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Why isn't anybody intrested in answereing my question, entitled " What do I do" I would like to know if someone could answer it and maybe elaborate with their own stuff. Or is it that people just like to go on here and pregnant dog their own stuff?

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It's the one entitled "Hey"

This topic is entitled "Hey" but I don't see any question "What do I do". What seems to be your problem?

MaryEllen

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This topic is entitled "Hey" but I don't see any question "What do I do". What seems to be your problem?

MaryEllen

Since I came out 3- days ago I don't seem to have any ambition to want to do my homework or anything. I go to a Univ. and if I don't do any of my homework I'll certainly flunk out. Also, I have been wanting to go to Cosmetology School or a nail tech. Do you think just suddenly dropping out of college to pursue that is foolish considering that I dont think it makes that much money, and I'll need money for what I want to do.

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Since I came out 3- days ago I don't seem to have any ambition to want to do my homework or anything. I go to a Univ. and if I don't do any of my homework I'll certainly flunk out. Also, I have been wanting to go to Cosmetology School or a nail tech. Do you think just suddenly dropping out of college to pursue that is foolish considering that I dont think it makes that much money, and I'll need money for what I want to do.

Melisa, if you have the intelligence to get into a university, I strongly encourage you to start working and utilizing those skills to

give yourself a real career. Being a cosmetologist is an honorable job, but it isn't a profession. You could make, over the course

of a working career, 10 times what you could as a cosmetologist with a bachelors or masters degree in any field.

Don't throw away your future because of your excitement over coming out.

In answer to your question - yes, I think it would be foolish. Very.

Carolyn Marie

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Melisa,

I work at a University and I know that your earnings in a lifetime will be 1 to 2 million dollars greater with a Graduate Degree. Did you know that you could be accepted into a graduate program and receive a tuition waiver as well as a stipend of 20K or more while you attend school for a PhD? Even if you decided to become a lowed paid teacher the starting pay at a decent university will be around 80K. If you did research and published papers you could make upwards of 200K. Professors only teach around 6 to 8 hours a week plus hold office hours. If you add in grading papers you total hours in week would be around 20 - 30 max.

You can always take care of friends hair and nails if your are compelled to do that. Just my 2 cents.

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Melisa,

Carolyn just wrote - "Being a cosmetologist is an honorable job, but it isn't a profession. You could make, over the course of a working career, 10 times what you could as a cosmetologist with a bachelors or masters degree in any field."

While in many cases that would be true, a very VERY good nail tech can make in the upper five figures (or more), and considering that nail places are popping up like fresh popcorn all over the place, getting into ownership and multiple shops, and there is something to be said about it.

My daughter is just finishing a nail tech course in expectation of getting her licence/certificate shortly. (and works full/part time at a day spa, so she is aware of the market). The cost isn't anywhere near a 4 year degree, but the very beginning income isn't that much either. She tried college and decided it wasn't for her, and considering that the current job market makes switching careers numerous times more likely in one's lifetime, it's as good as any to start.

Not that I'm saying it will work for you or anyone in particular, just that you should investigate whatever is available to you, and decide what you want to do. Getting into a job you'll stay in, because you can deal with it, can mean more then trying for a field you may find you don't enjoy and have to start over.

Chloë

ps. Carolyn, my other daughter has her degree from a Big 10 U, my spouse will be getting her degree this semester, my son after 6 years military and 5 years work is now attending college part time and should have his in 2-3 years. I have both a BS and Masters. So there is something to be said for college degrees too.

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Guest Emily H

Melissa, I would very much suggest to use your best judgment. Earn money from getting a job after college and then look into maybe free/extra courses to learn how to do cosmetology, but while you are young it might not be the best starting job, since it would not make as much as pretty much any job you will earn after getting a good degree in college.

Either way, DO pursue cosmetology, just focus on other things right now.

~andrea

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