Any Advice For Those In The Middle Of Nowhere

[Guest FaithRyan]

Hey, so I came out to my therapist (just a regular one, mind you) and a couple of close friends a few months ago, and it felt like huge step forward. But since I'm in the sticks, the boonies, the middle of absolute nowhere, etc. There's no gender clinics, or any LGBT support to speak of, and I was advised not to start transitioning in case some of the less enlightened citizens 'round these parts take issue with it. I'm getting frustrated and I'm feeling like nothing's really being accomplished.

I can't be the only one who's miles from civilization. Would anyone be kind enough to offer suggestions?

Oh, dear, I am ever so nervous posting here.

Faith

[Sally]

Hello Faith,

I have moved your topic over here to the Introductions Forum so more people will see it and come to meet you, some of them may have some advice and this way it will be from the entire forum not just the MTFs.

So would you like to come sit here by the fire with me and I'll serve you some fresh baked cookies and hot cocoa.

It is a little way to break the ice and let you know that we are friendly and very supportive.

Relax and some of the others will be here pretty soon, they love to meet new members and they seem to enjoy cookies a great deal.

Welcome to the family.

Love ya,

Sally

[Guest nova]

At least you have the internet for now. When I was very little my father bought a lumberyard in the woods of Wisconsin and moved us up there. I got out of there as soon as it was reasonable and practical to do so. If the people back there knew me now, their collective shock would probably blast the whole county into outer space. The only treatment available to me was my father's 'aversion' techniques which failed to turn me into a male, but left me with a whole lot of trauma and PTSD to work through. I would move! But at least you have a therapist who knows your situation and that's more than I had.

[Guest Joanna Phipps]

Hey, so I came out to my therapist (just a regular one, mind you) and a couple of close friends a few months ago, and it felt like huge step forward. But since I'm in the sticks, the boonies, the middle of absolute nowhere, etc. There's no gender clinics, or any LGBT support to speak of, and I was advised not to start transitioning in case some of the less enlightened citizens 'round these parts take issue with it. I'm getting frustrated and I'm feeling like nothing's really being accomplished.

I can't be the only one who's miles from civilization. Would anyone be kind enough to offer suggestions?

Oh, dear, I am ever so nervous posting here.

Faith

Im pretty much in the middle of no place myself, here in a small, central new mexico, roman catholic, primarily hispanic town of about 4000. I was scared pee-less when I was told I had to do two months RLE with out hormone support but guess what I am still alive and well into transition. I am seeing a regular therapist, and my gp handles the labs and hormones. There are no groups here and no other support, oddly enough the smaller, less enlightented centers can be easier to transition in because most of the population only look at the visual cues since they dont know any better.

Dear Faith, I can well relate to the feeling that nothing is happening I went through that myself. Maybe just start in the house, you can get some panties and wear them under your male clothes for a start, I did that for months

[Guest van-na]

Hi FaithRyan ,

<<hug>>

Welcome to Laura's Playground.

Please feel free to come over and chat sometime.

The Chat room does require another registration that is separate from from your forums one.

Please read the chat room rules before coming in, and expect a short interview with one of the chat room moderators.

One of the things that they will ask you is if you read the rules.

We have MTF meetings-Mon & Sat 9pm est, and Teens meetings -Sat 1pm est & Sunday 8pm est and you are welcome to attend.

You have come to the right place, Please don't be nervous, this is a very safe site with lots of caring people.

I live in the boonies of Alaska, sounds like a similar story.

Any therapist can help you. Mine is a licensed professional councilor, and I am teaching her about transsexuals

Once recommended , any Md can prescribe hrt, if that is what you want and need.

As for starting your transition, only you can decide that, but your therapist can help you to make up your mind.

If you haven't done so already read the "standards of care " just google those words.

We all look forward to seeing you.

vanna

[Guest ricka]

Hi Faith! Oh! Hun I totally understand how tough it is to be a transperson in the middle of nowhere! How close are you to a big city? You didn't say if your close friends whom you recently came out to are supportive and understanding. That can make a big difference. I have one guy friend with whom I am totally comfortable and can be open about anything with and that has been such a gift. Laura's has been the biggest Godsend in my life having other women to share with. But even in isolation we can progress in our trans-journies as Joanna suggests. For me that started simply by buying and wearing my first bra, a small step that had a huge emotional impact to validate me as a woman.

Hugs, Ricka

[Guest viv]

Hey Faith,

Faith Ryan,,, what a lovely name hun. Welcome to the Playground.

Sorry to see your living ""out of the way"". As far as advice etc is concerned

you will get plenty of that here . Laura"s can take up a lot of time posting and

chatting and its through here I bet you will find a way to meet other Trans

women. Keep in touch hun, luv,viv