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I have a bit of hair on my legs, under my armpits and a bit in my arms along with the center joints of my toes and fingers. I also have peach fuzz on my face, which is nearly impossible to distinguish unless you glare at it from an inch away; but how many of you actually shave the cheeks? I was also wondering on coming up with an excuse as to shaving my areas but my parents are hardcore Christians and would literally disown me if I did such a thing, and to add to that everyone knows the stereotypical Asian parents. -dramatic music-

Thanks in advanced for any replies!

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Hi,

why it is against their religion if you shave your body? Take a look to the leader of the church the pope. Does he have a big beard like Santa Claus? No, maybe this is caused by shaving. You also cut your hairs on top of your head. So why to stop some inches lower?

I have to shave my cheeks. It is not much but it is easier to cut of all in one turn than to pull out each one by one.

It is your body and you have your religion. You must live with shaved cheeks not your parents.

Greetings

Nelly

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So I guess Bicycle racing isn't your sport ?.... those guys shave down..... SO do serious swimmers...... Take on a new sport..... AND a New wardrobe of Lycra LOL

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So I guess Bicycle racing isn't your sport ?.... those guys shave down..... SO do serious swimmers...... Take on a new sport..... AND a New wardrobe of Lycra LOL

What is lycra?

Also, it's not necessarily against the religion it's just if they found out I do what I do they would react so due to the strong belief in the religion and an automatic assumption that I'm homosexual. I'm sure they wouldn't believe me if I told them otherwise. I'm not participating in any sports that involve shaving either.

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Hi,

"Lycra" is a brand name of Du Pont for an elastic polymer that is used to make elastic clothing like speedos or cycling pants or swimsuits. Everything that fit really tight and look shinny is also called lycra in normal life.

Greetings

Nelly

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Guest Krystyna_Marie

So how often are your parents inspecting your body hair for you now? I shave my armpits, chest, face of course, and my thighs up to my, well, and down to the knee. When I'm wearing shorts and a shirt no one could ever suspect I'm pretty clean shaven(!). This winter, my project will be shaving my legs (they'll mostly be in long pants all winter long, who will be the wiser? Can't wait!

Do what makes you happy, my friend, if it's hurting no one else. Life's way too short not to be you.

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So how often are your parents inspecting your body hair for you now? I shave my armpits, chest, face of course, and my thighs up to my, well, and down to the knee. When I'm wearing shorts and a shirt no one could ever suspect I'm pretty clean shaven(!). This winter, my project will be shaving my legs (they'll mostly be in long pants all winter long, who will be the wiser? Can't wait!

Do what makes you happy, my friend, if it's hurting no one else. Life's way too short not to be you.

Everyday a few times. For some reason they're just so up tight. There's no way I'd go a half a day without being caught.

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Guest BeardedMan

Part of the question is how hard you may be trying to "pass" as a female. Clearly you're not trying to do so when your parents are around.

While I love and respect all my sisters here who do pass - and for whom, in many cases, "passing" is not even the right word to use - for myself it's not an issue. I'm a man in a man's body in clothing society says belongs to women. And I feel no need to shave my cheeks. (Legs are a different story, though...)

In any case, before you get into it with your parents, you might want to assess your own needs and desires. If you really feel a need to shave, then it's probably important to find a way. However, if you can be comfortable crossdressing with hair, maybe that's a place to start until you can either get out from under your parents' gaze or help them find a way to be more understanding. Which, I know, may be easier said than done: my dad's African, and in 40 years has barely assimilated to "mainstream" American culture.

In either case, good luck! I agree with Krystyna Marie that "Life's way too short not to be you."

-- Beard

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Guest Anna_Banana
Everyday a few times. For some reason they're just so up tight. There's no way I'd go a half a day without being caught.

I'm sorry, did you just say that your parents inspect your armpits, leg, and private hair? What?

Seriously Concerned,

.Anna

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Guest Krystyna_Marie
I'm sorry, did you just say that your parents inspect your armpits, leg, and private hair? What?

Seriously Concerned,

.Anna

Yeah, wow. That is more than just uptight. Do they know or suspect, and they're trying to intimidate you into not dressing? Or do they not have a clue? In which case that is not healthy, normal parenting. My parents were just uptight and even they gave us a little room to breathe when we were teens . . . Perhaps some (secular?) family counseling is an option?

