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Guest Veronicalynn

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Guest Veronicalynn

Guest Veronicalynn

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Hi All,

This is my first topic, but I really want some advice here. In the past several months I have had this over powering feeling to start the transitioning process. I have always felt more comfortable being a female. The longer I go in staying as a male the more miserable I become. The other point I must make is in the pass year for me has been a nghtmare, starting with the death of my spouse and from there it gets worse. It has been almost a year and things are starting to get better. I was told not to make any life changing moves until I get through this. I know my personality is feminine in nature as I look back it has always been that way. But here is the snag, my children would have a major meltdown if they knew. Should I be selfish and start or should I stay in the closet.

Veronicalynn

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Guest AlexJ

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Hi Veronicalynn,

I'm sorry to hear about your spouse, it must be a terrible loss for you.

I would suggest you give it a little longer before making any major decisions.

Bereavement breaks you down so much it can be hard to know what you really think.

Your children really need you right now, even if you don't feel like a pillar of strength.

They may be ok with your feelings, but it might be a little soon to drop such

big news on them.

In the meantime, you'll find a sympathetic ear here on the forum, to explore your feelings

and get advice.

Don't feel in a rush to decide one way or the other.

/hugs

AJ

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Guest Michelle M

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The death of a loved one is a very powerful and life altering thing. I'm sorry to hear about it. I don't think you should have to deal with 2 drastic life changes at once. 1 is stressful enough. See a therapist and work through your depression issues before you start transition.

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The death of a loved one is a very powerful and life altering thing. I'm sorry to hear about it. I don't think you should have to deal with 2 drastic life changes at once. 1 is stressful enough. See a therapist and work through your depression issues before you start transition.

I would like to thank you both for your advice. Yes, this year has been a long one but with the friends here it does make it bearable. I think the closet and I will be there for a little while longer.

/Hugs to you both,

Veronicalynn

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