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My name is Pamela, I am a MTF TS. I am married, working stealth and not transitioning at this time.

I am looking for support and new friends as I feel that things are only just getting interesting in my life. My wife is having trouble dealing with my gender identity, *I* am having t rouble trying to keep it from emerging and ruining my marriage, life and sanity. Coming out at work could well get me killed so that's out, too.

There are times that I get confused and could use some advice. My life is really heating up and I get overwhelmed, despite being at a distance from it. I have suggested that my wife join here also to find some others like her who have transgender spouses and maybe find some help as well.

Anyway, hello and I look forward to enjoying my time here.

Pam

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Guest Charlene_Leona

Hi Pammy welcome to Laura's Playground, while it's a good that your wife knows about your gender issues I'm sorry it's causing problems for you marriage. It would be a very good idea for your wife to join as well, Our members are a family here and were here to help. If you need anything feel free to ask, we'll try our best to help.

Take Care

Charlene Leona

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Guest Donna Jean

Welcome to the Playground, Pam.....

I understand you completely...being married myself...it can be hard...but, it can work!

So, don't give up...our spouses have a hard time of it and need our support as much as we need theirs!

That said...

I'll get you some nice hot coco and a big plate of Sally's cookies...and you can sit over here in a big comfy chair....OK?

We''l have some of the others com by to say "HI"...and wish you welcome...

I'm glad that you found us, Honey....

Make yourself comfy....

HUGGS!

Donna Jean

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Guest ~Brenda~

Hi Pammy,

Welcome to Laura's!! Yes, have your wife join too. Laura's provides support for us as well as our Signifcant Others and family.

I do hope that you find what you are looking for here. We are here for your support.

Welcome and post to the forums hon.

Love

Brenda

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Hi, Pamela, and welcome to Laura's.

As you have seen already, there is lots of love and support in this wonderful place. Take full advantage of it and post all the

questions and comments you like. We will be there to answer them as best we can.

There are many people here in similar circumstances as yours, so you should feel comfortable about asking any of us questions.

I look forward to hearing more from you and about you.

HUGS

Carolyn Marie

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Guest Natalie92

Hi Pam! It sounds from your statement that you've found the right place. :D Everyone here here is really nice and no one ever judges.

Natalie Alexis

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Hello Pamela,

I am so glad to meet you.

Welcome to the sisterhood of the MTFs who have to work as male.

We are all here to help each other so do feel free to ask questions or to offer advice from your own experiences we are interested in what you have to say.

Welcome to the family and we do hope that your wife would like to join for her support as well, we love the inlaws here too.

Love ya,

Sally.

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quick reply as I need sleep:

Thank you all for the warm welcome. Please, no hot cocoa, as it causes bad things to happen. Do we have any hot cider? Cinnamon stick please!

My wife has been invited to join but I doubt she will. She has pinned her hopes on a telephone therapist! Groan!

The thing about my job is, my company has strict policies against discrimination and harassment. But they only apply to employees and only on company property. I travel extensively and sometimes, like tonight, sleep in a seedy gas station.

Oh, to be out at work! Hurry up Congress and pass ENDA II!!! Not that it'll help me much...

I'm afraid the in-law won't be joining unless we have a Spanish channel. Her English is terrible! And I'm not out to mom-in-law. I still have that silly knee-jerk stealth response to anyone who is not TG, except for a few trusted friends and recently my doctor.

Now, more about me: I am currently unable to do HRT due to serious health issues, which may bar me permanently. This is causing me a great deal of anxiety and stress. I was diagnosed TG in 1998. I didn't begin transition at that time, against the recommendation of my therapist, because of my own fears and biases. I remained stealth to one and all until 2004 when I told a post-op friend. If SHE wouldn't understand, who would? Right? I've come out to a few more people, mostly other girls like me, one guy, my doctor and of course, my wife. I really should have told her prior to marrying her, I regret not telling her sooner.

I am trying a different method for giving up my ciggie habit. I really need to quit! The usual ways didn't work. My TG friend Rita told me to try her way, switch to lights, then ultra lights to wean myself from nicotine, then give them up cold turkey and suffer withdrawal for a week. It'll be a lot less and if I can go for a week without a smoke, I can stay off. It's the cravings that I have to resist. But this time I'm going to do it for good!

Enough for tonight, it's off to bed for me!

Thank you all again for the warm welcome!

Pam

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Guest Joe Cool

Hi Pam!

Welcome to the Playground! It is the Friendliest Place on Earth! You will meet the nicest people and they can help answer your questions or support you any way they can! This is the best time of the year for hot cider! You are in luck! Look around and jump in with any questions or comments you may have! I look forward to getting to know you better!

Joe

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