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Guest April63

I know this topic has been brought up before, but I'm bringing it up again. Razor bumps. ick

I am an absolutely hairy beast. I don't like that so I've been starting to shave or at least trim a lot of my body hair. I would prefer to shave, because I want the cleaner, smoother feel and look. I've been shaving my tummy, but I get a lot of these bumps there especially bellow my belly button. I've heard that the chest is more sensitive, so I've been holding off on trying to shave that. So the question is, how do I get rid of the bumps? I put Aquaphor (petroleum jelly) on every night to moisture and heal the skin. Normally in the morning most of the bumps are gone, but they come back with the itchiness as the day goes on. I have tried letting the hair grow out for a few days, which causes the bumps to go away, but they come back the next time I shave. What's the trick to keep the red, itchy bumps away?

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The best way to shave your body period,is when you are taking a shower.

Wash your full body,then lather your tummy.You shave downward first,

rinsing the razor constantly.Then sideways,to get the hair even shorter.

Finally now the up stroke that gives a nice smooth finish.Remember to

always have a good razor to eliminate burn.Lotion on leaving the shower,

while you are still damp.This will about stop any irritation,and give super

soft moist skin.And to make certain of no burn,you can always use alcohol

if you don't mind a little bit of pain.(hehehe)

Angie

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Guest AshleeB

Hi there April.

Im not making fun of you... but i find it slightly humorous that you say your a hairy beast and your avatar is a lion :P

But yeah i totally agree with Angie. thats my method aswell. im not very hairy really but to get rid of the hair i DO have, thats how i do it. in the shower, clean myself and do the exact method she said :D

Good luck bubs =D

Luv

Ashlee

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Guest ~Brenda~

April hon,

I will tell you what I do :)

After I shower, I turn the shower water very low with only a smal trickle of hot water running. I lather up again each area that I am going to shave. Let's tak your tummy for example. I lather that up with simply soap. Then I take a dual blade razor (my preference is the the Twin Select Silky Touch from Bic). I then lightly shave up from my lower abdomal region up and out towards the sides, just underneath the breasts. The key thing here with regards to razor bumbs is not to press too hard nor go to fast. A light and steady shaving stroke will give you the results you are looking for. There is a fine line to pressng just enough and too much. Let the razor glide over your skin. Use plenty of soap and rinse your razor often with the stream of water. Over time, shaving will become automatic and you won't even think about it. You can apply this same basic approach to your chest and legs too :)

Even if you get razor rash/bumps don't get discouraged. Let them heal and try again. You will get the hang of it! Shaving takes practice. You will get it down.

Before you know it, your skin will always be smooth :)

Love

Brenda

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Guest April63

I always shave in the shower. I've been shaving up, maybe down is the trick, but I think I've tried that before. Also I don't think I've been pressing too hard, but I can always try to do it lighter.

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Guest Jean Davis

Hi honey

Wish I could help but I had the same problems you have plus a lot of nicks.

So I bought myself an epilator, I just love mine. :D

I think they work great, that's if you can stand the pain the first couple of times.

But I don't have to worry about nicks or bumps any more. ;)

LUV

Jean

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Guest Joe Cool

Hi April!

I guess all the other ladies as well.... There is a special spray - they all have different names but essentially do the same thing. They are for a biological girl for when she shaves her private area so that she does not get razor burn or bumps or itching. My girlfriend uses it for her legs and I asked her if it really works. It can be used on any part of the body you might shave. She says it is for any part that get shaves and is for super sensitive skin. It gets sprayed on after to prevent that. I have to run out to work it is around 5am now and I will be home this evening. I will get the name of the product or someone can pm if I forget and you think it would be helpful?

Joe

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Hi April,

What a problem! I don't know about you, but in my case it's been caused by dry skin. The ends of my hairs are very sharp after shaving and the tips seem to catch on the skin as they're coming back out. Then, I get a red bump. Lots of them, actually.

I tried a lot of moisturizers and found most of them don't seem to work for me. Neutrogena Hand Creme has finally done the trick. I have to put it on several times a day to start. It takes a lot to get my skin soft and moisturized. But after I do, I can shave any which way and it's no big deal. I can then use Neutrogena body lotion for maintenance.

Let the skin go and dry out, and the bumps are back, complete with itching..

It's an idea. Hope it works.

No bumps to you,

Yvonne

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Guest krisspykriss

I used to get razor bumps regardless of my shaving routine. I always do it in the shower/bath. I tried several different shaving gels and creams. I tried with the grain and against the grain. I used to always get them, no matter what I done. Then after a while, I quit getting them. My skin just had to get used to it I guess. Maybe yours might have to as well? I don't know. Keeping it well moisturized, shaven daily, and avoiding anything rough or tight on the area I had problems with helped me a lot. I almost never get them now.

