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Fearful To Be Alone At The Shoe Store!


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Well, well. Here I am thinking like many of you that going to the store and buying ladies’ shoes might be an uncomfortable event. I just got home from one of the finest shopping experiences I’ve ever had. Two weeks ago I purchased two pairs of shoes online. Shipping was free if delivered to the store. Yesterday I was notified by email that they had arrived. Since I’m getting ready to go on vacation I decided to go get them without my wife because she was still at work. I didn’t want to wait two weeks then if there was a problem another two weeks.

The sales lady was very polite. She asked if wanted the big box they were in or if I wanted to put them in a bag. Without thinking I replied that I did not want the big ole box. She opened it and verified the items against the order form. Did not bat an eye or skip a beat she simply asked if the order looked complete. Then she began to explain the store’s policy on returns and realizing that it would two more weeks before I got back I timidly replied that perhaps I should try them on just in case. She agreed that was a good idea and watched me put them on.

After complimenting me on my choices and she immediately began showing me other items and making suggestions about colors. We began talking about personal opinions on styles, heel heights, heel shapes, platforms, wedges and on and on. I was there for an hour as customers walked in and out she would assist them but immediately come back to me. We must have pulled 50 pairs of shoes from the racks and talk about them. By the time I left you would have thought we had been friends for years.

I did not buy anything else but I had so much fun. As I was walking across the parking lot I realized that she now is one more person that knows at least part of who I really am. I only dream what the rest of my life and the world could be like.

Was that not amazing?

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Guest Donna Jean

Oh, Sweetheart....

That WAS amazing!

Very amazing!

Things like that make a soft, warm spot around my heart......there IS good in the world and some of it is for us!

What can I say, Baby?.....obviously I couldn't be any happier than you are right now.....

Sweet!

HUGGS!

Donna Jean

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  • Admin

What a wonderful experience! Thank you for sharing it with us Nayomi.

The lady who assisted you sounds like the best saleswoman ever! Someone who

doesn't care about anything other than making the customer feel important,

relaxed and at ease, and offering her professional advice.

I have a feeling you will be seeking her out the next time, too. :)

If you know her name, I would send the store manager a nice note complementing her.

Then she will know that her efforts paid off.

Carolyn Marie

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Guest ChloëC

nayomi,

That was a marvelous experience. And from a really supportive salesperson.

As Carolyn worte, you should really get a note off to her manager. My wife calls them 'orchid letters'. When they're deserved, people should know.

Also, you now have a salesperson you know that you can make purchases from in the future. Make sure you wife at least goes into the store, too, if she is looking, and mention it to your friends. Service like that needs to be encouraged and what better way than to provide financial support.

Chloë

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That could not have gone better for you - what a wonderful experience.

I hope that more of the salespeople will learn to be like her - she knows that you will buy more shoes and that you will look for her.

Congratulations.

Love ya

Sally

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  • 3 years later...

Nothing better than chatting with the ladies in sales and being able to mingle. I always give the ladies a tip when I get ggod help. They do appreaiate it. Love Amber L.

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