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Just wanted to introduce myself. I have been CD-ing for as long as can remember. I've been going out in public for the past 10 years or so. I am new to this site. I just wanted to say hello and introduce myself.

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Tonya

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Hello Tonia!

Greeting from a CD'r on this side of the pond!

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Guest Donna Jean

Good morning, Tonya!

Welcome to the Playground!

My goodness...you look very good!

Let me get you some hot coco and some of Sally's cookies and then we can sit and wait for some of the others to come by and say "HI!".....OK?

We're a moderated forum and read every post to keep it safe in here for us all!

And if you would be so kind as to make sure to read the Forum rules ...there is a link at the top of most pages.

Kick off your shoes and sit back.....

It's so very nice to have you here!

HUGGS!

Donna Jean

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Good morning, Tonya,

I saw you here and I was headed into the kitchen to get you some of my cookies, I was baking a fresh batch and I was almost knocked down by Donna Jean, she was so eager to meet you that she had taken up the cookies and gotten you some hot cocoa without even using the oven mitt!

I hope she didn't burn herself or spill any hot cocoa on you.

Be careful because the cookies are as hot as the cocoa.

As you might be able to tell already we are a friendly group and we are here to support each other through good times and bad and just to have a place to talk.

Welcome to the family.

Love ya,

Sally

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Good morning Sally.

I feel so special with these wonderful greetings. Thanks girl. Hot cocoa and cookies sounds good on this cold Texas morning. Can you believe it snowed here few days ago?

I sure Hope Donna Jean is careful with that hot drink. My camisole does not provide much protection.

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Guest Donna Jean
I sure Hope Donna Jean is careful with that hot drink. My camisole does not provide much protection.

AWwww, Tonya....

I've never lost a girl yet due to a coco accident!.....lol

LOVE

Donna Jean

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Guest ChloëC

Hi Tonya,

Welcome to Laura's. Wow, 10 years in public, that's really good, but looking at your pictures, it's really not surprising at all. I've been out the door several times, but 'public'? Maybe in another 10. We're happy you're here.

Hugs,

Chloë

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Guest Amy LeBlanc

Hello Tonya:

Welcome to Laura's Playground. You look wonderful in the pictures that you posted and you are here among friends and just remember to relax and to be yourself.

Amy

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Reply to Chloe's comment. First of all, thanks for the wonderful compliment, hun.

Yes, my CD-ing experience venturing out in public goes back about 10 years. However, I am still basically closeted as fas as my family is concerned. With my business I have the opportunity to travel often. So, every chance I have to be Tonya, I take full advantage of. I feel I am being me, and I truly enjoy every minute of it.

I tried to come out to my wife about 2 years ago, but she was not very receptive to the idea. So I just let it go, for now. She does comment every one and then about my shaved legs. I am sure she knows deep inside. If she does not bring it up, why rock the boat? Anyway, glad to be welcomed to this great community.

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Hello Tonya:

Welcome to Laura's Playground. You look wonderful in the pictures that you posted and you are here among friends and just remember to relax and to be yourself.

Amy

Amy, thanks for the lovely compliment.

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Hi, Tonya, and welcome to Laura's. I see you've met my wonderful sisters, so I don't have to tell you

how friendly and supportive a place this is.

You know, I tell most new members to look around the forums to get information and ideas and ask

questions. In your case, you've been CDing and successfully passing for years, and judging from

your photos, you can and should be giving our CD members tips and help on their questions.

You are a very lovely lady, and we can all benefit from your experience.

I look forward to seeing your posts. Make yourself at home, Hon, because you are!

Carolyn Marie

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Hi, Tonya, and welcome to Laura's. I see you've met my wonderful sisters, so I don't have to tell you

how friendly and supportive a place this is.

You know, I tell most new members to look around the forums to get information and ideas and ask

questions. In your case, you've been CDing and successfully passing for years, and judging from

your photos, you can and should be giving our CD members tips and help on their questions.

You are a very lovely lady, and we can all benefit from your experience.

I look forward to seeing your posts. Make yourself at home, Hon, because you are!

Carolyn Marie

Hi Carolyn - thanks for yet another lovely welcoming message. I sincerely feel at home, although I just got here. I'll be glad to help anyway I can.

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Tonya

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Guest ChloëC

Hi Tonya,

It's too bad about your relationship with your wife regarding your cd'ing. I came out very early in our now lengthy marriage (30+ years) and while I didn't tell her the entire story, we discussed what I did, (and she saw some pictures), and we have tried to incorporate some of it into our moments. And we still discuss it on occasion, tho I tend to keep my dress time to myself (mostly because I think she would be trying to tell me exactly how to dress, just what I need!!!).

It may not work for everyone, but it has worked for me.

Hugs,

Chloë

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Guest Danielle2

First of all, you look absolutely fantastic Tonya!

