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I decided to try and go full time in my little town of 5000. It started Monday night. I came home from Indy (I am 24/7 when I am there) and my roomy was a little down in the dumps. I offered to take her to eat Mexican. I changed out of my low cut vneck blouse and put on a unisex shirt. She said I could go as Chrissy, but I wasn't ready for it. What I forgot to do was remove my makeup, bra, women's slacks, and a cute hat I found at Dress Barn. So we go and have a good time. I ordered a margarita. There was a mix up I thought I agreed to a 16oz glass but he brought out a 60oz glass. So I was a little tipsy. I went in the bathroom, looked in the mirror and saw I was totally looking like a woman. I went back to our table, sat down and said "OMG! All I did was change my shirt!" My roomy laughed and said she was wondering why I changed out of the blouce when I looked so cute in it. So here I was in "redneckville" dressed, looking and passing as a woman and I just then realized it. So I decided to start full time early, and see how everything went.

Yesterday I went grocery shopping, to the gas station, the drug store and got a bite for lunch dressed. No one reacted negatively. The world didnt end. Everything went very well. So I am now on day 2 and getting ready to go pay a bill and get something to eat. I hope this day goes just as well and I am confident it will. I sent a message to my friends locally that I started full time and I would possibly be attending our monthly gathering of karaoke, drinking and chatting in femme. A lot of them said it was about time and that I would be surprised how many people in town and such think I am a GG. That floored me because I always go out locally in andro or femme guy mode. I never tried to pass here until yesterday. So... I think this will go well. My only concern is we are getting together at the Legion which is slightly redneck but not too bad. Then again this town is redneck, and they have treated so nicely and respectfully. So I am going dressed to kill with heels nails the whole nine... and if anything starts going wrong I only live 2 blocks away.

My boyfriend said he is proud of me, but he hopes I am not pushing it. There is no need to be in a rush. He is just concerned about the conservative small town treating me right. In Indy he drags me everywhere and so what if I get made. He is just leery of my doing it here. Anyway, I am so ecstatic

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Guest Donna Jean

AWwww, Chrissy.....

Dang, Girlfriend...that's super!

I have to admit that most full time outings are well thought out ...lol....your's turned out wonderful, though!

Looking in that mirror sure woke you up, didn't it?

Remember, Honey...90% of what we worry about never happens, anyway!

I wish you continued luck in this now and especially on your outing at the Legion...you have a good time and tell us how it all goes....OK?

SMILE!

HUGGS!

Donna Jean

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Guest krisspykriss
AWwww, Chrissy.....

Dang, Girlfriend...that's super!

I have to admit that most full time outings are well thought out ...lol....your's turned out wonderful, though!

Looking in that mirror sure woke you up, didn't it?

Remember, Honey...90% of what we worry about never happens, anyway!

I wish you continued luck in this now and especially on your outing at the Legion...you have a good time and tell us how it all goes....OK?

SMILE!

HUGGS!

Donna Jean

It was well thought out. I have a timeline and have been slowly sliding across the gender scale slowly from guy to femme guy to andro to androfemme in my presentation. I am full time when I am in the city with my boyfriend. My original plan was to wait until I move to Indy to pull the switch for full time 24/7/365. I was a weekend woman in Indy and a femme gay guy in Redneckville. I just decided, why wait if I can do it now. It isnt like I just started HRT and changing my appearance yesterday. I have been working at this for a year now, and just realized I might be ready now and Redneckvie might be ready as well.

I dont think a spontanious decision to go full time is a good idea, nor is going straight from manlu man to girlie girl over night. That is asking for more problems than a girl needs to handle. Thats not me, but the decision to start a few months early was spontaneous. Another reason i decided to is because even in guy mode, I have had issues passing as a guy. Guys think i am in the wrong restroom. Guys staring atr me with a perplexed look on their faces. I am right there in the middle of gender appearence without the clothing, so I figure push it to the female side with makeup and cloths. So far so good.

hugz,

Chrissy

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Oh, Girl, I saw the headline "chickened out" and my heart sank. I thought something bad had happened.

I am so happy for you, this is great! What a wonderful feeling it must be to just finally be you.

I wish you all the best and hope to hear more stories of your ordinary girl life in redneckville. :D What a dream that must be. You're a real girl now.

Much happiness to you, you've earned it.

Yvonne

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Guest AshleyRF

THAT IS WONDERFUL NEWS!!!! I'm so happy for you!! :) You really are a beautiful woman inside and out and you have a very supportive boyfriend. You got it all girl. :)

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Guest Lizzie McTrucker

Good for you!

and quite frankly I don't know why you haven't gone full time yet since you do look the part and when you're in Indy you're full time so....yeah.. just do it! :)

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That is really great! You look very good in your picture, I have no idea why you waited so long. If I looked that good I would go full-time in a second.

Melisa

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Guest katie019

i used to live in indy. near southport, like 15 mins south from the circle downtown. i go back to visit fam. every now an then. thats really crazy. Good luck with the rest of your journey passing. im still waiting for my time. keep us updated.

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Guest Joanna Phipps

Conratulations on taking that big step. It is a relief when you find you can go out and do all that you need to do and not be ridden out of town on a rail. One more step forward, hugs

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Congratulations Chrissy!

Going public where you live is huge and so freeing.

Before you know it,nobody,not even yourself,will remember you as anything

other than another pretty woman out and about,with presenting female becoming

so Natural we don't even think about it.

I am very pleased for you that you have taken this giant leap of faith.

Congrats again Miss Chrissy.

Angelique

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Good for you!

and quite frankly I don't know why you haven't gone full time yet since you do look the part and when you're in Indy you're full time so....yeah.. just do it! :)

Lizzie, I was telling Chrissy only the other week she IS gorgeous,,,no one EVER listens to me :rolleyes:

DANG,DANG,DANG, (oops, copyright infringement) viv :)

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Lizzie, I was telling Chrissy only the other week she IS gorgeous,,,no one EVER listens to me :rolleyes:

DANG,DANG,DANG, (oops, copyright infringement) viv :)

Sweetie I listened. Thank you to you and everyone else who has said kind and flattering things.

The hold up was the small town thing. Everyone knows everyone here. I find it much easier to blend into the masses in the city. Here, almost everywhere I go people know me. So it is more difficult than in a big city. Oh well, day three and so far so good. I chickened out of going in a couple places, but most of the time I held my head high and went about my business.

It is turning out to be easier than I feared. Sure people know I am trans, but they are treated me with the same respect as everyone else. What more can a girl ask for?

The big test of my courage is tomorrow when I meet my friends for our monthly gathering of drinking and singing. A couple people told me they are really hoping to see me and I better not chicken out or they are gonna drag me there.

Anyway, thanks ladies.

hugz,

Chrissy

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