Baby Steps In The Right Direction

[Carolyn Marie]

Since coming out to my wife about two months ago, things have been in a sort of limbo between us. She has been tolerant and sometimes supportive,

but has resisted learning more than what I've told her about TG issues and my transition plans. We rarely discuss it and she has seemed uncomfortable

with the subject. I have patiently waited for some breakthrough. I may have gotten it this week.

I was on a short business trip that I posted about elsewhere here. After coming home Friday, and talking to my wife about what I did and the fun

I had talking with my friends here and presenting female to them via web cam, she seemed to be more interested and more accepting of the idea

of my transition. Among the highlights:

She asked about what I wore, and told me that she would like to see what I look like in my wig and makeup.

We talked more about my clothing choices and what I had on order, and didn't seem as troubled by the idea that I would someday go out

as Carolyn in public. I told her of my plans to go to my next therapy appointment en femme, and she didn't object as long as it wasn't

obvious to the neighbors and my son wouldn't know.

I asked if she would wash my pantyhose in this week's laundry, and she didn't bat an eye.

I got some new stretch jeans from a catalog purchase, and for the first time felt comfortable enough to try them on in front of her and ask her opinion

of the fit. She not only told me she loved the color, but had good advice about how they fit on me. We agreed I would need to return them for a

smaller size (yay!). It felt soooo good to be able to dress as Carolyn in front of her, and I look forward to more opportunities.

It won't be long before both of us feel comfortable with me being completely dressed as Carolyn... wig, makeup and all, at least around the house. I still

need to be very careful that my son not be around, but at least my wife is starting to understand and appreciate the fact that this is who I want to

become, and is at least accepting of it, if not completely comfortable with it.

It took longer to get to this point than I had wanted, but it was worth the wait. I feel like I am on the right track and the train is pulling out of the station.

Destination - a new life.

Carolyn Marie

[Guest Zabrak]

It seems things are slowly getting better for you and your wife. I really hope you two can pull through. Good luck, Carolyn. Your little bother is watching you from the sidelines!

[Guest Donna Jean]

Carolyn.....

{{{{BIGG HUGG}}}}}

That makes me so happy to hear...

It's so hard for us and our spouses..you, me, Lizzy, Joanna....we're all similar ages and for this to happen to us AND our spouses at this late in life, it takes a lot of work on our part..

You just stick with it, Sweetheart, and things will work...

I belong to another Trans group that is for elder trans people and many there are happily married and many are post-op and life goes on...

Don't be discouraged....it CAN and DOES work!

Love to you, Baby!

Donna Jean

[Guest ChloëC]

Hi Carolyn,

Well, there you go. Like going to bed Christmas eve, it just takes much too long for what we want to come about. Maybe that's the trick to aging. Set up goals that will take forrrrrevvvvvver to accomplish and time actually may slow down. The stress may go up a touch, but if it allows us to think we're living longer (and all the more time to do lots of things), then maybe it's not such a bad thing.

That is so great to hear about your spouse showing signs of wanting to talk about it. You know, maybe she just needed a few days to think it over, so could be your business trip accomplished a lot more then you ever would have expected.

See, it isn't a half full or half empty glass, it's a glass with water in it, and I'm thirsty.

Hugs,

Chloë

[Guest angie]

Carolyn Marie,

That Is Awesome My Sister!!!!!

Another step closer to Carolyn taking her place in the world.

And I like that your wife is more willing to accept the real you.

Huge Hard Hugs,

Angie

[Guest Joanna Phipps]

I know how it felt the day that I was able to finally dress as me around the house and underdress when out. It is a fantastic feeling and sis, I hope that the day comes where you can be you full time and have your family along on the journey.

Congrats and heres to the good things continuing for you

[Guest Erin Quinn]

That's so great to hear, i hope those babysteps continue. Keep on truckin sis

[Carolyn Marie]

Thanks everyone for your well wishes. They mean a lot to me, everyone one of them.

Its so great to feel that love and affection from my sisters and brothers. I get teary eyed thinking about all of you.

That train I'm on has lots of cars, and the seats are all filled with you all, because you're all along for the ride.

All aboard for Happiness City!

Carolyn Marie

[Guest yvonne]

That train I'm on has lots of cars, and the seats are all filled with you all, because you're all along for the ride.

Carolyn Marie

Carolyn Marie,

You'd better believe it, because it's true. We're enjoying the ride with you.

Special hugs,

Yvonne

[Guest Robin Winter]

That's so awesome Carolyn I'm glad things are heading the right direction for you.

*Hugs*

[Guest Elizabeth K]

SO GRAND

My wife is like yours in some ways - doesn't want to hear much detail.

This weekend we were especially close again for some reason. I have been trying to help her through some non-TS stuff she has to deal with right now. She said it was like old times.

Later she hugged me and said "I think I might like this woman." I just about dropped my plate (we were getting ready to eat.)

Carolyn - I am so happy those little things are falling in place. Keep it up sweetheart - keep it up!

Love you

Lizzy

[Guest Kayliegh]

Hey big Sis!

I’m so envious! – My SO just asked me to go in and take care of the kids, so she could talk to her “support group” without me being present!

I guess it depends on who we’re with, but I’m very happy for you and your understanding SO!!!

Love - Kayleigh