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Guest Tim's Emma

Hi, my name's Emma and I am the partner of Wolfy19, previously known as TIMan, hence my silly name that i could do with changing :)

I'm a student studying English and creative writing in my second year at uni. I'm 20 and still live at home, giving me plently of time for work, writing and my man XD

I've been with him for nearly 3 years now and I found out roughly 6 months ago. It was abit of a shock at first because it came from nowhere and it was a bit hurtful he had never told me how he felt (though i understand its hardly an easy thing to say outloud for the first time), but then it was fine.

We would get excited talking bout his haircuts (which i now do after a HORRIBLE cut at the hairdressers and made me cry coz it was the first one and from lovely long black hair he now had this awful little dodgey bob!) we go shopping in mens shops and i stand outside the changing rooms and pester him to walk to the opening so i can see them if he wants to buy them. He takes me out on dates, opens doors for me and is my protective boyfriend.

I know he gets annoyed about how long all this is taking. He gets mad and rants about how he can't stand that its not him in control, its the doctors that decided it and he hates it because they cant see how sure he is, how much he wants it and he is ready for it ect. Sometimes its difficult to know what to say or how to calm him down. Usually i just remind him that it's good they are so cautious because for some people it isnt the right thing, some need different periods of councilling or they think this is what they want and actually its just a smokescreen for whats really wrong, i have to remind him that if he ever feels one of those ways he'll be extremly grateful that they took their time and double checked everything. Thats the bit where he calms down because he can't argue with that and then he'll look at me and just whine defeatedly- but i AM sure, which usually makes me laugh cause he sounds so funny saying it. (don't worry, he doesn't get offended and he does it in the voice on purpose to make me laugh) :)

The hardest for me is making sure he is talking to me about it. I know he's scared of boring me by talking on and on about it and he's also expecting me at some point to turn round and get suddenly freaked out. He seems to forget that when he first told me it was me who sent him all the links about the stages, because at the time he hadn't looked into what it entailed. Since then he's flown off on google and now each time i log on he's sent me more links. He's posted a few in one of the forums, a guy called Ty on youtube i know he keeps refering to when we're talking about what happens ect. I get nervous and paranoid that he's not telling me things and when he first came on here i was struggling to be supportive because although i knew it would help him, it meant it was somewhere he could rant about things without talking to me. I know to many of you it will be said that tahts a good thing and that theyll be things he wont WANT to tell me about, but you know that when you really love someone and want to support them the idea of them writing long posts on feelings you don't know their feeling really does feel like a kick in the gut :/ so i'm here and getting used to it myself, and he's promised that I'll always be the person he thinks of first when he needs to rant, and i trust him with that so i feel better :)

The other main probem is when he comes on. He has an extremly bad time whenever his period starts anyway and the fact his body is doing that just feels...wrong to him. he gets really depressed and moody, even more so because he has the hormones from the period. He gets snappy and says stuff that he knows will annoy me, but my friends always support him (which i love) and tell me to ignore what he's said and that he'll come and apologise in a while, and he does. I found the best way to pull him out of his is a day in bed watching movies and i'll make his dinner and bring over giant bars of caramel. When he was feeling worse one week i dragged him out shopping to Next mensware and threw a pile of jeans at him to try on and i think a coat aswell. The coat he loved and bought and in H&M we finally found him some jeans. Just being able to buy and look good in male clothes completly drew his attention away from his womanly cycle and he cheered up. Plus i have to keep throwing caramel at him to destract him from over-thinking again, but otherwise i think 90% of the time i'm able to cheer him up :)

I just wish there was something i could do to make it go faster or help him, but i know the best thing i can do is hold his hand and tell him a love him. I'm EXTREMLY girly and i think he loves playing up to being the perfect boyfriend. He'll carry all my bags when we go shopping, apart from the paper ones like hotel chocolat and selfridges (if i can ever afford to go in there and treat myself that is), because he knows i like the little paper ones :) he really is the perfect gentlemen and although he is forbidden to call me 'the wife' i always refer to him as my hubby. Incase you're wondering what he calls me it's usually his wench lol (i hope that word is ok to use moderator?)

So thats us, i'll let you go and be sick from all the soppy stuff now. I'm very sorry! I did try to hold back so he doesn't cringe but it is hard when you really do care for someone and are happy with them not to... over do it. :)

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Guest Donna Jean

Good morning, Emma!

Oh, yes, "wench" is allowable....lol

Care for a cup of coco and some of Sally's cookies?

