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Long Story Short, I Have To See A Counsellor..


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If you want the long version of the story...

I felt fine today untill about 10:00. I was in a class at school and no one was really working, so I just put my head down on the desk for a while because I felt sick and dizzy and had pains in my stomach. The teacher didn't notice untill everyone else had left the room when the class ended at 10:30. He told me to go to the toilets if I felt sick, so I got up and went. It's literally the room directly opposite that classroom, but just walking from there didn't help, and I collapsed on the floor in front of the toilet. These two girls who are my 'sort-of-friends' from that class came in with me. They saw me and got a first aider.

Of course, the first aider won't take my word that I'd feel better in half an hour or so. It's not the first time this has happened but it was the worst. She got me a doctor's appointment and I went immediately since she wouldn't listen to a word I said about how I knew I'd feel better (I did feel better soon, by the way).

Fast forward some time and I'm at the doctor, sitting in front of him with my mother.. Ideally I'd have been on my own but 1) I can't understand his accent, 2) He's slightly deaf and can't understand me either, 3) I didn't feel like shouting at him when I didn't feel great. So the first thing he does is check my blood pressure - which isn't exactly great. Then he makes me get on the scale and tells me right there in front of my mother that I'm supposedly 30lbs underweight. I can't see that being true. I'm pretty sure it's an exaggeration/shock tactic, since there's no way the minimum weight I should be is 130lbs. So either that's the 'problem' causing my fainting or I have some rare disease that he can only tell from a blood test and I'm terrified of needles so didn't have one then. I also think he said something about 'phychologist' and 'forced treatment', but like I said, I can't understand him.

Basically, I'm not in a good mood. Actually, I came out crying. But I went back to school because I wanted something to take my mind off of it. The first aider saw me and asked me how it went, and I told her. Then she takes me aside for 'a chat'. 'A chat' seems to involve her trying to work out why I'm apparently 30lbs underweight, and I think she's convinced I have an eating disorder (okay, so I'll admit I may have a slight problem along those lines, but it's nothing compared to some stories I've heard). She kept trying to make me eat biscuits and have a chocolate milkshake that she had in her bag and I refused (since it was almost lunch, and I'm actually vegan so wouldn't have wanted those things anyway).

She kept asking what was 'troubling' me. I said I felt fine and that nothing was up, which was true, but she seemed almost insistent on making me think that something was 'bothering' me, and got me an appointment with the school counsellor tomorrow at 9am. I've got no idea what to say or how to act or if she'll think I'm crazy. I really hope not.

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Thorndrop, I'm sorry you had such a rotten day. You have to admit, though, that when school folks see

someone slumped on the floor, there is a 100 per cent chance they will take it seriously and make sure

you get medical attention. They are required to do so.

I don;t know what the prospects are to find another GP, but if you can't understand the one you have,

and he can't understand you, that's not a good situation. Perhaps you can suggest to your mother that

a change would be a good idea.

I was wondering, though, if first aider's in your school all carry biscuits and chocolate shakes around

with them in the event they see people passed out from hunger. LOL That made me laugh.

Good luck tomorrow, Hon. I hope it goes better than today.

Carolyn Marie

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Guest AlexanderG

Thorndrop,

me's gonna be a jerk.

Be completely honest with yourself. Is 100lbs a normal weight for your height??? And are you not really, consciously or subconsciously, denying there's a problem when you know there is one (as you admit there's some problems along those lines).

If people regularly faint, and are 100lbs, and hint at there being some problems but immediately bagatellize them, I'd think exactly that, too.

Either way, the best of luck wished with what happens next.

Alex

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Guest Thorndrop

It's not worth changing doctor since I hardly ever have to go, and I haven't been before now for years.

Haha.. I think the biscuits and chocolate shake was for her lunch or something. :lol:

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