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Hi Y'all!! I'm Still Alive And (mostly) Well Here!!


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Hi everyone!!

Just wanted to drop a note in here and let everyone know that, despite those nasty rumors, I haven't gotten abducted by Martians!! I do sincerely apologize for neglecting my friends and my duties here (yea, somebody's gotta play the piano for y'all!!). I have been soooooo busy at work and have been having some major changes in my living arrangements. I am currently in the process of moving, and we all know what a huge headache that is!! Between workin upwards of 80 hours a week and tryin to cart my worldly possessions over hill & dale, I have been so worn out that I can usually just barely crawl into bed, let alone fire up this monster and try to type coherently for more than 5 minutes. Many nights this past week, I haven't even made it to the bed. Got as far as the sofa and crashed. Anyhoo, to all my dear friends and all the new arrivals I've missed, I am very sorry. I miss y'all and hope to get my situation(s) under control shortly, so I can get back into the swing of things here. I love you guys & gals and need to get back in my groove here. It's midnite here, I'm gonna crash again. Y'all take care and I will be back soon!!

Love, huggs & kisses!!

Kacee

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Guest ~Brenda~

Kacee babe,

Don't worry about a thing. Do what you have to do and know that we will always be here for you sweetie :)

I am glad that you posted that you are still OK!

Love you hon,

Keep posting when you can :)

Brenda

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Hey Kacee,

Good to hear from you - I never believed those Martian rumors, I got a call from Elvis and he said that if they had abducted you he would have seen you already.

Well you have your sofa and I have the evil chair - I think I'll try for the bed tonight.

Love ya,

Sally

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Kacee! Thanks for the update. I'm glad to hear that things are going well for you.

But Hon, you just HAVE to learn how to relax, OK?

Anyway, we'll hold the fort down here, and you take care of yourself and report back after you have

navigated all those hills and dales (what is a "dale" BTW?).

We will be right here with cookies and cocoa, and maybe even a slice of pizza, if Donna Jean doesn't

grab it first! :P

Carolyn Marie

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Guest Leigh T

Welcome back, Kacee. We haven't met since I arrived nearly a month after you did. I hope life slows down for you in the near future so you have the opportunity to catch your breath.

Leigh

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Hi Y'all!!

Thanks for all the wonderful replies!! I am so glad to have you all here.

Well, not by my choice, but my life has slowed way down. Matter of fact, it came to a screeching halt on Monday. Long story short, y'all have heard the old line about working yourself to death? well, I think I just proved that it actually IS possible. I spent a week in the hospital for a work related injury that was very painful and quite uncomfortable. My doctors got it figured out and treated me for it and that is well on it's way to clearing up. Unfortunately, while they were doing their jobs investigating me, they came across something totaly unrelated that has caused and abrupt change in my life. Also unfortunately, the Dr who informed me of this "problem" apparently missed class the day they taught compassion. With no warning or any sugarcoating, I was informed that a cancerous growth had been found in my left kidney and when would I like to schedule surgery to have the kidney removed? Needless to say, I was and still am crying and screaming about this. Nothing like being told "We fixed the hangnail, but we have to drastically alter the rest of your life" Tonsils, appendix, broken ribs, been there, done that. One, maybe two weeks and I'm back to work and back to life. THIS???? Besides that big "C" word, we're talking MONTHS of recovery from MAJOR surgery!! And who knows what after that!!! I am so mad I could chew steel, spit nails and pound 'em in with my fists!!! I am scared, mad, lonely, depressed, worried, unsure, and just downright upset. These are emotions that are alien to me. I have always lived on the edge, never worrying or caring about falling off. That whole "no guts, no glory" attitude. I have no idea how to handle this. I was discharged from the hospital yesterday. Since then, I have been crying, have had no sleep, about 30 cups of coffee, and smoked almost 2 cartons of cigarettes. Prolly a good thing I don't drink!! LOL

Anyway, thanks for letting me get this off my mind. I do feel a lil better and I know all you guys & gals will help me get through this.

I love you all

Kacee

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Oh, no, Kacee, that's horrible! OMG I'm so sorry to hear that.

I know it doesn't make it any better, but if you hadn't gotten hurt, the doctor's might not have found the tumor in time.

All of us here will be pulling for you and hoping for the best. You have my love and support.

You are not alone, Honey. Not for a moment. We're all of us right there with you, whether you can see us or not. You can feel us.

Love and a BIG HUG

Carolyn Marie

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Guest Melanie N

Kacee,

I am so sorry to hear that diagnosis. I have several family members and friends who have gone through similar ordeals. It's your friends and family that help out the most! My best wishes and blessings to you.

Melanie

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I am so sorry to hear that you are having health issues.

But as you know we are all here for you and we will be with you in spirit and in our prayers so get those second opinions and then do what you need to do.

Love ya,

Sally

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Guest Jean Davis

I'm right here with you honey.

Your not going to be able to drive me away, so just keep PMing me and we'll get through this together.

LOVE YOU

Jean

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Guest ~Brenda~

Hugs my dearest.

I hope and pray that everything will turn out just fine. I am here if you need to talk about anything.

Love and support for you.

Holding your hand

Brenda

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Kacee,

I am sorry to hear about you being sick, i had a friend that had what you had, she had the kidney removed and lived a normal life until she died of natural causes at the age of 79.

You will be in my thoughts and prayers.

HUGS!!!!!

Paula

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