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Guest ~Brenda~
I used to get razor bumps regardless of my shaving routine. I always do it in the shower/bath. I tried several different shaving gels and creams. I tried with the grain and against the grain. I used to always get them, no matter what I done. Then after a while, I quit getting them. My skin just had to get used to it I guess. Maybe yours might have to as well? I don't know. Keeping it well moisturized, shaven daily, and avoiding anything rough or tight on the area I had problems with helped me a lot. I almost never get them now.

That is a really good point kriss :) Yes your skin does get used to it. For me as I am sure for you too, one day you realize that you have been shaving for months and there has been no issues. Shaving becomes so automatic like brushing your teeth. You just do it without thinking.

Brenda

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I used to get razor bumps regardless of my shaving routine. I always do it in the shower/bath. I tried several different shaving gels and creams. I tried with the grain and against the grain. I used to always get them, no matter what I done. Then after a while, I quit getting them. My skin just had to get used to it I guess. Maybe yours might have to as well? I don't know. Keeping it well moisturized, shaven daily, and avoiding anything rough or tight on the area I had problems with helped me a lot. I almost never get them now.

Me either Chrissy,

And I keep my privates very trimmed and smooth.

I know my doc flipped when she saw how neat and mostly hairless I keep myself down there.

A big poofy muffin? Not for this young lady.(grin)

Hugs,

Angie

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Guest chloehobbs

I shave my chest and bits on a regular basis and have been know to shave my legs during the summer. There is a lot of good advice from the other girls in this thread and I think you just need to take your time shaving, let your body get used to it and moisturise well afterwards. Personally I always apply cold water to the shaved area and moisturise with nivea soft moisturising cream

hugs

chloe

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Guest April63

Ok. Thanks.

I have been shaving it for a little while, but I guess not long enough. I've been shaving on and off for a few months now. Maybe I need to be more consistent. How often should I shave? And should I shave the same way with the bumps? Or should I give the bumps a break, let them disappear and then shave? And moisturize a lot every day.

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Guest erikka2046

I shave daily and always do it in the shower with warmth water. Shaving cream and sharp blade is very important to have a smooth and clean skin. I change the blade at least once a week. For the bumps I use Bikini Zone right the shave, it clears out nearly all of the bumps and make my skin very smooth.

Erikka

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Give it time on HRT and shaving becomes a breeze.

The hair is so fine and growth so reduced,it takes minutes

to do the full job,and your legs stay silky smooth for any

where from days,to a full week.

Angie

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Guest April63
Give it time on HRT and shaving becomes a breeze.

The hair is so fine and growth so reduced,it takes minutes

to do the full job,and your legs stay silky smooth for any

where from days,to a full week.

Angie

Thing is I'm not on HRT and I won't be on it any time soon.

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I know this topic has been brought up before, but I'm bringing it up again. Razor bumps. ick

I am an absolutely hairy beast. I don't like that so I've been starting to shave or at least trim a lot of my body hair. I would prefer to shave, because I want the cleaner, smoother feel and look. I've been shaving my tummy, but I get a lot of these bumps there especially bellow my belly button. I've heard that the chest is more sensitive, so I've been holding off on trying to shave that. So the question is, how do I get rid of the bumps? I put Aquaphor (petroleum jelly) on every night to moisture and heal the skin. Normally in the morning most of the bumps are gone, but they come back with the itchiness as the day goes on. I have tried letting the hair grow out for a few days, which causes the bumps to go away, but they come back the next time I shave. What's the trick to keep the red, itchy bumps away?

Hello I am Jonie.I used to get bumps and in grown hairs really bad around my private parts.it was so bad that my doctor seen them he was like what in the world have you ben in to.you are going to think I am nuts when I say this.the only way that I shave any more is in the bath tube.with baby oil in the watter since I have ben doing that I do not get the bumps or in grown her any more.you just have to be careful getting in and out of the bath and wash the baby oil out after you are done.so the next time you take a shower you do not slip and fall. I hope this will help you.

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Guest Angelgrlsue

Hi April.

I shave in the shower as well, less messy and you can get all areas shaved at once. Just lather up with either soap or a shower gel, sometimes I use hair conditioner. Then I pick up my trio razor, I may go for a four blade razor pretty soon, my hair is very coarse on the face, start by shaving down and then lather up again and do the opposite and shave upwards then to the side. Go slowly, otherwise you end up with nicking yourself. Afterwards when I get out of the shower I put on a moisterizer.