Secondly, although I have been crossdressing for over 20 years now, I have never gone out into public as Danielle. Needless to say, I am very jealous of you right now! However, I too have kept my secret life from my family. My work doesn't take me on the road like yours does so I don't have the ability to be Danielle as much as I would like. I guess what I would like to know is, do you feel as much of a need to be Tonya when you are at home or does the opportunity to have so much private time on the road allow you enough time as Tonya as you would like?

By the way, did I mention how jealous I am of you already? I would love to have that freedom of traveling and being out on the road! I'm sure there are times when you miss your family, but I would think that being in new areas and in parts of the country where absolutely no one knows who you are must make it much easier and more comfortable for you to go out and enjoy life as Tonya. I believe that if I had the opportunity to show Danielle off to the world that I would feel more confident and less fearful if I was far away from home at the time. Do you feel that way?

I'm so glad that you have decided to join our community here and I look forward to reading your response!

Love,

Danielle

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Guest Steph70

Welcome Tonya! I'm new here myself, but already feel at home. I've been cd'ing myself for 30? years or so. Never had the guts to go out in public though. I've thought about it, but hmm...I'd have to have somewhere to go! I may have to pick your brain since you seem to have some experience in things I'd like to pursue. :D Glad you're here!

Stephanie

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Danielle and Stephanie

First of all, thank you so much for the lovely compliments.

Going out is not hard at all. Believe me when I tell you that most people don't notice or care. You may get certain looks every now and then, for a variety of reasons. But, so what?!

I'll briefly tell you how I started out in public. My very first time was Halloween night, about 10 years ago (prior to that it was mostly dressing-up in my basement when my wife would be at work - usually wearing some of her outfits). I knew a GG friend who I had opened up to about my CD-ing. She helped me dress-up and we both hit the bars in Chicago (I lived in Chicagoland suburbs then). Being Halloween night made it easy for me being out in public. I never forget the feeling of the breeze up my skirt. One thing I was unable to do, back then, was to shave my legs. And I got so many compliments; I was hit on by both guys and girls. I had a blast. My friend offered to store my outfit for me so I wouldn't have to throw it away (too chicken to take any of the stuff home).

With my business, I get to travel regularly, but not for extended periods of time, and usually within driving distances - one, maybe two overnight stays. So, typically, on my way out of town, I'd swing by my friend, pick-up some or all of my stuff, and off I go. Once at the motel , I'd do my make-up. I wasn't very good at it at first. But slowly improved through internet research. Once dressed-up, I'd get in the car, and drive, very carefully of course. Eventually, one night, I got the guts to stop at a service station and filled up the car. I was nervous. The next time I went in and bought something. I did few such limited outings for a period of time. Then, before I knew it, I'd make runs to the grocery stores. I'd park the car and walk the along sidewalks, etc... But was always shy and scared to meet and talk to people. Then one day, I learned that I can get a make-over at department stores. Now, I figured that would take real guts - sitting in a chair at the mall, with people walking by, watching me get make-up applied on me. I figured, what the heck, I am out of town (Wisconsin, as I recall). I walked in Macy's, (I think), asked if I could get a make-over. I told the SA I was going to a party, and wanted to dress-up. And, wow, what a difference - I even liked myself - too bad never I deleted the pictures once when I purged (familiar?). Back then, I weighted about 20 pounds less than now. Anyway, to make a long story short, slowly but surely, I started venturing out more and more in public. Now I am very comfortable anywhere, except of course in the immediate vicinity of my home.

About five years ago, I began shaving my legs - winter season only, though, and I pluck my eyebrows, modestly. Of course my wife thinks that's weird (more about wife, some day). My answer was I feel cleaner with no hair, and to please just not worry about what I do to my body. I don't have but very little hair on my chest, so that part is easy to leave alone.

If you have any specific questions, please don;t hesitate to ask.

Hugs

Tonya

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Guest brenda lee
Just wanted to introduce myself. I have been CD-ing for as long as can remember. I've been going out in public for the past 10 years or so. I am new to this site. I just wanted to say hello and introduce myself.

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Tonya

Tonya, Sweetie , Hi ! Welcone to the playground ,we are always glad to have a new sister or brother join us.LOL BrendaLee

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Hi Tonya, you look great. I love your plunging neckline, something I can only ever dream of, and you photgraph well to. Self portrait?

Margaret

Hi Margaret. Thanks for the compliment. Yes, I took the pictures - camera timer.

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Guest joan eden

Hi! Joan Eden here. You look lovely Tonya.I'm sure you pass easly I'm also new here, about a month.I would post a pic with my profile but I don't know how. Not a very I.T.person. You sound a lot like me. My wife knows but Never speaks of it. I've also shaved my legs about five years. Also..Lauras is great.

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