A Mother's Ignorant Words

[Guest Evee18]

Yes, I said ignorant and it was properly used unlike what most people do, but anyways when I got home tonight I went to talk to my mother. Well when I saw her she freaked out because the drawstring from my hoodie was stuck in my hair and she thought it was a ribbon or bow or something. When I realized what it was and showed her she let out a sigh of relief and said she could handle the jewelry and and hair and stuff, but that would have been to much. Well me being the smartaleck I am cracked a joke in an attempt to prboe her and said well why don't I get some pretty red ribbon and do my hair and my nails. She cut me off there and said I have two daughters and don't need another one. I have not come out to anyone in my family which is why I say she is ignorant, but it hurt. After tat I felt like crying and blurting out everything, but couldn't because she started arguing with me about bills for the house.

But, it just makes me feel that even if I ever did tell them neither one could accept me or want me anymore. I just wish she knew how much it hurt me.

[Guest DeniseNM]

Evee I am so sorry for you that you were hurt that way even in an unintentional and unknowing way. You will come out to your family when you are ready and even if that family doesn't want you around anymore you have a large loving family right here that does want you and will always accept you. Please know that you are loved.

Denise

[Guest angie]

Evee,

When you come out to your mother,she will have three daughters.

No matter how much it may hurt her,it is hurting you worse not being

able to open up your heart and tell her who you truly are.The day will

come when you wont be able to hold back the flood of your pending

womanhood that is only waiting to happen.My heart goes out to you

young sister.I only hope the day you do decide to confide to your mom,

she may/will raise a hissy fit,but eventually adjust to having another daughter.

Soft Hugs Little Sister,

Angie

[Guest viv]

Hi Evee,

First off , dont be surprised if your mother suspects you .

Second, love, particularly motherly love usually wins the day hun.

Yes ,for sure she will initially object and the rest of the family too,

may not be comfortable . But if you handle "coming out" to em

diplomatically and show your unbreakable love then chances are

you will be cool . Put plenty of thought into how you break the news

and you will be ok. Luv, viv

[Guest Evee18]

Well, I get unbreakable love because my family has been through a lot together between drugs, fleeing from one side of the country to another, and not having much money we've all stuck together. But a lot of my family have extremely Christian values and hate the LGBT community. So its weighing the testing of our family so to speak. Has what we been through because of my parents strong enough to defeat the values instilled in the rest of my family by the Christian faith? It terrifies me because several of my family members are not exactly stable mentally either.

But, then again my father thought I was gay until my freshman year in high school when I brought home my girlfriend, but he's not all there. I really think the only person I am willing to tell is my older sister because her and I have been really close for a really long time.

Sorry i'm ranting so much, you all understand how I feel we've all had to go through this, i'm just beginning to break and I am afraid of what may happen.

[Guest angie]

I really think the only person I am willing to tell is my older sister because her and I have been really close for a really long time.

If anyone in your family I would trust with your long deeply with held secret female identity

issues,it would be my big sister.Having someone,and another female at that,will bring you so

much pressure release from not having to keep her all inside of you.

And by the way little sister,unload all you want to.That is why we are here,and there are so many supportive and loving sisters here,that know where you are coming from and you can vent your

worries and concerns all you want to on the Playground.You Are Not Alone.

Warmest Hugs,

Angie

[Guest Melisa]

Evv;

I think that your going through thhe motions with your family, and they at least may have some idea, even though you say you havn't come out to them yet. I guess I'm a little jelous actually. My family ( especially my father) won't even consider the possibility that I'm a transgender person or that such a thing exists at all. I'm basicaaly on my own with it, as far as family goes.

Melisa

[Guest Emily1]

Yes, I said ignorant and it was properly used unlike what most people do, but anyways when I got home tonight I went to talk to my mother. Well when I saw her she freaked out because the drawstring from my hoodie was stuck in my hair and she thought it was a ribbon or bow or something. When I realized what it was and showed her she let out a sigh of relief and said she could handle the jewelry and and hair and stuff, but that would have been to much. Well me being the smartaleck I am cracked a joke in an attempt to prboe her and said well why don't I get some pretty red ribbon and do my hair and my nails. She cut me off there and said I have two daughters and don't need another one. I have not come out to anyone in my family which is why I say she is ignorant, but it hurt. After tat I felt like crying and blurting out everything, but couldn't because she started arguing with me about bills for the house.

But, it just makes me feel that even if I ever did tell them neither one could accept me or want me anymore. I just wish she knew how much it hurt me.

OMG, I'm so sorry she said that. Just like everyone has said, if you ever need anything, I'm sure we'll all be there for you.

First off , dont be surprised if your mother suspects you .

I was wondering the same thing myself. She may have said this trying to stop you from coming out - hoping that she could catch you before you even start trying to transition.

[Guest Evee18]

OMG, I'm so sorry she said that. Just like everyone has said, if you ever need anything, I'm sure we'll all be there for you.

I was wondering the same thing myself. She may have said this trying to stop you from coming out - hoping that she could catch you before you even start trying to transition.

It might be, because I technically cam out to her when I was four but she didn't believe me, and ever since then I have been pretty good at keeping secrets so maybe she is seeing it resurface and is afraid of it actually happening. But, then again I can never be sure with her.