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I guess I always told myself I wanted to be a woman but I never listened to myself. I kept saying it but never listened, that is till this week. After 30 some odd years I finally listened to myself.

So I find myself here.

It's sort of shocking to see how isolated and miserable I made myself and how resigned to my fate I was. No longer last night I shaved off my beard that I wore for most of my life and looked at myself in a whole new way. I wondered at the woman I would become.

After work(night shift) I went to the local drug store for razor's to shave, the store also had a makeup kit on sale. I wanted it but a coworker who lives nearby came with me. So I ended up buying razors and a face cleanser. A little cowardly on my part but I just didn't feel like making up any lies beside the store is really close to home. I cant tell you how excited I was to shave my face. Of course afterwords I desperately wished I had make up and a wig or anything to make myself more feminine. Alas I have nothing...yet.

So here I am telling complete strangers that I want to be a woman or rather I am a woman who needs some help. I don't even know what my name should be. I suppose that's okay because I am at the very beginning of my new life.

So the first part of my plan is is to lose weight. I already went from a size 40 to a size 36 (high cholesterol made me take this step) but now I wish to be a size 8 (hopefully, its a goal) The second part is to save money...

I've rambled enough, hello all and thank you in advance. Now I'm off to order a pair of heels that I saw on amazon.

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Guest Donna Jean

WOW!

Welcome to the Playground, Honey!

Your post really got to me ...and I've seen a LOT!

Your breaking out of your shell was a major move on your part and transition starts with accepting yourself!

And that is what it sounds like you've done! Oh my!

Well, let me get to this...we're a moderated site and read all posts before they go up...that keeps everything safe...

And would you be so kind as to take a look at the forum rules ...you'll find a link at the top of most pages...thanks, hon!

I'm a MTF and 10 months on HRT so I understand where you are coming from....you can learn a lot about yourself here and there a lot of wonderful folks that will be very helpful...

And please POST POST POST!

It's so nice to have you here!

Huggs

Donna Jean

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Guest ChloëC

Hi!

I can understand about the facial hair. I had a beard in my mid-30's and a moustache for much longer. When I dressed up, it just didn't feel right, you know? So, one night on a trip, I shaved it off. Got home and was asked, and just said I got tired of it, but, I will tell you, it was such a great feeling to be clean shaven while dressed, and since then I cannot get smooth enough.

Welcome to Laura's Playground filled with lots of caring and supportive people. We're glad you're here.

Hugs,

Chloë

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Hi Justme and welcome to Laura's,

When that bell rings inside us we have to do something about it, sounds like yours rang loud and clear, i am 57 and my bell rang last year, i started living officially full time last month, but it took me 18 months to get to this point

Here is some friendly advise from someone who has been there and done that. I know you are anxious to get on that bullet train called transition but first thing you need to do is find a gender therapist, they will help you determine if you need to fully transition or find some place in the middle you will be happy.

Start growing the hair on your head, it takes a long time, if you are balding, hormones may help restore some but you may have to wear a wig.

Start electrolysis as soon as you can, it can take years to eliminate facial and neck hair, do not worry about body hair right now, hormones help reduce it.

My advise is to take things slow, tell only those that need to know, in the beginning we want to shout it to the world, transition is not an overnight thing, it takes 6 - 8 months before others start to see changes, they will ask if you got a new shirt, lost weight or got a haircut, they see something but they do not know what.

Paula

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Welcome to the family, Justme. Congratulations on acting upon your desires. I did the same thing 4 1/2 years ago at age 56. Now I'm 61 years young and a happy trasngenderist. Like Paula says, go slow at first. Learn all you can and enjoy the experience.

Gennee

:D

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Hi there, JustMe and welcome to Laura's! You've already met some of my lovely friends and received

some great advice.

I can tell you that there are many of us here who lived the male life for 30, 40, 50 years or more

before realizing that the only way to be happy and at peace with ourselves was to become what

we have always been, women. You are part of our family now and what families do is support

one another and provide love and advice.

It is a long journey to womanhood, and you've just started. Take it one step and a time and like Paula said,

the best thing you can do right now is find a gender therapist. They will guide you to your goal and make

sure that this is right for you. They will hep you discover the woman within you.

Please look through the forums and see what others have experienced. It will help you a lot.

After 5 posts you will get private message (PM) privileges, and if you have quesitons or issues you

don't want to post publicly, you are welcome to PM any of us Mods or other members..

HUGS

Carolyn Marie

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Guest Justme360

Thanks everyone for the warm welcome. I do intend to go slow for now just admitting it to myself is enough. Maybe some makeup and shoes but that's for private at this point. I waited this long I can wait longer ;)

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My goodness Justme,

Your story has touched us all so much that we have forgotten our manners, so allow me to invite you to share some refreshments here in the member's lounge, get comfy and I'll get a fresh batch of cookies out of the virtual ovens - your timing is perfect I just finished baking these.

Now I'll check on the hot cocoa, Donna Jean usually sees to it that we have plenty and she has, so hold the cup in both hands and feel the warmth - it isn't the cocoa, it is the love from all of your new sisters and brothers - all of us who share this Gender Gift.

We are here for reasons so much the same

To find acceptance and shed all of the shame

We share a condition with names that have shifted

But my favorite still remains we are Gender Gifted

So pull up a chair and spend a lifetime or two

With people who understand and care about you

Welcome to the family.

Love ya,

Sally

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Hi Justme ,

<<hug>>

Welcome to Laura's Playground.

Please feel free to come over and chat sometime.

The Chat room does require another registration that is separate from from your forums one.

Please read the chat room rules before coming in, and expect a short interview with one of the chat room moderators.

One of the things that they will ask you is if you read the rules. :)

We have MTF meetings-Mon & Sat 9pm est, and you are welcome to attend.

We all look forward to seeing you.

:wub: vanna

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