Genderconfused 16 Year Old Joins The Ranks

[Guest Captain Troy]

Yoyoyo, hey, y'all. I'm Troy, 16 year old born female, majorly confused about my gender, and I decided to sign up here to see whether I could get some help with figuring it all out. I feel a bit more "normal" already, seeing all of the other newbie's posts.

Here's what gets to me. I enjoy dressing in a male roll, but can also dress female. Some days I feel like a Troy, and some days I don't mind my birth name at all.

Depending on how I feel, I will either cringe or not care when my mom calls me her daughter.

For instance, today I dressed up in a girl's tee shirt and a pair of skinnier jeans that I painted flowers and stuff on so it looked pretty feminine. Another day, I was super intent on walking, talking and dressing like the guys, because on that day it just felt right.

I've been looking into all of the different terms, but I haven't yet found one I feel suits me. I have been experimenting with different ways of presenting, trying to see what feels good, but it all seems to shift around quite a bit.

How can I help myself to understand it all a bit better?

[Guest ~Brenda~]

Welcome Welcome Troy!!!

Welcome to Laura's Playground!!! Sweetie, just relax, you do not have to try to pigeon hole yourself into any label. Just be yourself and enjoy all the things you like to do and all the ways you like to present yourself!!! Everything is fine!!!

To learn more about yourself, read the forums, and most importantly, POST, POST, POST to the forums hon!!!!

Love and HUGS

Brenda

[Guest Elizabeth K]

You are what you are. It comes together eventually, so just accept accept accept yurelf right now. Don't look for labels... see a gender therapist somewhere along the line - find out your options - it's really liberating!

WELCOME

Lizzy

[Guest Jean Davis]

Hi Troy

Welcome to the playground.

As for your gender confusion, give yourself some time, do some research, experiment a little (with clothing styles) and you'll find your answers soon enough. This really isn't something that you would want to rush into, take your time.

And if you have any questions or comments you would like to share we would love to hear them.

So Post, and don't worry we've all been where you are now.

LUV

Jean

[Carolyn Marie]

Welcome, Troy!

Please step into the member's lounge and grab a slice of pepperoni pizza and some soda, or do you

prefer Monster? Whatever you want. Relax and enjoy.

This is a great place to meet people, have fun, learn about yourself and express yourself. Post in

the forum's, hang in chat, and be yourself. We don't judge anyone, and we keep this place safe.

We're glad you found us. Welcome to your new home.

Carolyn Marie

[Sally]

Hey there Troy,

You have gotten good advice already, don't be in a hurry to decide and the only label that matters is human!

Sit down I see Carolyn Maria has brought some hot pizza for you, as soon as the others smell the pizza they'll know that we have a new member in the lounge.

Work with a gender therapist, read all of the forums and ask questions - that's how to find your place on the gender spectrum.

Welcome to the family.

Love ya,

Sally

[Guest Captain Troy]

Thanks all for the warm welcome.

I'm already seeing a therapist for anxiety and depression, and I just told her that I was confused about my gender earlier this week.

Her response was surprise, and she said perhaps we should meet more often.

I'm more of a lemonade person myself, but I'll certainly help myself to a slice of the pizza

I'll read the forums and stuff.

Nice to meet you!

[Guest Joanna Phipps]

Thanks all for the warm welcome.

I'm already seeing a therapist for anxiety and depression, and I just told her that I was confused about my gender earlier this week.

Her response was surprise, and she said perhaps we should meet more often.

I'm more of a lemonade person myself, but I'll certainly help myself to a slice of the pizza

I'll read the forums and stuff.

Nice to meet you!

Brings a big tray of ribs and burgers, she knows the others will be along soon and this might turn into a party. Unlocks the bar and turns on the taps (any soda or nonalcy beverage you wish). Welcome aboard, take your time figuring out what is right for you and how you wish to express yourself. By all means find a gender therapist in your area and start working with them to figure things out.

How do we keep the mail service in business? POST POST POST

[Guest Kayde]

I understand, Troy! I'm the same exact way. I am happier dressing and acting as a boy, but sometimes I find it fun to be girly.

I'm confused, but like the others said, find a gender therapist! I know i am !!!

[Guest AlexiThink]

Welcome Troy!

I understand how you feel. I often feel happier identifying as a boy, and cringe when people refer to me as a girl. But some days I just feel indifferent to my gender. When your feelings about who and what you want to be shift, its hard to figure yourself out. Hopefully talking about this to your therapist will help, and maybe your therapist can also get you in contact with some more useful resources.

Alex