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I'm going to do it. I'm really going to do it. From now on my name on this website is Jack Grainger. This is the name I always gave myself in my childhood and now adult (48) stories I made up and told myself. The stories have always been about my life, as in early-on stories related to the misery of being an abused child - Jack (me) somehow came across two brothers (I have a brother) who had been abused, and he adopted and de-scared them. This theme has gone throughout my life, but also since 20 years ago when my military career ended due to mental illness, and I feel due some to lack of toughness, I have imagined both myself and myself-as-Jack having a successful military career. Jack embodies everything I wish I was and that I feel to be really me, inside, and it will come out when I am who I was always meant to be, and I am going to take his name. My name. Now. Welcome me aboard! I'm Jack!

Soon I will have an FTM counselor, and then HRT, and then when I'm sure, I'm going to do the year of transition. YAYYY!

My boyfriend knows all about this, and he is bi, and says he will stick by me. How lucky can one guy get?

And all the posts I've read - and I started a forum (thread?) about it - regarding mental illness - mine is bipolar - suggest that there is some hope that my bipolar will improve once I do the transition. So I'm keeping that possibility in mind. Good stuff!

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Guest ~Brenda~

Hi Jack,

Yes indeed Jack does suit you very well. I am so glad that you have settled on your name. I was 48 too when I settled on my name.

You are going to be just fine. Keep working towards your goal.

Peace be with you.

HUGS

Brenda

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  • Root Admin

Jack, I can change your username to Jack Grainger if you'd like.

MaryEllen

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Jack, its its good to have you here, and its great that you have a clear vision of what you want and how to get it.

You sound determined and ready, and we will be here beside you all the way.

Its great that you have a partner who is supportive. That is important to your success.

I wish you well.

Carolyn Marie

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Hi Jack,

<<curtsey>>

Welcome to Laura's Playground.

Please feel free to come over and chat sometime.

The Chat room does require another registration that is separate from from your forums one.

Please read the chat room rules before coming in, and expect a short interview with one of the chat room moderators.

One of the things that they will ask you is if you read the rules. :)

We have FTM meetings -Mon & Fri 8pm est, and you are welcome to attend.

We all look forward to seeing you.

:wub: vanna

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Guest Donna Jean

Good morning, Jack!

How are you?

I'm Donna Jean...

Let me get you a slice of pizza and a cold drink...I see that you haven't eaten yet!

I'm sure that you're going to like it here, Hon...There is a wealth of information and wonderful people willing to share their experience and give support!

So, pull up a chair and get comfy.....OK?

Good to have you, Jack!

HUGGS!

Donna Jean

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Hello Jack,

Pleased to meet you and I would like to say that I am also pleased that you have a supportive partner.

Getting all of our bodies and minds aligned is a great thing for relieving a lot of tension and stress, so I wouldn't be one bit surprised if it did help your bi-polar disorder as well.

Welcome to the family.

Love ya,

Sally

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Hey Jack,

Seems you have a plan and nothing can stop you, it is good to hear your boyfriend is supportive, it helps make this difficult journey easier.

Welcome aboard Jack

Paula

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Guest Joanna Phipps

Hey Jack welcome aboard, glad you are on the way to being who you are supposed to be. It is good you are working with a therapist and have your hrt in the works...

We are a friendly bunch and don't bite :) jump in and post, post, post when you wish there are many on here on different transition paths and different stages on those paths so we can answer just about any non-medical question you might ask. Please take a moment to read the forum rules, at the top of nearly every page.

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Guest uscgvet
Hi Jack,

<<curtsey>>

Welcome to Laura's Playground.

Please feel free to come over and chat sometime.

The Chat room does require another registration that is separate from from your forums one.

Please read the chat room rules before coming in, and expect a short interview with one of the chat room moderators.

One of the things that they will ask you is if you read the rules. :)

We have FTM meetings -Mon & Fri 8pm est, and you are welcome to attend.

We all look forward to seeing you.

:wub: vanna

I'll go straight to the chat link and register. Thanks!

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:D Can I make it jackg? Thanks so much!

Your display name (username) has been changed to jackg. Your login name is still the same as before.

MaryEllen

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Well, this is the nicest and most welcoming group I have ever experienced in my life. This is going to be great!

I posted an idea on the forum for the LGBTQ friendly city No Judgement, and really want to stay in touch with that. Maybe I can help.

I found a gender counseling center nearby - well, it's nearby unless you ask my GPS which thinks it's three towns over - and they have counselors and weekly support groups, and I am going to dive in!

I thought I saw a forum for military and veterans in TG, but can't find it now. (I'm a Coastie.) Did I mistake? Would it be copasetic (q to mod) to start such a forum? The atmosphere in the military toward LGBT is appalling, and can be literally fatal. On that serious note, could a national group such as this one offer help to LGBTs on active duty who are in danger? Now, that's something I could coordinate. I am not the person you want for suicide prevention, but if someone is getting messed with by other military I happen to know what to do. Is this something people post about? Could we make ourselves military-friendly? If anyone thinks this is a good idea then PM me. (I hope you know how - I grew up on pencil, paper and slide rules.)

Love you-all!

Jack

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