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They don't check but we only have 1 bathroom so it's not hard to see most of my bare body after a shower every morning especially since we both need to get up at around the same time. I feel the need to look nearly perfect. I'm not a transsexual I just want to look cute enough to confuse the people with good enough of an eye to perceive a normal dresser/transsexual apart from the male an female born gender. Like the picture shown below (not me) but a popular Japanese crossdresser.

29dftvq.jpg

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Guest Anna_Banana

If you are concerned about running into your parents while moving from the bathroom to your room, just bring your clothes into the bathroom with you.

.Anna

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Guest MissAmy
Like the picture shown below (not me) but a popular Japanese crossdresser.

29dftvq.jpg

Wow she's really cute. On a related note, I think Asians on an average do a very good job at passing or at least they have an easier time than others.

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I'm not sure as to why my reply wasn't posted for a few weeks but I'll give it another entry just in case it got lost somewhere or something. Thanks Anna and all the others who decided to reply to my thread, but I've always thought about the clothes thing. It's quite embarrassing but in eastern Asian cultures such as Korean, Japanese or Chinese cultures it's not abnormal for friends and family to see you nude during a shower or bath. Obviously due to a dilution in the American culture here only our families keep such culture in tact during our lives if we're not completely (no mean to be offensive) whitewashed in American culture. Not only that but I have a skin condition where my skin produces no oil whatsoever so I need special medication applied onto my back where; and clearly I cannot see my back easily so after a shower (not always) I have some help with the medication (pretty much ointment) on my back from my mother and I doubt a towel will be able to hide a hairless body from a mother's eyes. Not to mention that I need to apply lotion and medical treatment before I wear clothes so it's much harder to work with. This condition lasts from an infantry in some cases, in others until teen, others until late teen, adult-age, and for lifetime; however mine will go away late teens and it is already much better and seems like it will go away within a half year to a year after 16 years of suffering.

The only good thing about this condition is that due to the lack of oil, my skin never breaks out in any form of blemishes other than rashes and sunburns (though very sensitive to those). No, not even acne. Hurray! In a few months I will be enjoying a clean surface with no blemishes! ;O

But being back on topic and stopping the boasting, what would be a good way? As for my cross dressing problem, I decided once I purchase a car I will be able to hide them under the trunk mat below the spare tire in a locked suitcase-like case. Any criticism, ideas and advice on anything related to what I've talked about in this topic is appreciated.

Thanks in advanced! ~Truly.

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Guest April63

Perhaps you could come up with something about it being easier to apply the lotion/ointment to shaved skin? Say something about hair absorbing the lotion or getting in the way. Without hair the lotion gets applied directly and is more effective. Maybe that will work? I hope everything works out :)

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Thanks for the advice, and sorry for the late reply I was awfully busy. That might work and I will probably give that a shot, but I have a good feeling it will work if I do it a few months later at a certain time. Also, any other advice?

Another question; Should I do it and then tell her if she asks me or let my mother know first?

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Guest April63

I think you should just do it, because then you act like it's really no big deal. You can say that you were just experimenting. You thought it might work better shaved, and so you tried shaving, and found out that it works better that way. If you ask her first, you will be putting more emphasis on the act of shaving, and you might set yourself up for some trouble by doing so.

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Guest Krystyna_Marie

I think one day, you're going to be on your own - whether at university or whatever - and you're going to have to find a way to apply your own ointment. I really mean this in the nicest, most complimentary way, but if you're old enough to be thinking for yourself about lifestyle issues like CDing, you're old enough to figure out how to stand on your own two feet. Your parent's make it easy for you to depend on them, if you have grown, mentally, beyond that stage in your life (god knows I reached a point I was done with having my parents making my decisions for me, but I think I was about 17 when I got there), it may be time to consider depending on yourself for a while - the wonderful thing about taking care of yourself is that when you do, no one really has the right to tell you how to live your life.

Kisses, KM

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Guest MichelleCanada

My chest is pretty hairfree but I shave around my nipples (and genitals of course), but I wear opaque nylons or suspender hose, so don't do anything with my legs.

Michelle

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