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Im really excited to tell you all that i have a possible boyfriend, i say possible beacause well we havnt officially been "going out" (if you can even date online XD) he lives in the usa and i live in canada so that makes it a bit harder, but we both have told eachother that we have had dreams about marrying eachother, and we have both said that we love eachother very much, he is a cissexual male and completely straight (the straight part makes me feel really good because it makes me feel like more of a girl knowing a guy likes me :wub: ) and one really good thing is he is christian just like me! ^_^ i feel so happy talking to him and i hope i never lose him. :blush:

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Sara, its really good to hear from you again, and I'm thrilled that you found someone who you share interests with and who seems to be your

soul mate. Love is hard to find, so I wish the both of you well.

"Aunt" Carolyn is going to give you a word of warning, though, OK? You haven't met your friend yet, and so have only his words to judge him by.

You won't really know his heart until you two can talk face to face and you can look him in the eye, and he you. On your first meeting, I urge you to take

someone with you and meet him in a public place that is safe. I'm not saying he isn't to be trusted, but internet romances have not always turned

out well. Just be careful, and be safe. We don;t want you to be hurt, emotionally or physically. OK, hon, sermon over. Aunt Carolyn will keep her

yap shut now. ;)

HUGS

Carolyn Marie

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Guest ChloëC

Hi Sara,

Finding someone who cares is so important and meaingful in any situation, and I hope it goes well for you. I am, however, in full agreement with Carolyn on this, when you do meet him, make sure it's in a nice well lit public place (or as public as can be), and you might even consider having a friend along. If this is the person for you, he will understand and allow you both time to get to know one another and see how you each feel in the presence of the other.

And that's how it should be for any kind of a new and developing relationship, regardless of who you are or who the new friend is.

Be safe, be careful, try to have support. If all goes well, the first meeting will be a pleasant memory to look back on.

Hugs,

Chloë

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Guest DeniseNM

Sara that is great that you may have found someone who likes you for you, but do I want you to listen to "aunt" Carolyn and take it slow and make sure how both of you feel about each other (especially him) until you meet face to face. I am hoping and wishing the best for you and sending you all the best I can. Hope it all works out great for you sweetie.

Denise

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Congratulations Sara,

Aunt Carolyn has already given you the"be careful speech", so I will turn a couple of pages in my 22,000 page Transsexual's Handbook (pocket edition - let me get out the jeweler's loop) and give you the sermon form Momma Sally.

Love is a wonderful and sometimes fragile thing but true love can weather any storm so do not be afraid to ask the important questions, he has dreamed about you and he being married but how much do you know about him?

You need to be cautious but do not turn him away because we don't know him - ask him about himself and then you or a friend can check him out before you arrange a meeting.

I know how you must be feeling right now I have finally experienced someone truly loving me for the first time and it is wonderful - don't ever let go of that feeling, be cautious but don't just run away because your Aunts and Mother are concerned, take precautions and then follow your heart.

I want you to be safe but I want you to be happy too.

Love ya,

Sally

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another update, im a little scared beacause he told his mom me and him are together, (that part im completely ok with) the part im scared about is she said "lets just keep it between us" and from what ive seen, its not a good sign, and what might happen is she might forbey him from seeing me, and hes a really strong christian so he has to obey her if she dosnt want him to talk to me, and he said hes going to try all he can to convince her to let him be with me, im actually sobbing while i type this, i just dont know what to do. :'(

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Another update, his mom said that she is okay with us talking, im really glad i was so scared there, i know she isnt bad but i was still scared, im really glad that she is okay with us talking though, talk to you all soon

-sara

P.S im really sorry about not being on much over the past few months school and my mom has been kinda hard dealing with. But as long as my mom dosnt put restrictions on the internet again, blocking out this wonderful site, im back. ^_^

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