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New Perspective At The Mall


Guest Alissa

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I took a walk through the mall today with my son, and what I noticed is how

much different it looks to me and what a big place it has become since I had to courage

to go out and shop for outfits.

Only last week when I had some time to myself, did I build up the courage to venture into

a Bealls Outlet that was closing down, to look for something to wear.

I bought a pair of Capri pants and a nice pair of slacks, and my first pair of heels.

So as I was walking throught the mall, I caught myself glancing at Forever 21, and

a long list of womens clothing stores with beautiful outfits in the windows!

Now I understand how my x wife spent so much time there, there was so much I wanted!

And the shoe stores were particularly hard to go past without gawking.

My son knows nothing of this, and I don't think he ever will, so I was as discrete as possible

when I was interestred in an outfit or a pair of shoes I saw. There are SO many choices in ladies

fashion, if I had the time off and was adept enough to dress to pass, I could be in the mall an entire

day easily, trying things on and seeing if I could get stimulus money for a clothing alowance.

For the time being, I'm left discretely scanning the racks at the local thrift stores and grabbing an

item or 2 that look nice and hoping they fit when I get them home.

Let's hear it for the CD life, the world is so much bigger now that I don't have to stay only

on one half.

I'm posting a pic of a pair of MUST HAVE boots that I saw...oh how I hope I can go back

there alone so I can buy them! Center of the pic, 4 inch heels at least with silver decoration.

MMmmmmmmmmm.

Alissa

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Guest Jean Davis

Hi Alissa

I know exactly what you mean.

I always said that you could carry in a years worth of mens clothing catalogues, but you would need a fork lift to move a years worth of womens catalogues. :lol: The variety is amazing, so many different looks and the women have free run of the mens clothing also because men don't really care. You have to watch it though, your bank account will begin to hate you if you have too much fun. ;)

BTW X-mas is comming up, I like the knee highs-size 11. What do you think? :P

LUV

Jean

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Guest Robin Winter

I totally understand, though I'm still a bit shy about going in womens clothing stores. I stop and look at jewellery often though. There's one necklace I can't stop thinking about. It has leaves on it made from different colors of gold. I'll have to see if I can find a picture of it......

Hmmm, I guess this is it, but for some reason it doesn't look quite the same as it does in-store. Can't put my finger on exactly what is different though.

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But yeah, isn't it gorgeous??

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Guest Rebecca Quentin

I know what you mean about far greater choice for female clothing compared to that for men. Just one week ago, a brand new (& very big) shopping mall opened up in my home city. When looking through one of the larger clothing stores with a friend, it was impossible not to notice that there was vast store space for femme attire, and an almost comically tiny area for men's clothing. As I'm sure we all know however, this is the normal way of things in shops these days, so its very liberating to be shopping for femme stuff and suddenly have all this wonderful variety compared to the very boring male clothing.

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Guest Emily H

Oh yes hun, the mall doubled in size! As long as I'm night with my dad that is. I can spend sooo many hours looking for clothes. I think I even spend more time than my mom!

~Andrea

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Yes, women's clothing is so varied and colorful and stylish, especially compared with men's.

I can spend an hour just looking through one catalog and imagining what each outfit would look like on me.

And then all the accesories, and shoes, and costume jewely, and, and .......

Oh my! What I've missed over the years.

Gee, if I had been free to be Carolyn when I was in my twenties, I could have worn all those lovely mini skirts! They would have fit me back

then too. (sigh!).

Ah, well, I kinda like the long skirts these days anyway. :)

Have fun at the mall, Alissa, and watch that wallet (oops, purse!).

Carolyn Marie

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