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My wife and I went to get christmas dinner supplies tonight. It was raining, so naturally we needed a change of clothes when we got home. Her free-flow skirt was on the bed and on a whim, I put it on. Then I took it off. ^_^

I went out and asked her if I could wear it, and she said yes, so I went and put it back on, and have been wearing it ever since. It's one of those long, scrunchy, very flowy multicolored skirts with the elastic waist. So I went out in the living room and sat down at the computer, and she made eggs and toast for dinner. When it was ready, I called her(now our) son out to eat (he's 18 and doesn't know I'm trans). I was sitting when he came out and didn't notice, but I had to get back up to get a fork, and he stopped in the middle of what he was saying and said "You're wearing a dress...". I said "No, I'm wearing a skirt, and it's extremely comfortable, you should try it". He didn't say anything after that lol. I don't know what's going through his head, but I feel like it's a little step.

I love this skirt!

*Hugs*

Shi

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Guest Joanna Phipps
You have any plans to tell your son soon?

If he doesn't know, or at least suspect something after that then um IDK, but that was a good ice breaker and it might have opened the door for an interesting conversation. I would recommend doing it in male mode though, having that discussion with you en femme might be too much for him.

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Guest Donna Jean

Well, Shi.....

That is a "Sorta" coming out....lol.

But, I do agree with Joanna...when you gather up the nerve to tell him...most certainly do it in male mode...he'll need small exposure ...bit by bit after that!

Good luck, Baby!

Donna Jean

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Shilo,

My you are almost as big a coward as me!

You have been given good advice - do it in male mode, as to when I will offer a suggestion.

Not until the holidays are almost over - then as a New Year's Resolution tell him that you want to get to know each other better in the coming year and start the ball rolling with a little explanation as to why he saw you in a Skirt that evening.

It can start the ball rolling and gives a reason for waiting - on your list for the New Year!

I hope things go well - I think they will or he would have gone ballistic over the skirt in the first place.

Love ya,

Sally

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Guest LottieZero

Hiya Shilo,

Maybe I'm being too optimistic but I'm with Sally on this one... at least it seems like your son isn't going to react angrily if you do end up coming out to him in full. I can't be sure, but hey... maybe you'll get to wear skirts a bit more often in the future now ^^;;

Good luck anyway :)

Charlotte x

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Guest Angelgrlsue
My wife and I went to get christmas dinner supplies tonight. It was raining, so naturally we needed a change of clothes when we got home. Her free-flow skirt was on the bed and on a whim, I put it on. Then I took it off. ^_^

I went out and asked her if I could wear it, and she said yes, so I went and put it back on, and have been wearing it ever since. It's one of those long, scrunchy, very flowy multicolored skirts with the elastic waist. So I went out in the living room and sat down at the computer, and she made eggs and toast for dinner. When it was ready, I called her(now our) son out to eat (he's 18 and doesn't know I'm trans). I was sitting when he came out and didn't notice, but I had to get back up to get a fork, and he stopped in the middle of what he was saying and said "You're wearing a dress...". I said "No, I'm wearing a skirt, and it's extremely comfortable, you should try it". He didn't say anything after that lol. I don't know what's going through his head, but I feel like it's a little step.

I love this skirt!

*Hugs*

Shi

Lol, I have not come out to my son yet and probably will not until he is graduated from high school but last week when I was visiting him and his mom I was wearing shorts, he looked at my legs and asked if I shaved my legs. I said "no". The last time I did shave them was like a month ago, one of the benefits of HRT, body hair becomes dense.

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Guest sarah f

I can only imagine what was going through your sons mind when you told him it was extremly comfortable and you should try it. He must of thought you lost your mind or OMG my dad is not wearing a skirt. He must really be confused now.

I know you said you are scared to tell him but you had enough courage to wear the skirt in front of him. You have some courage in there. Good Luck letting you son know.

Love,

Sarah F

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Guest Donna Jean
Haven't decided when or how yet. I keep hoping if I drop enough hints he'll just figure it out. I know, I'm a coward. I can't help it.

Hey, Shi......this post was before Christmas.....

So?

What's happened so far?

Anything?

We're all nosy!

HUGGS!

Donna Jean

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Good for you Shilo, way to go imo. Got to say though,

I woulda given a lottery win to have been a fly on the

wall so to have seen the lads expression (sorry) viv :)

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Guest Robin Winter
Hey, Shi......this post was before Christmas.....

So?

What's happened so far?

Anything?

We're all nosy!

HUGGS!

Donna Jean

Hehe. Not yet...but, I had an appointment with my GT today, and that's what he wants me to do for my homework, and I'm terrified. I know it's crazy, but I'm more afraid of telling him than I am about anyone else. With anyone else, I don't have to see them every day. Even with my wife, ya I was scared, but I knew that if it went bad, she'd probably leave me and I wouldn't have to look her in the eye every day either, but with him...I have to see him EVERY DAY, regardless of how he reacts. *Sigh*.

Good for you Shilo, way to go imo. Got to say though,

I woulda given a lottery win to have been a fly on the

wall so to have seen the lads expression (sorry) viv :)

LOL, it's ok, it was pretty funny. When I told my therapist about it today even he was laughing about it.

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