Hugs,

Suzie

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Guest julia_d

Now then.. that is the secret.. a proper razor, not a cheap disposable thing. After a few years you can abuse them with just about anything (I know.. I do) but I still get a better result from a quality 4 blade razor designed for women (after all.. that's what my legs and stuff are now)

You can always try some of those creams, but I find they don't work on my hair.. I chop mine off every few days, otherwise there is nothing for the razor to get a grip on..

finally.. don't fall for this con trick of the "totally hairless woman" .. it's media and advertising hype, no more, no less.. we don't exist. Womens beauty tips websites are the places for reviews of razors and products.. treat your legs like girls do and you will achieve the same results.

Better still.. look around and try to be a little more comfortable and accepting of what your body does. I have never met a woman yet who hasn't admitted to wearing jeans sometimes because they couldn't be bothered dealing with stubble this week..

The important thing to remember is this. Being perceived as female (that's what we are trying to achieve isn't it?) isn't about perfection, it's about being normal and confident and above all comfortable in your skin. Running about panicking about a little razor burn or perhaps being able to feel a little stubble.. no way.. women don't do it, they just think.. "oops.. better sort that out when I get chance" My wife used to do her legs before a big night out, otherwise she just let it do whatever it wanted.. and she used my face razor most of the time (and I used to get annoyed.. because I had a proper leg razor XD)

I don't know about anybody else, but when I used to have facial hair and chop it off every day, after a couple of days the blades weren't up to beard any more, so then that one was relegated to legs and it did a great job. I'm not the only one of our group of the time who noticed that a razor with the edge taken off was a lot kinder.

Last thing... everybody has different skin, what works for one person isn't going to work for another... moisturisers on my legs and arms ALWAYS brings me up in a rash.. I use plain ordinary bath soap and a venus in the bath.. lovely job... but I have used single blade bic things in the past.. whatever has been handy in an emergency, and I never really had much of a problem.

I get a feeling that very often it's the perfumes and other junk that is in all these moisturisers and creams that cause the rash.. it's being rubbed into stripped and open skin after all. My best results are from plain unscented bath soap.. cheap generic own brand stuff.

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finally.. don't fall for this con trick of the "totally hairless woman" .. it's media and advertising hype, no more, no less.. we don't exist. Womens beauty tips websites are the places for reviews of razors and products.. treat your legs like girls do and you will achieve the same results.

I don't know about anybody else, but when I used to have facial hair and chop it off every day, after a couple of days the blades weren't up to beard any more, so then that one was relegated to legs and it did a great job. I'm not the only one of our group of the time who noticed that a razor with the edge taken off was a lot kinder.

Last thing... everybody has different skin, what works for one person isn't going to work for another... moisturisers on my legs and arms ALWAYS brings me up in a rash.. I use plain ordinary bath soap and a venus in the bath.. lovely job... but I have used single blade bic things in the past.. whatever has been handy in an emergency, and I never really had much of a problem.

I get a feeling that very often it's the perfumes and other junk that is in all these moisturisers and creams that cause the rash.. it's being rubbed into stripped and open skin after all. My best results are from plain unscented bath soap.. cheap generic own brand stuff.

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finally.. don't fall for this con trick of the "totally hairless woman" .. it's media and advertising hype, no more, no less.. we don't exist. Womens beauty tips websites are the places for reviews of razors and products.. treat your legs like girls do and you will achieve the same results.

I don't know about anybody else, but when I used to have facial hair and chop it off every day, after a couple of days the blades weren't up to beard any more, so then that one was relegated to legs and it did a great job. I'm not the only one of our group of the time who noticed that a razor with the edge taken off was a lot kinder.

Last thing... everybody has different skin, what works for one person isn't going to work for another... moisturisers on my legs and arms ALWAYS brings me up in a rash.. I use plain ordinary bath soap and a venus in the bath.. lovely job... but I have used single blade bic things in the past.. whatever has been handy in an emergency, and I never really had much of a problem.

I get a feeling that very often it's the perfumes and other junk that is in all these moisturisers and creams that cause the rash.. it's being rubbed into stripped and open skin after all. My best results are from plain unscented bath soap.. cheap generic own brand stuff.

I too used to relegate my used facial razors to shaving only my legs after they were too worn

and would have only hurt my face.I too use womens four blade razors because they give the smoothest shave.But...I use liquid body soaps.Nothing generic will do for this woman,I like the

ones with moisturizers in them.Then again,I am allergic to most soaps,so all I can use are name

brand stuff like White Tea with Vitamin E from Dial.And a big bottle lasts for a couple of months.

