Ugh.........

[Guest Melanieshaman]

Ok so a wierd situation happened today. 2-3 times a week my male friend and i get togeather to study (we STILL haven't taken our A+ certification test). Anyway, i was at his house this morning, and after we'd been studying for a few hours we got on the discussion of his mom (whom he takes care of) and how much meds she's on. Which got me to thinking, i was unsure if i had taken mine this morning as I take Spiro and Estrodiol in the morning (doc upped my estro), and i was thinking out loud about it. He asked me what i was on, and i thought in my head "here we go" how do i put this? Anyway, he pestered me a little and asked me if I was on antidepressants or something, and i told him not for a LONG time LOL. (truth) So i just told him...spiro and estrodiol. He looked at me and said "hmm i don't know those" (as he figured with all the stuff his mom is on that he would have heard of at least one). So, I told him what they do, and he looked at me with a confused look. So, I came out and told him i was a transitioning MtF transexual. And he said "OHHHH!" We chatted for a while about how long I had know, he asked me if it was expensive (I said VERY).

Needless to say this was a VERY nerve racking moment as i was unsure how'd he'd take it. He said it was cool with him, he'd never do it, but he understood that if it was what i needed to do then he was happy for me. I am still concerned how he will treat me tomorrow and from here on out, but he seems ok with it. He did joke with me a little and said "what i am going to do takes alot of testicles". LMAO

Other than my wife, he was the first person i came out to, now i think January I will see my folks for the first time in over a year, i think by them they will suspect something. I guess they are next on the list... oh GAWD!

[Guest Donna Jean]

Honey....that was wonderful.....

Melanie 1

Bad Guys 0

LOL...now you have a confidant...a partner in crime....LOL

I'll bet you that this will work out just fine for you...

I'll tell you something...

Few weeks back I came out to a friend that I hadn't seen in 23 years...we e-mail and send christmas cards..

But he said that he'd be there for me to the end!

I think that you may have a friend like that, too...

Honey...let me know how it goes over the next few days...this could be a wonderful thing for you!

BIGG HUGGS!

Donna Jean

[Guest Jean Davis]

Great news

I'm happy to hear that your friend is so supportive of you.

It's not often that you can find people that are so open minded and caring.

He sounds like a keeper to me.

I hope your parents take the news as well as your friend.

LUV

Jean

[Paula ult]

Melanie i am so happy for you, your friend sounds like mine when i told her in January, although she did go thru a couple weeks after being a little distant with me, i figured it was her coming to terms with what i told her and maybe doing some research on her own, we are great friends again.

Paula

[Carolyn Marie]

Melanie, that is awesome good news! I am very happy things turned out well.

It seems that so often something happens that's totally unplanned, but works out

perfectly. Fate, karma, whatever you want to call it, it does seem to happen to

certain people. You certainly seem to have some of that good stuff!

How about sharing it with all of us?

I hope your karma continues to bode well for you.

HUGS

Carolyn

[Guest Robin Winter]

Ok so a wierd situation happened today. 2-3 times a week my male friend and i get togeather to study (we STILL haven't taken our A+ certification test). Anyway, i was at his house this morning, and after we'd been studying for a few hours we got on the discussion of his mom (whom he takes care of) and how much meds she's on. Which got me to thinking, i was unsure if i had taken mine this morning as I take Spiro and Estrodiol in the morning (doc upped my estro), and i was thinking out loud about it. He asked me what i was on, and i thought in my head "here we go" how do i put this? Anyway, he pestered me a little and asked me if I was on antidepressants or something, and i told him not for a LONG time LOL. (truth) So i just told him...spiro and estrodiol. He looked at me and said "hmm i don't know those" (as he figured with all the stuff his mom is on that he would have heard of at least one). So, I told him what they do, and he looked at me with a confused look. So, I came out and told him i was a transitioning MtF transexual. And he said "OHHHH!" We chatted for a while about how long I had know, he asked me if it was expensive (I said VERY).

Needless to say this was a VERY nerve racking moment as i was unsure how'd he'd take it. He said it was cool with him, he'd never do it, but he understood that if it was what i needed to do then he was happy for me. I am still concerned how he will treat me tomorrow and from here on out, but he seems ok with it. He did joke with me a little and said "what i am going to do takes alot of testicles". LMAO

Other than my wife, he was the first person i came out to, now i think January I will see my folks for the first time in over a year, i think by them they will suspect something. I guess they are next on the list... oh GAWD!

Ok, I know this wasn't the point of your topic, but I wanted to mention this. It's possible they have since changed the exam, but when I took it, I was absolutely shocked at the antiquity of the test material. Dot matrix printers? Holy....Seriously, freshen up on as much of the older systems technology as you can, most of what was on my test was from windows nt period and back. That was like 7 years ago though, so I'm HOPING they've updated since.

Just a warning, be prepared!

As to the main topic, sounds like a positive experience so far Hopefully he'll continue with that attitude as it sinks in.

*Hugs*

[Guest Joanna Phipps]

Speaking of matters Estradiol, I dont recal being this tired since my first puberty.. come to think of it I dont recall being this tired then.

[Guest AlexanderG]

Sounds like a pretty awesome first response & like he was truly interested. Cool!

[Guest Angelgrlsue]

That is wonderful news Melanie! I wouldn't worry about how he will react the next day. He sounds like a good friend that is understanding.

Hugs,

Suzie

[Guest Melanieshaman]

Ok, I know this wasn't the point of your topic, but I wanted to mention this. It's possible they have since changed the exam, but when I took it, I was absolutely shocked at the antiquity of the test material. Dot matrix printers? Holy....Seriously, freshen up on as much of the older systems technology as you can, most of what was on my test was from windows nt period and back. That was like 7 years ago though, so I'm HOPING they've updated since.

Just a warning, be prepared!

As to the main topic, sounds like a positive experience so far Hopefully he'll continue with that attitude as it sinks in.

*Hugs*

LMAO i know! Well, my friend actually bought a bank of test questions from CompTIAA and he was told from a rep that the 601 will be the bank of questions all tests are done from til Jan 1st so i think we're good. But ya when i was in school we took practice exams and there was a lot of old stuff... and btw there are STILL dot matrix questions (well one or two in the printer section)

I actually haven't seen him since i told him as i got sick, and recently his mom's friend committed suicide, so he's been dealing with that while i get over whatever it is i have. Hopefully we'll get back to practicing tomorrow. Thanks for all the kind and supportive comments.

Mel

[Guest Natalie92]

That's really not as bad as you think. The worst thing that'll happen is that 1) he's going to ignore the situation until he can't possibly ignore it any longer (which, since you're already on hormones won't be too far off) or 2) he'll crack the occasional "crossdresser" joke at you. (I use that word because that's basically the word most of the jokes use. Not saying it's right, just true) Neither of which are truly bad things.

I know some of you might not like it if your friend started joking about a condition as serious as transgenderism, but having a dad who grew up in a working class family and who's family holds true to their roots, one of the quickest things I learned was that you had to be able to laugh at how bad your life is, because if you don't, someone will. (Why let everyone ELSE have all the fun at your expense? You're entitled to a piece of it, too. )

Good for you!

Natalie Alexis