One Of The Biggest Setbacks To Date

[Guest Natalie92]

So last week wasn't really the best for me. On Tuesday, I went to pick up some stuff from the store and I saw creeper staring at me, almost as if he wanted me and would do ANYTHING to get me (ie rape). It was the kind of look that said get away from him, buy your stuff, get in your car, lock your doors, drive home, get in your room and lock your door ASAP. Then once I got home, I cried until I fell asleep. And I woke up twice that night due to nightmares.

Things were tollerable until yesterday when I was at the grocery (no it wasn't the same place) and for some reason I got really emotional and felt like I needed to cry. The only problem was that there was like a shell that prevented me from expressing any real emotions. All I knew was that the inside of me was crying and if I was to let it out I needed to get home. The only problem was, I lived 30 min away from this place. Uggh. I hated not being able to express myself.

If anyone has any advice on how to make it easier to handle a creeper giving me scary looks or being able to express emotion when I need to, even in public, it would be greatly appreciated.

Natalie

[Sally]

Dear Natalie,

Welcome to the wonderful world of womanhood.

As women we have to deal with creepers, you did the best thing you got away from him.

Always be aware of your surroundings and without being too obvious keep track of where he is at all times than get away from him.

As to the needing to cry while in male mode that is ours exclusively but in female mode it is acceptable.

I have those feelings at work sometimes and it is getting more difficult to handle everyday you just have to force yourself we have done it for years.

I wish I could tell you an easy way to do that but I'll just watch and if someone does - I'll thank them too.

Love ya,

Sally

[Carolyn Marie]

Natalie, you did good the way you handled that creep. Just walk away and forget him. One of these days he'll annoy someone he shouldn't have

messed with and they'll clock him a good one.

The emotions are tough to deal with. If you're in girl mode you can even sit in your car and have a cry and most people will just say to themselves,

"aw, its just a woman who broke a nail or something." If you're in guy mode you just have to hold it in until you can get somewhere with privacy,

even if its just a remote parking lot someplace. I've sat in my truck at work in the parking structure and cried, or shed some tears silently while

sitting in a bathroom stall. You make do.

HUGS

Carolyn

[Guest ChrisRydia]

It is a good thing you got away from that creeper. Sometimes the world is a scary place.

Hugs

Rydia

[Guest julia_d]

I'm big.. I'm tall, and I come from the wrong side of the tracks. I walk right up to them.. right in their face, and demand to know just what the **** they think they are looking at, very loudly so everybody hears. That's enough for most stalkers to vanish like smoke. You won't be the only person they are stalking and in a public place it's the last thing they want.. a lot of sudden attention drawn to them.

Yeah.. it's a little risky. I live totally alone in a bad place. I found that having a very hard exterior and confrontational attitude is safer than running from them. They are used to victims being passive and not right in their face and throwing it at them.

Just my way.. shame I don't live in your town.. you could point this creep out to me and I could scare him right off the streets.

[Guest Evee18]

At least you safe that's the important thing. And as a woman the world is far more dangerous especially because we are members of a community that some people don't like. So invest in some good mace th best kind has high levels of capsicum. The most powerful being the stuff meant to take down a bear. But at least he didn't try anything.

[Guest viv]

Hi Natalie,

Re that weirdo, yep, comes with the territory my dear. Never never EVER make eye contact, this could be seen as a

come on from you. About being scared and such, thats part of the deal we sign up to as well hun, and, you had good reason.

Keep a weather eye out for that creepo but DONT let him into your head. Take care luv,viv

[Guest Erin Quinn]

Natalie,

I'm glad to know you're safe, and I think you handled yourself well. Do your best to put it out of your mind, and just keep yourself alert but not paranoid.

Gosh, I know exactly what you mean when you say its like a shell. That's one of those big factors that's moving me towards transition. I'd say there's nothing stopping you from taking time in your car before you head home to let it out, those things shouldn't be bottled up. Just find a quiet place where you can go, maybe a restroom even, and let it out as best you can. I remember when I was at my old job, I'd have lots of little moments which would start to get to me, and I"d just take a moment to go to my office or the bathroom and collect myself.

I hope this week is better, we're always here

Erin