I enjoyed your post here...you are very supportive of him and I think that is wonderful...

On an opposite note, I'm MTF and heading the other way and my wife has to put up with a lot of my new "behaviors, too.

My anger and rage are gone now and in it's place are love, compassion and crying! Lots of crying!

And even though us Trans folk are having a rough go of it, I believe the S/O's are having as hard or harder go of it...

It's wonderful that you are being so supportive of him.

Please hang in there and come here for support for yourself ...as you can see there are a lot of supportive folks here and a ton of information to help lighten the load.

Thanks for coming, Baby!

LOVE & HUGGS!

Donna Jean

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Guest ~Brenda~

Welcome Emma!!

Welcome to Laura's sweetheart. There is a forum for Significant others here at Laura's. When you get the chance, peruse that forum. I think it will give you some real insight and see that you a far from alone :)

Welcome :)

Brenda

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  • Admin

Hi, Emma! Please let me join my wonderful sisters in welcoming you to the Playground.

You are truly a wonderful woman to stand by Wolfy and support him the way you are.

Just by becoming a member here you show how much you love him and want to help

him. I admire that more that I can say.

I know its hard to see him so frustrated about the pace of his transition. One of the things I

tell people is that patience is one of the most necessary traits that a transman or transwoman

needs, because it is such a long process and things are not always within your control. Being

by his side through the inevitable delays will help him immensley.

I look forward to seeing more of your posts.

HUGS

Carolyn Marie

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Guest Tim's Emma

Thank you all,

Sometimes i really do need that confidence boost that i'm doing the right thing when he gets annoyed, but i know he's worth and and he makes me happy so I'm not going anywhere. I just have to make sure i hold my tongue with his mother sometimes... she is supporting and i realise that is amazing and not everyone has that to start with, but she can be very crude and say stupid things that set him off. i spend most of the time sounding like I'm explaining what she's going through when most of the time my head's actually going 'would it kill you not to have said tat stupid scarcastic comment you daft woman?!' maybe that's just a mother-in-law thing tho :P

Oh, i must say that i realise i write ALOT in very long expressive posts, but i'm a writer by trade and i'm usually writing like this so i really have to reign it in and i will try and keep it short!

Lots of love,

Emma

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Emma,

I am going to get a cup of cocoa and propose a toast to you, we all know how hard transitioning is on us but we forget that our SOs who stay go through a transition of their own.

To you and all of the loving, caring and oh so patient partners of we transgendered, troubled souls - bless you for staying and loving us still and know that your place in heaven is already reserved.

Welcome to the family, I am so glad to meet you.

Love ya,

Sally

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Guest Wolfy19
Emma,

I am going to get a cup of cocoa and propose a toast to you, we all know how hard transitioning is on us but we forget that our SOs who stay go through a transition of their own.

To you and all of the loving, caring and oh so patient partners of we transgendered, troubled souls - bless you for staying and loving us still and know that your place in heaven is already reserved.

Welcome to the family, I am so glad to meet you.

Love ya,

Sally

Here here! thank you Emma for being amazing :) dont deserve you at all!

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Guest BlueMoon
Here here! thank you Emma for being amazing :) dont deserve you at all!

Because you're not biased at all Wolfy lol. and you do deserve me so shut up :P

Thankyou Sally :)

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Hi Emma,

<<hug>>

Welcome to Laura's Playground.

Please feel free to come over and chat sometime.

The Chat room does require another registration that is separate from from your forums one.

Please read the chat room rules before coming in, and expect a short interview with one of the chat room moderators.

One of the things that they will ask you is if you read the rules. :)

We have S/O Meeting -Sun & Tues. 9pm est Anne is the moderator, and you are welcome to attend.

We all look forward to seeing you.

:wub: vanna

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Guest SusanKG

Hello Emma,

Welcome. Those of us that have this thing of course suffer, sometimes greatly, but those next to us sometimes hurt more. It's important for us to realize that, and do what we can to give back the help we get. It's good to have you here, and all the best.

SusanKG

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Guest Jean Davis
Here here! thank you Emma for being amazing :) dont deserve you at all!
Because you're not biased at all Wolfy lol. and you do deserve me so shut up :P

Thankyou Sally :)

Awww this is sooooooo sweet. :P It's nice to see two people that care about each other so much. ;)

But anyways, Welcome to the family Emma, so glad you could join us. :D

LUV

Jean

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