Angie

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Guest April63

I still get them :(

My razor is a Gillette Fusion, so it has five blades. I guess that's better than three or four. I've been using lotion after showering/shaving and normally before bed too. I've been using Ocean Potion Skincare Moisturizing Aloe Lotion. I don't know if anyone has heard of it. I kind of like it, but I don't know if it's really making anything better, as I still get the bumps. The first day after shaving, I don't seem to get them, but they start appearing a few days later if I keep shaving :( I wish they would just go away...

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      Post 11 “The Move West”    I mentioned in previous posts how many of the places I lived impacted my comfort level, and from my perspective, living in New Jersey was the perfect location for a trans woman.  However, other factors, such as property taxes and living costs, meant my wife and I couldn’t comfortable retire there.  Additionally, my wife wanted to live closer to our kids, and I couldn’t deny her that desire, especially since she dutifully followed me around the globe during my military and flying career.  Because the boys both lived on the “left” coast, we were going to retire somewhere in the western half of the United States.    Searching for places to retire, we wanted a locale that was easy on taxes and benefitted retirees.  However, I was ever vigilant for a place that was going to be trans friendly.  We actually passed on many places because, based on the research I did, they were not considered good locales for alternative lifestyles.  The internet has its issues, but there are numerous LGBTQ resources that helped us make an informed decision.  Despite the research we did, you really can’t know if you are going to be comfortable somewhere until you’ve actually lived there.   The plan was to select a location, and move when I retired.  However, the demand for real estate in New Jersey put our house in high-demand, and our real estate agent suggested we sell as soon as possible to take advantage of the market.  We put the house up for sale and it sold in under 15-days.  Suddenly, we had to find a new place to live, so instead of waiting until I stopped working, we relocated immediately.    Nevada had always come up as a great retirement location.  There was no state tax, and the cost of living was much lower than any of the other places we had on our list.  Surprisingly, many of the larger Nevada municipalities scored high as LGBTQ locations.  Las Vegas got the best LGBTQ ratings but we didn’t want to live in such a large city.  However, both Carson City and Reno looked like acceptable alternatives.  We chose the Reno area, although the house we bought is about 50-mile away from the city.   In the back of my mind, I kept wondering if the research I had done about Reno being LGBTQ friendly was accurate.  Clearly, I had assumed some risk here, since the research results didn’t specifically address the transgender community.  Adding to my anxiety, I couldn’t find any local trans groups, and the Reno LGBTQ community center’s transgender page hadn’t been refreshed in several years.  The only way for me to know for sure what things would be like for me, was to put myself out there.    Sally’s first day in Reno would be a June Saturday morning.  The plan was to do some shopping and find a place to eat lunch.  I started my day by stopping at Starbucks for coffee.  It was a pleasant surprise to greeted so openly by the staff, and this seemed a first positive sign.  Then it was off to the mall.  I shopped at a few of the department stores, and strolled through the mall proper.  It was a busy Saturday, with lots of people out and about, but I never noticed an odd or disparaging look, nor did I encounter a personal interaction that wasn’t anything but pleasant and cordial.  After the mall, I stopped at PF Chang’s for lunch.  Since I was alone, I asked the hostess if I could get food at the bar.  The young lady tending the bar that day was so sweet, and we immediately became friends.  The next thing I knew, I was being introduced to other servers, and became the center of their attention.  They raved about my outfit and the boots I was wearing.  Talk about feeling special.    So, my first day as Sally was awesome, and since that first outing, I have never had an uncomfortable moment in Reno.  I have also noticed several trans women in my travels, so obviously there is a population here.  It kind of surprises me there isn’t an active social group, but then maybe the women I’ve encountered have settled into society here, and don’t need it.  I don’t actually need a trans specific social group either.  My wife is my BFF, and she and I get out together often enough that I don’t feel lonely or alone.   I bet there are other girls out there; however, who are still in the closet, or perhaps don’t know how much fun Reno is.  For those girls, I have considered starting a social group.  In fact, I have already coordinated a “girl’s” weekend for this coming September.  The plan is to spend the weekend enjoying all Reno has to offer, but centered around a Saturday evening concert.  It should be lots of fun, and I’m looking forward to it.  The challenge is getting the word out.  I probably need to coordinate with the local LGBTQ center to help spread the word.   Turns out Reno is a fun place to live even though I am trans.  The people Sally has met have all been very friendly, but I can’t imagine it being any other way, since Sally is also friendly, and based on my interaction with others, very likeable as well.  I think I’m living proof that when you are open, friendly, have a positive attitude, and smile a lot, people respond in kind, even when they might know, or have a hint you weren’t born the gender you are presenting.    One could assume that my positive social experiences have just been dumb luck, but when I consider how long I have been out as Sally, it can’t just be luck.  I know in my heart, that I am doing something right, that my female personality resonates in a way that ensures I am accepted as the woman I am trying to be.   Hugs,   Sally
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