Hi There

[Guest Brizy]

Hello!

First, I myself, am not anything but bisexual, but my girlfriend now boyfriend is ftm and I encouraged them to find support and they did so I am here to do the same. We've been together for a few years now, but we're not the sort of people who keep track so about 2 years, most likely

I'm here to get the right perspective on some of these new hardships that are facing us so we can cope more gracefully than we have been.

[Sally]

Hi Brizy,

It is so good to have you hear, we don't get that many partner's here but the ones that do come in are always welcome.

It is a special person that tries to understand what we are feeling and that makes you very special to us.

So come on in and have a seat in this comfy chair and I will bring you some cocoa and fresh baked cookies.

Welcome to the family.

Love ya,

Sally

[Guest Leigh T]

Welcome Brizy. What a kewl name! I'm sure you'll find we are all just normal people having to go through extraordinary means to have a fulfilling life. Many of us are veterans of that struggle and have an idea what you two are experiencing. I hope you find Laura's a place to unwind and derive strength. We're all happy to have you both here.

Leigh

[Guest Elizabeth K]

WELCOME

You are not in that uncommon of a situation. I am in a supposrt group in New Orleans - and I meet many FTMs - many - over half - were in a Lesbian relationship when they were diagnosed trans and opted to transition. There are all sorts of reactions that occur - which if you think about it is natural - after all, we are just people. And some transmen are able to maintain their love and deep connection with their partners, some cannot.

Its like me - married to my wife 11 years in November. She is grudgingly acceptive - but isn't sure she can handle being one of two women in the house - eventually. I use the word eventually, as that applies to you as well. Your partner will transition very slowly - so slow you probably won't notice it phsically for a while. You will discover you are either in true love with the person (whatever gender) or you are simply in love with the body. So that is the major hurdle.

And my therapist is an older Lesbian who came out late, as did I as trans. So we talk about the relationships between the Lesbian community and the Trans community. It isn't always as rosey it seems. What she calls the militant Lesbians feel that if you are a woman you have to be born that way. Apparently the newer gereration is more tolerant. I have always used a phrase from a trans site for voice training: "One is not born a woman, one becomes one." The arguement is we are assigned male or female at birth. We are then able to learn to adapt in society as either a 'man' or a 'woman' - if everything works as society feels it should. In transpeople we have gender issues as well as sexual orientation issues, so it gets complicated. There is what the world needs to comprehend - transpeople are about gender, not so much as sex.

So I asked if as a t-girl I would ever be accepted by the Lesbian community? Maybe She accepts me - her partner accepts me, the trans FTM I know accept me - but it will never be 100%. But it is not 100% acceptance in the non-gender dysphoric community - or Lesbian community - or especially the male Gay community. Most people just don't 'get' us. All I can hope for is unconditionsal support, never understanding.

Again that applies to you - regardless of your sexual orientation (a phrase I hate - we are just people! We love whom we love! DANG). You can give him unconditional support - and in your case, unconditional love. That's what he needs - especially now that he has come out (again) this time as a transperson - and is riding an emotional roller coaster, not only on any hormone treatments, but also on the need for self acceptance - and the reactions of others.

So to answer your question - yes, it can be rocky. Now is the chance to love him or abandon him. It's always those selfish choices that are the hardest to make.

Hope this helps

Elizabeth

Update - went back after I posted. You are bi - so I missed that. That makes it more interesting? More complicated for sure. Grin - anyway - same lecture applies I think. You may want to post and get more than 5 done - you then can PM people on the site. Zabrak, one of our moderators, is an almost fully transitioned FTM and is bi - and has been in a relationship with a non- trans bi male. Rocky Road Ice Cream was named after us...

[Guest Shane_82]

Welcome

~ Shane

[Guest Donna Jean]

Hi, Brizy!

Well, good 'ole Donna Jean is late again!

But, that won't stop me from welcoming you to the Playground!

Please look about and read all that you care to...

Everyone here is friendly and helpful as you can already see!

It's nice to have you here, Hon....

HUGGGGS!

Donna Jean

[Guest Robin Winter]

Welcome to Lauras. You picked a great spot to open up!

*Hugs*

Shi

[Carolyn Marie]

Welcome to Laura's, Brizy.

It is such a great thing that you are supportive enough of your partner to want to

learn how to help him by educating yourself. Such love and understanding is a

rare thing in this world.

Please make yourself at home here. There is a forum just for signifidant others (S.O.)

but you are welcome to explore and post in any forum. There is also a scheduled S.O.

live chat session as well.

We are very glad you found us.

Carolyn Marie

[Guest Gus_bus]

Hello every one im new here and just wanted to say Hi

[Guest A.S.]

Welcome!

A.S.