerns about transitioning are understandable as there is always the risk of losing friends and loved ones, however only you can make the decision whether the end result is worth that risk.

Once you see a therapist I am sure that they will help you with this.

Hugs

Rachael

[Guest Jean Davis]

Hey Kerry

Welcome to the family. Soo nice to meet you.

I see you have meet some of our sisters, they are realy nice and have such good advice..

The only thing that I can add that hasn't been said is that you will know when the time is right. And don't rush, take your time, get all of your questions answered. When you feel comfortable everything will progress so much smoother, and you'll feel that much better about yourself.

But if you do happen to run along a bump on your trip, we'll always be there to help you over it.

LUV

Jean

[Guest ricka]

Welcome Sweetie! First of all this is a safe place to be yourself. And perhaps a first place to come out as yourself and begin to feel comfortable. Hun, coming out is like wearing a bra---it is all about comfort!

For some of us coming out to family may never be safe. You get to pick and choose and you get to take it a step at a time.

You'll find tips for hair and make-up and clothes here but like the old adage says, you are as beautiful as you feel.

hugs and kisses, Ricka

[Guest Kayliegh]

Welcome Kerry!

We've all been in the same boat as you - you're not alone!

As mentioned above, find a good GT and they'll help you sort things out!

Hugs!

Kayleigh

[Carolyn Marie]

Welcome to Laura's, Kerry. I see you've met my wonderful sisters already and

they've gotten you refreshments and some good advice to go with it.

So, you're all set then!

Be sure and check out the resource pages and poke around the forums to find

topics that you find interesting. You will see that there really are so many people

who have had the same questions and the same concerns as you. It is a liberating

thing to find others who share these issues with you. You won't feel so isolated and

alone, and that is why this site is so great.

Carolyn Marie

[Guest ~Brenda~]

Welcome Kerry!!

Hi sweetie, I am so glad that you have found Laura's. Please, feel welcome and come in an enjoy yourself here.

Hon, we all have worries and concerns. So don't feel that you are alone in all of this.

I too have my own worries and fears. All I can suggest (because I tell it to myself everyday) is to just take things slow and take your time.

For the longest time, I was convinced that I would never think of coming out to my parents. I was sure that they would not ever accept me. I was completely wrong on that. I recently came out to my parents and they completely accept me.

Just take things one day at a time hon. When the time to come out to your folks presents itself, you will know.

HUGS

Brenda

[Guest jaymie]

Hi everyone, Im trying to find myself, I'm pretty sure that I'm transsexual but I'll let a therapist help me decide that. Ive never done research on or become familiar with gender issues throughout my life so far I always just thought that I must be a cross dresser. I started wanting to wear girls cloths and makeup before I was 9 yrs old. I didnt really start doing it regularly unitl I reached my teens. I cross dressed to school every day under my guy clothes which was fun but kind of distanced me from others because I was scared of getting caught. Well now I'm 30 and things have started to change a bit for me because I'm really starting to feel compelled ever more so to become more feminine. Ive always felt this way though, I wish I could just turn into a woman I would be so happy... The main thing that is really holding me back is: How could I out myself to family and friends, I think it would be really awkward and what if I get rejected omg! that would suck. The other thing I think about is what if I decide to transition but I don't become passable as a female, I dont think I could live with myself. Those are my two biggest concerns that I think about all the time; they are not neccessarily questions for anyone but I would love to see you share your input!

Hi hon. I know what you are saying...so much of what you wrote describes how I feel (it was like we could be sisters). 3here are some great ladies and guys here, and it's a great place to come to see you are not alone...so welcome.

Hugs

Jaymie