I Decided To Come Out Of The Cd Closet

[Guest MissAmy]

Well not yet, but I made up my mind about it. I will be telling my mom, just not yet. I'm going to wait until my brother moves out of the house in June. I don't really have the money to get my own apartment (need a roommate to split the rent and that's out of the question), and I have a dog that's a jack russel and I don't think an apartment would be good for her anyway.

The reason why I want to come out is mainly so I won't have to hide it at home. I just hate hiding everything, making sure I didn't drop somethng feminine on the floor and forgetting, making sure my panties (or worse thongs) don't peek out of my pants in front of someone, and most of all doing laundry without worrying that someone will come home and open the dryer or washer up and see all my girl clothes. I just want to have a closet to hang my dresses, and a drawer for my panties instead of hiding them all in a locked storage chest in my room

I think I'll just ask her to sit down and I'll slowly explain why I cross dress. Wish me luck!

[Guest Charlene_Leona]

Great decision to make Miss amy hope it works out for you, I remember when I was 16 and I came home from school and my clothes where on the kitchen table. I actually tried to lie about it and never gave a good reason for them being there. My mom rode me for years after that about those clothes, had I been honest about it I think my coming out as transsexual would have been much better accepted. Good luck I'm sure things will go ok for you, being truthful pays itself off ever time.

Charlene Leona

[Carolyn Marie]

I do wish you luck Amy. It is an important step and one you need to plan out, so I'm glad to see you're not rushing into it.

There are great resources on this site to help you, like the Coming Out Forum and Laura's Resource Pages. Take advantage of

them.

When the time is right just remember this; hope for the best outcome, but prepare yourself mentally in case it doesn't work out

the way you want. It is a hard thing for people to understand, and there is a lot of misinformation out there about TG issues.

You may have to overcome that with patience and understanding. I know you have both, so I think you'll do fine.

HUGS

Carolyn Marie

[Guest Amy LeBlanc]

I know how you feel MissAmy. I am the same way where I want to come out and let my mom know about me crossdressing so that I can not hide it as much and that I can start to hang my clothes up in the closet and have a drawer full of my panties and bras.

I have talked to my therapist and she has sudjested to come out slow and to only let a few people know. You dont have to come out all at once and tell everyone but to tell a small amount of people and to make sure that you feel comfortable.

I am also with you MissAmy where I want to move out so I can have a place of my own so that I can wear my girl stuff alot more offten and not have to hide it. But the problem is that I live in California and this state is so expensive that there is no way to move out.

But take care and just go slow

Amy

[Guest MissAmy]

I do wish you luck Amy. It is an important step and one you need to plan out, so I'm glad to see you're not rushing into it.

There are great resources on this site to help you, like the Coming Out Forum and Laura's Resource Pages. Take advantage of

them.

When the time is right just remember this; hope for the best outcome, but prepare yourself mentally in case it doesn't work out

the way you want. It is a hard thing for people to understand, and there is a lot of misinformation out there about TG issues.

You may have to overcome that with patience and understanding. I know you have both, so I think you'll do fine.

HUGS

Carolyn Marie

I'm pretty sure I know how she'll react to it. I'm not expecting her to love the idea, but I do know she'll accept me for whatever I am. Plus she never had a daughter (she had 4 boys, and her oldest had a son back in April, so that makes 5 boys in a row. She's only had like 1 niece by blood as well), so she might help me dress up because of that.

[Guest Amy LeBlanc]

Hello all:

Well, I finally came right out and told my mom about dressing and how I like it. I got a great feed back and was accepted by my mom when I finally told her and she understands completly and did have some questions which I was able to answer and felt nervous at first when letting her know but then it started to get a little easier and made me fell comfortable.

But well, hope to hear from you all later

Amy

[Guest Penelope]

Congratulations Amy,

You are one lucky girl to have such an understanding mom.

Lots of Hugs,

Penelope

[Guest Joanna Phipps]

You are one lucky lady to have such understanding family. It has taken 6 months for my wife to get to that level of accpetance

[Guest Donna Jean]

Amy......

I never had a chance to respond when you were planning to come out to your mom...

And now that you've done it and had a great outcome...all I can say is *whew* and congratulations!

It's great that you'll now be able to be more open and the hiding will be able to cease!

Cool stuff!

HUGGS!

Donna Jean

[Guest Amy LeBlanc]

Thank you all for your support.

This is still my personnal life, but at least I do have a understanding family. As for my other reltaives, I do not want to tell them because of the fact that they are not as open as my imediate family and they are to live by church and too churchy and this is not the way. Dont get me wrong, but it is good to have faith and eveything and everybody has different beliefes but the rest of my relaitives are first church second life. There lives relove around church and thats not me and that not my imediate family. My imideate family is more liberal than the rest of my realitives.

But thank you again.

Amy

[Guest MissAmy]

Hello all:

Well, I finally came right out and told my mom about dressing and how I like it. I got a great feed back and was accepted by my mom when I finally told her and she understands completly and did have some questions which I was able to answer and felt nervous at first when letting her know but then it started to get a little easier and made me fell comfortable.

But well, hope to hear from you all later

Amy

Good news to hear. Has your mom helped you out when you dress? Do you dress openly in front of her? Has she given you make-up tips?

[Guest Amy LeBlanc]

Good news to hear. Has your mom helped you out when you dress? Do you dress openly in front of her? Has she given you make-up tips?

Answer to your question. No I have not dressed openly yet. My mom has not helped me out with dressing. She did say that this is new to her as it is new to me. I have told her that this is my identy and I do not want to give it up and she understands and if I want to talk to her I can but I still want to dress in private. I do want to actually have my sister who knows as well help me out dressing and give me some pointers.

Thank you for being there for me and helping me out.

Amy

[Guest MissAmy]

Answer to your question. No I have not dressed openly yet. My mom has not helped me out with dressing. She did say that this is new to her as it is new to me. I have told her that this is my identy and I do not want to give it up and she understands and if I want to talk to her I can but I still want to dress in private. I do want to actually have my sister who knows as well help me out dressing and give me some pointers.

Thank you for being there for me and helping me out.

Amy

When I finally tell my mom, I'm defaintly wearing girl stuff unless company is over. I wish I had a sister though, she'd probably be the first person I would tell.

[Guest Amy LeBlanc]

When I finally tell my mom, I'm defaintly wearing girl stuff unless company is over. I wish I had a sister though, she'd probably be the first person I would tell.

Thank you MissAmy. My sister was the first one who I have come out to and also since I am pretty skinny and my sister is pretty skinny, I am able to ware some of her clothes. I do feel like that we are sisters now instead of being brother and sister, we are sisters.

But well hope to here more from you and all

Amy

[Guest Jessica Who]

Awesome, congrats! I decided to tell my mom last December and since then she has been incredibly supportive. Just remember to take it slow and allow the person you are telling ample time to consider and digest what you are laying on them.

"Not hiding anymore" has also been one of my main motivations in coming out to more people, I am sick and tired of having to pretend that I'm crazy when I'm not !

- Jessica

[Guest Amy LeBlanc]

Awesome, congrats! I decided to tell my mom last December and since then she has been incredibly supportive. Just remember to take it slow and allow the person you are telling ample time to consider and digest what you are laying on them.

"Not hiding anymore" has also been one of my main motivations in coming out to more people, I am sick and tired of having to pretend that I'm crazy when I'm not !

- Jessica

Thank you Jessica. I am taking it slow and yet it is consuming me to be more girl and to want to live my life as a girl full time and now that I am starting to tell poeple, I am wanting to be more and more of a girl and ready for the next step of being a girl full time.

Amy