Do You Do Drag?

[Guest Sally Stone]

The term "Drag" seems to have mostly negative connotations in the transgender world. I actually think that is too bad. I actually have a lot in common with drag queens in spite of the fact that I usually identify myself as a heterosexual crossdresser. Drag, I think, is mostly misunderstood. When we think of the term, we think of the flamboyant gay performers who sensationalize the female form. While it's true many drag queens do exactly that, so many more are just ebracing and showcasing style and fashion. They choose the feminine fashion scene because it is so much more exciting and interesting than anything masculine.

These are drag queens I identify with. These girls understand the true joy of fashion. It's all about fashion and style and they truly have fashion sense. Why would I wear a gray suit and wingtips when I can wear a short skirt and sexy pumps instead? Male clothing is drab and uninteresting. It doesn't excite me. It's simply functional-nothing else. Female clothing on the other hand is bright, colorful, and so much more fun. It has sex appeal and it goes way beyond functionality. And of course it's not just the clothes. There are also bright red lips, long lashes, colorful eyes, rosy cheeks, and coiffed locks.

I've been asked many times why I like to go out in public dressed as a woman. What is the motivation for such activity? This desire transends crossdressing. As a crossdresser I can feel great and attain a great amount of joy simply by dressing as a woman in the privacy of my home. This doesn't satisfy me though. I need to showcase my style and the only way to do that is go out in public. I want to share my fashion sense with the rest of the world. I want them to see the color and the flair. In essence, I am a performer, and I need the public as my audience. I believe this need to express my fashion sense is what makes me less of a crossdresser and more of a drag queen. I say don't be afraid to give in to your inner drag queen. You know you want to!

Any thoughts ladies?

[Guest joan eden]

I agree mens colthing is very drab. I've had women tell me this.I love dressing at home but I really love going out.I go shopping mostly at thrift stores. I have been to the local malls to test myself ,to see if I pass.I do pretty well.Trial by fire maybe. I think it's like acting on a livestage. No retakes and the risk ,like using a womens restroom,which I do only rarely,could be great. I admit I get a thrill,and I rate my trips,I won't call it outings, bad word.Poor, good, great or best yet.The Drag Queen-CrossDresser line, I think Is a thin one.I dress to look like a tall brunette of average looks.I won't say I've never had a second look but, I think I look fairly attractive.I don't have a deep voice and my adams apple isn't big.I would love to get really decked out sometime .Make-up done,Great wig,Knock out clothes.Alas ,don't if will happen in this life.Glad for what I have.Being a CD is a gift and I love it.

[Guest Roberta-Belinda]

When I am crossdressed I spend a lot of time looking at myself in the mirror and singing Women's torch songs in a convincing Women's voice. I don't use make up or wigs but my female voice is so convincing it make me think that I am a frustrated female impersonator. I would be more interested in being dressed as a convincing pretty female as opposed to a brash drag Queen. I think a lot of female impersonators are content to be female when they do their act but I would rather be dressed as a glamorous girl for a lot longer.

[Guest Eve Caillard]

Hi Sally

I guess most cross-dressers are terrified of being discovered. I confess I don't have an 'inner drag queen'. I agree with you on wearing feminine clothes - the more feminine the better and male clothes are ghastly. Give me slinky satins, knee boots and floaty skirts any day. But the heavy make-up and coiffed locks, etc., well - there I chicken out. A touch of lipstick to soften my face is all I go by.

I cannot speak for the other ladies on this site, but personally I value the quiet, blend-in femme look. I do not wish to draw attention to myself, no matter how much I love my clothes, wigs (if I choose to wear them) and any make up. The reason for this is because I am not 'expressing my feminine side'. I have no desire to be 'outre' as feminine. So far as I am concerned, I am 'fleeing my masculine side'. You see, I don't really enjoy being, nor coping with being a man because I have a deep mismatch between how I feel inside, and how men are 'supposed' to behave. And it can be a pretty savage battle inside me with a lot of internal anger and bitterness.

So the exhibitionist drag approach is actually the opposite to how I feel. My heart is thoroughly embedded in nurturing my children, caring for others and feeling the world around me. Clothes, wigs and make-up actually come second to that, though they are important where cross-dressing allows me to reject the masculine side.

Now each of us has their own world and style, and good for you that you feel the way you do! Good luck. Keep us posted on how you get on!

Eve

[Guest Clair Dufour]

Drag is performance art. It should be noted that there are many Drag Kings too. This can range from impersonating Cher to making fun of gender norms as a political statement. While most people who do it are LGBT, many are trained actors, singers and comedians. Its not uncommon to see CD's and TG's on hormones performing at such venues. Besides clubs we can add pride parades, cosplay and other conventions to the list of venues where crossdressing is common.