Whiney Beach?

[Guest yvonne]

I told my wife 30 years ago that I was a crossdresser. It was virtually love at first sight and it was after only a few dates that I told her. I feel that people in a relationship need to trust each other and trust only comes when you're truthful with each other.

She was very supportive and said it was no big deal and has never wavered from that position. She's great and my best friend.

Well, I just accepted my true identity in the last year and I'm not a crossdresser. I'm a girl. Period, end of conversation. I THOUGHT I was a crossdresser, but I'm not.

I recently came out to her and not just a little. I spilled my guts and told her everything. I spent all evening just talking about who I am and how I've felt for a long time.

She was very upset at where this will go and said she didn't want to live her life out with a whiney beach (spelling altered to get by the naughty filters).

She doesn't care how I dress at home, but is upset at losing a man and gaining a girlfriend.

Due to my career and job, I don't believe it's practical to totally come out to the world. My mental mindset is, well I'm a crossdresser all day now, presenting as a guy. ) I get to be myself at night and weekends and that has meant the world to me.

I've got a much clearer mind than ever and more mental peace than I've ever had.

So, my question to you girls who are far along in this process--has it changed your basic personality much? I understand that you become more emotional and interests change. Heck, I feel that way now, but it's not a personality transplant.

Losing my wife, my job and my career would not be an acceptable outcome to me. There are other ways this can be solved and where I'm at now is very satisfying to me.

So, how much does HRT change your personality. Do you turn into a whiney beach eventually?

Yvonne

[Guest AshleyRF]

LOL Does your personality change? You have no idea..... good luck.

[Guest angie]

From what I have been told about my personality,

it hasn't changed much at all.I am still that bouncy,

happy,positive person I have always been,just a whole

lot calmer and sweeter.Able to show emotions I couldn't

let myself before.It took being told that for me to get it

in my head though.I am still the same person I have always

been,only now I am a woman.

Angie

[Guest AshleyRF]

From what I have been told about my personality,

it hasn't changed much at all.I am still that bouncy,

happy,positive person I have always been,just a whole

lot calmer and sweeter.Able to show emotions I couldn't

let myself before.It took being told that for me to get it

in my head though.I am still the same person I have always

been,only now I am a woman.

Angie

Well that hasn't been my experience so far.

I was always a very dark person before.. very angry, very negative, and often very mean. Since, I have totally changed. I'm the exact opposite most of the time. Unfortunately, every now and then when I have a particularly ugly feeling day, I revert back to that dark personality I use to have.

[Guest ~Brenda~]

All that I know is that since I have come to terms that I am trans, I am far more stable and calmer than I have ever been in my life.

I am not on HRT at the moment, but I have no expectation that my personality will change. The evolution of my personality has been directly tied to the evolution of my self-awareness. I show emotion freely without reservation.

Like you angie, I am generally optimistic and look forward to each day

I do get into my dark moods, but that is nothing new.

I have found that for myself, accepting me as who I am, has been the most important thing I have ever done in my life!!

Love

Brenda

[Guest Charlene_Leona]

I don't think HRT changes your personality and I've been on it for three years now. I will say that since I came out and started to be myself I too have done a 180 degree turn I use to be a very introverted person who would not open myself up to anyone. I had been hurt by too many people and I had closed myself off. When I came out I did so in so many ways now I'm happy, helpful, positive about life because I've got so much to look forward to. My friends have told me they like me even more now than they did in the past and to me that says allot. What I think happens is when you get the correct hormones into your system every thing just works better with your mind, body and soul. It's so easy being yourself then.

[Guest Elizabeth K]

Well that hasn't been my experience so far.

I was always a very dark person before.. very angry, very negative, and often very mean. Since, I have totally changed. I'm the exact opposite most of the time. Unfortunately, every now and then when I have a particularly ugly feeling day, I revert back to that dark personality I use to have.

Yes me too - I was such an angry male. The HRT really changes you - BIG TIME! And I do revert but its strange, when I blow up I cry my heart out afterward I am so distressed!

Angry, whinny bittch - not often - but it is there, especially after a time when your testosterone fed brain starts to fully process the new estrogen - and you get all this new information - and the hardwiring starts to alter... about month four to... well... still going on.

My wife says I am a hormonal woman. I guess she would know. I now know how she feels when she says "I just have to cry it out." And I know how somedays you can just be a little sad - not depressed, just a little blue.

It passes. You learn how to deal with it. You gain this whole new respect for womanhood. We women lose the aggressivenes aspect but we gain the world-view. EVERYTHING has significance! EVERYTHING!

Hope this helps. My story is very similar to yours except I never revealed my crossdressing to anyone. I wish I had - yet I know it would have been so different.

I am in transition - one year on HRT at the begining of December. I don' exactly whine - but I sure like to give people constructive criticism now, and I always let them know how I feel about things! GRIN

Lizzy

[Guest viv]

I told my wife 30 years ago that I was a crossdresser. It was virtually love at first sight and it was after only a few dates that I told her. I feel that people in a relationship need to trust each other and trust only comes when you're truthful with each other.

She was very supportive and said it was no big deal and has never wavered from that position. She's great and my best friend.

Well, I just accepted my true identity in the last year and I'm not a crossdresser. I'm a girl. Period, end of conversation. I THOUGHT I was a crossdresser, but I'm not.

I recently came out to her and not just a little. I spilled my guts and told her everything. I spent all evening just talking about who I am and how I've felt for a long time.

She was very upset at where this will go and said she didn't want to live her life out with a whiney beach (spelling altered to get by the naughty filters).

She doesn't care how I dress at home, but is upset at losing a man and gaining a girlfriend.

Due to my career and job, I don't believe it's practical to totally come out to the world. My mental mindset is, well I'm a crossdresser all day now, presenting as a guy. ) I get to be myself at night and weekends and that has meant the world to me.

I've got a much clearer mind than ever and more mental peace than I've ever had.

So, my question to you girls who are far along in this process--has it changed your basic personality much? I understand that you become more emotional and interests change. Heck, I feel that way now, but it's not a personality transplant.

Losing my wife, my job and my career would not be an acceptable outcome to me. There are other ways this can be solved and where I'm at now is very satisfying to me.

So, how much does HRT change your personality. Do you turn into a whiney beach eventually?

Yvonne

Hi Yvonne,

I have not started hrt yet so I guess Im gatecrashing your post, sorry hun but I gotta say this....I HOPE TO BE THE BIGGEST FREAKIN BEACH ON THE PLANET.

dont know what that says about me