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The Tao Of Transition

Guest Joanna Phipps

By Guest Joanna Phipps,
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The Tao (pronounced Dow) of Transition

Joanna M. Phipps

  1. if you are on the path, seek you the counsel of those ahead of you for they know of the trail and its pit falls
  2. seek you, also, the counsel of one who is trained in these matters for they control the letters
  3. if, at any time, thou thinkest thou cannot continue talk you to those on the trail and to your counselor
  4. at all times remember only you can say how far down this trail to walk
  5. listen not to those who would sell extracts from plants for they are naught but snake oil
  6. work you with your gender team, not against them, for they control the gates
  7. beware the trap of moving fast for it only means reverse
  8. if your team tellest you to live in your gender before hormones, do so as it will prove the rightness of your path
  9. be you ready to counsel those newer than yourself for you have much to offer
  10. avoid those who say I know it all, for they don't
  11. at all times remember your trail is not a race, take your time and enjoy the journey
  12. at all times be at peace with yourself and with others for there is enough strife in the world

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Hey Joanna,

Love the Tao of transitoining :)

One thing that I have difficulty with and I have seen this before with other's people posts too..

if your team tellest you to live in your gender before hormones, do so as it will prove the rightness of your path

I do not know what that means. Moreover, if a therapist said to me that I have to live RLE before hormones, I would get another therapist ASAP. I would never attempt to be full-time without HRT. I would say to the gate-keepers that it is too dangerous for me to "live my gender" prior to hormones. I can pass when I really work at it. I cannot pass everyday right now.

A comment to the therapists... not you Joanna :)

Love

Brenda

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Bernii my sweet sister, I think you pass better than you think you do. Were I to pass you on the street Id not look twice concerning your gender presentation, but merely to see if it was who I thought I was.

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Hey Joanna,

Love the Tao of transitoining :)

One thing that I have difficulty with and I have seen this before with other's people posts too..

I do not know what that means. Moreover, if a therapist said to me that I have to live RLE before hormones, I would get another therapist ASAP. I would never attempt to be full-time without HRT. I would say to the gate-keepers that it is too dangerous for me to "live my gender" prior to hormones. I can pass when I really work at it. I cannot pass everyday right now.

A comment to the therapists... not you Joanna :)

Love

Brenda

I have to agree here....

The hormones are a tool to help in the transition....

I would also have had a problem with my therapist had he told me to do RLE before hormones...or before I indicated to him that I was ready for such a huge step....We travel this jorney at our own comfortable pace...and to make REL before hormones a requirment, I feel is both unreasonable and cruel!

Joanna:

I know that you did it and did well...Good. That worked out wonderful. But I have no idea what it was with your "team". As you can see that most everyone on the site gets hormones before RLE. All of wich leads me to believe that this is the accepted method..

At the very least, you have the psycological benefit of having the Estrogen flowing throughout your body which can help your attitude 100%...

I'm just glad that it worked for you, but, I feel that they were wrong.....

Donna Jean

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well the standards do say that therapy OR rle before hormones, and I do agree that hormones first is the usual way. However I think they wanted to test me to make sure, but ghods I would have loved some E in my system durring it.. as anyone who was here at the time and heard me beach about it knows

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My therapist definitely wants me to go out publicly as Carolyn before HRT, but just

in controlled circumstances and for hours at a time, not days or weeks.

I can understand that...how will I know, or more accurately how will I convince my G.T.,

that I am ready for HRT, unless I can show that I am comfortable presenting as female

in the Real World? She needs to be sure that what she is recommending is right for me.

Even though I know it is, she has to be sure too. Actually, I am anxious to get out there

and be Carolyn. I just need to pick the right time and circumstance.

BTW, Joanna, I love the Tao, but I'm afraid I'll have trouble remembering to pronounce

it correctly. ;)

Carolyn

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My therapist definitely wants me to go out publicly as Carolyn before HRT, but just

in controlled circumstances and for hours at a time, not days or weeks.

I can understand that...how will I know, or more accurately how will I convince my G.T.,

that I am ready for HRT, unless I can show that I am comfortable presenting as female

in the Real World? She needs to be sure that what she is recommending is right for me.

Even though I know it is, she has to be sure too. Actually, I am anxious to get out there

and be Carolyn. I just need to pick the right time and circumstance.

BTW, Joanna, I love the Tao, but I'm afraid I'll have trouble remembering to pronounce

it correctly. ;)

Carolyn

Hmmm,

Since I have already been out publically many, many, many times, I guess I actually am ready :)

Brenda

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Hmmm,

Since I have already been out publically many, many, many times, I guess I actually am ready :)

Brenda

You've convinced me, Brenda!

Go for it!

Carolyn

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For some Brenda,

The pain of maintaining the facade supercedes being on HRT.

And you do get used to being made until it becames no big deal.

The sheer joy of living life honestly over comes any bad as you

grow into your role.But...That being said,I can understand where

you are coming from,as the hormones work their magic and we

start to take on the female characteristics that HRT gives us.

Hugs Lady,

Angie

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