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So last night (i guess it would be last night since it's past 1 am.) my two best friends and I did our occasional late night walks through the neighborhood and towards the end my friends commented on how quiet I was being. Since at the time I was trying to build up the courage to tell them I'm TS I figured then would be a good time to finally say it before I give in to fear and anxiety. So I ended up telling the then and there that I am TS and that it was a major factor in my depression. They pretty much figured then that I was being completely serious even more so since they knew about my depression and how serious it can get (to the point of physical disability sometimes). They didn't say too much but we were all tired at that point and weren't talking too much anyway. Been sitting next to one of them since we got back to his house, he hasn't displayed any signs that he's bothered by it and he hasn't really made any comments on it beyond commenting on how pink the chat page is. Despite the lack of comments that I sort of expected, it still was really revealing to finally come out to the two friends who matter to me most.

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I'm praying this isn't brought up at all, even by accident, when the 3 of us meet up with a few others in our social group for our occasional D&D session.

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Oasis,

Zabrak is right, let the news settle in, you took a long time coming to grips with this yourself and it is all new to them.

I do think that sitting with one of them in his house is a great sign that he is willing to accept and maybe even to try to understand but I believe that if he is a true friend he will just be so happy that you have a way to overcome your depression.

Love ya,

Sally

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Oasis, Im glad that you found the courage to tell your friends. Its too soon to tell how it will go with them in the long run, but lack of a negative reaction

initially is a very good sign. Look for an opportunity to tell them more, when you all are in a better mood to chat. Hopefully one of them will provide

the spark by asking you questions.

Good loyal friends are hard to find, like Viv said. If they do support you, treasure that friendship.

Good luck to you!

Carolyn Marie

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Oasis,

Congratulations on coming out to two friends that you care about sos much. I am sure that they care about you too. Don't expect any immediate responses because most people never have directly experienced someone who is trans and they need a little time to absorb it all after you have come out to them. I think everything is going to be OK between you and your friends because they did not immediately react negatively to your coming out. That is a good sign :)

Give them time to let your coming out settle in with them. Before you know it, you will all be taking your late night strolls together again closer than ever before.

Love

Brenda

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So after talking to the two of them they both knew that it wasn't something that should be brought up with the other people in our group. Hopefully that is a good sign.

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So after talking to the two of them they both knew that it wasn't something that should be brought up with the other people in our group. Hopefully that is a good sign.

That is a good sign. It means that they won't out you themselves.

It sounds like things are going to be OK. Let your friends adjust in their own time.

Brenda

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