Coming Out At Church Tomorrow.

[Guest Anna_SF]

Hi Ladies,

I have been out full-time for about 6 weeks now and it's been rather easy, considering what I expected. Turns out transition, for me, is more about personal acceptance than anything else. I still have a long way to go but I went to Church (en femme) on Wednesday morning and saw my group of regulars - I had been going regularly for about three years. No one knew who I was, including the new Rector but they slowly caught on. They seemed quite supportive so I said I'd go on Sunday. The 8 am will be fine as it's the usual suspects. But, I am a little more concerned about the 10 am as there are kids and I don't like causing trouble for other people. Of course, I can slip out after Communion but going to Coffee Hour afterwards is pretty much the real 'coming out'. I will be wearing a long skirt, heels, pearls, etc, so at least I won't look like the bum I used show up as. Dressing with class has really helped my transition. I have no desire to be a female version of the old me.

If nothing Changes... Then nothing changes.

Wish me luck!

Anna

[Guest TheAetherealMeadow]

I wish you the best of luck! Often times we'd think that just because someone is religious that automatically means they're bigots but in my experience I've found quite a few religious folks to be very accepting and open-minded. I hope everything goes well for you!

[Guest nova]

I am wishing you luck too. May I ask . . . what denomination is your church? Or is it non-denominational??

[Guest AlexanderG]

How'd it go, how'd it go?

So dared, all at once... *fingers crossed it went right*

Alex

[Guest Anna_SF]

Hello Ladies,

It went OK, almost a non-event. I did wear a very conservative and feminine outfit and sat near the front. The 8 am people were very nice and some knew ahead of time or recognized my smile. It was harder than coming out at work (volunteer Job) because there is such a range of ages but I think I will definitely go back and probably 1/10 the anxiety I did before. I was really anxious.

It's easier to go and let a few people share it with others so they won't be quite so shocked next time. it's a little unfair to walk up to someone you don't know that well and say "Guess who?" - puts them on the spot.

Monday is going a little roughly, I had laser last Thursday but it takes about 10 days for the hairs to start falling out. So I kind of look like androgenous (but obviously mtf) person. Facial hair is such a curse. But I am finally having some success in my walk - slowly and gracefully, which is really a 'tell' for a lot of people.

Smiles,

Anna

I quit sugar 6 weeks ago and have lost 25 lbs from my top weight of 178. OA works for me!

[Guest Donna Jean]

Well, Good for you, Anna!

You're getting past some of those tough spots that "coming out" gives us!

I think that you're doing a great job, though!

And I really like the fact that you've lost the weight...using sheer will power...Nice.

Keep it up Girlfriend...you're doing great!

Huggs

Donna Jean