Email From My Best Friend

[Guest Natalie92]

So, my best friend and I have had a few errors of communication lately and I thought at one point she said she was creeped out by me being transgender. Tonight she sent me the following email:

Dear ***,

I'm sorry that you thought that being who you are creeped me out and I'm also sorry I wasn't able to have the oppurtunity to tell you earlier. I want to take this time to confess that it did bother me a bit at first, because I was caught completely off guard. Please remember that I can't ever understand what you're going through and I can't always help you, but I love you and don't want to see you getting hurt again. That means I hearby ban you from ever saying you should kill yourself. Forget that I told you to a million times Freshman year. I don't ever want to lose you, and right now I'm getting worried. I know that you don't like hearing this, but you need to talk to a doctor. I'm sorry if your previous ones only cared about money, but you really need to find someone. I know you want to wait until college, but I wonder if you'll make it. If you want to be a girl, you need to live. I know that lately I've been demanding space, but that's becuase of band, field hockey, and school taking away my me time. I need that, even though it means you can't get everything you need to say to me said. It will only be for a little while longer, then we can go back to normal, OK? I'll even help you out so you can become a girl. We can go to the mall then get some sushi once Field Hockey's over, how's that sound? Then you can telll me everything. Until then remember: It's ok to be yourself, It's ok to be yourself. Because you are you. Because you are you. (and yes, I see the smile on your face from reading that)

Love,

Your best friend ***

[Guest CharliTo]

awwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww

omg, that is a sweet letter... *hug*

Yeah...I had really close friends who were creeped out in the beginning too but eventually they noticed they didn't mean to do it and tell me that the truth is that they want me to be me too....

*hug*

[Sally]

That is so sweet!

Natalie, you have a very special friend there and I believe that you know that, after field hockey is over be sure to pay for her sushi - she has earned that.

She admits that she can never understand but then shows that she totally empathizes.

So wise for such a young girl.

Thinks are looking so much better now aren't they?

Love ya,

Sally

[Guest angie]

Hey Natalie,

That was a very well thought out response by your best friend.

It takes time for others to adjust to the reality of you having to

be honest about who truly you are.Give her that space,and you

will have the best friend a girl could ask for.And a shopping buddy.

Not understanding,is part of our journey.What you will get from

her is just as,if not more important,Acceptance.And She is right.

No more words of ending it all.You have so much to live and look

forward to.A lifetime of being who you are,a woman.Please get the

help she suggested.Let's see that pretty girl that is waiting to happen.

Soft Warm Hugs,

Angelique

[Guest Edu]

Are you aware of the treasure a friend like this is? Maybe that's obvious, but I think it's worth pointing out, just for case.

Patience, patience, patience... I can't say it enough. When coming out, patience is the best virtue to have for any of us: most often it takes people a lot of time and effort to understand and accept us. If you are surprised about this, just think how long do we take, on average, to understand and accept ourselves. So your friend is doing quite a great job on the understanding & acceptation task. I know it may be hard, but you just need a bit of patience and things will most likely go fine

Regards,

Ethain