What Christmas

[Guest angie]

A Vent:

I am one of us who has come to dread the holidays.

Since coming home in 06,mine have either been I am

treated as a second thought,or ignored.This year was the

later.It is mighty disheartening to go a whole day without

a phone call a card or a gift.And if I do get a gift,it is some

cheap thing with no thought given when purchased.Personally,

I could do without what used to be my favorite time of the year.

One year it may be different,not this year though.All for being

who I must be and messing up peoples lives as they see it.

End of Venting

Angelique

[Guest Joanna Phipps]

Angie, sorry to hear that you have such a rough go of the holidays. I can indeed empathize, the only gifts I got were ones that my gf and I picked out for each of us. Dinner wasnt the do that it had been and I have been too lazy or who knows what to gett he cleanup done. In many ways I wish they would cancel it, or not show so many xmas programs.. honestly from halloween on the build up begins, by the time it gets here I am sick of it already and I know that I wont get anything else

[Guest Elizabeth K]

Oh Angie!

You are one of the prettiest and most lovable people here at Laura's! Where is your BEAU?

Honey - shun the old and look for the new! We are NEW and ALIVE in this world.

GO KNOCK THEM DEAD, Girlfriend!

Hell with those who want to judge us - we are the bravest people on earth, we transpeople!

LOVE LOVE LOVES you

Lizzy

[Guest viv]

Hi Angie,

I read your post earlier and found it hard to believe , you are so humane,

friendly and outgoing,,, that"s really what I pick up from your posts in general.

I said in another post this would be my last Christmas "solo" ,and I mean it .

This loneliness seems to run through our community and I am so emotionally

upset with this status . Sorry re your home stuff Angie, hope that improves.

For now though hun, we have to dig deep , into our reserves of strength and

character ,,you got that hun you know you have, luv,viv

[Carolyn Marie]

Angelique, I agree with Lizzy, it IS time to move on and start new relationships.

With all the confidence you have, your wonderful outgoing personality, and your amazing looks, you shouldn't

have any trouble finding love. The world is filled with possibilities. If the past is bringing you pain and misery, then

its time to let go of it and concentrate on the future.

Let your family live their lives without you - they have no idea what they are missing out on. Their loss.

You have the rest of your life to live. Go live it.

Love

Carolyn Marie

[Guest Steph70]

A Vent:

I am one of us who has come to dread the holidays.

Since coming home in 06,mine have either been I am

treated as a second thought,or ignored.This year was the

later.It is mighty disheartening to go a whole day without

a phone call a card or a gift.And if I do get a gift,it is some

cheap thing with no thought given when purchased.Personally,

I could do without what used to be my favorite time of the year.

One year it may be different,not this year though.All for being

who I must be and messing up peoples lives as they see it.

End of Venting

Angelique

Merry Christmas Angie! I'm sorry your card is late...darn 'mail service' is so slow this time of year!

Stephanie

p.s. Please forgive my non-existent artistic talent. I just wanted you to have at least one card.

[Guest foxy]

it completely shocks me that your family would just up and ignore you like that. mabe they just were unsure of what to say or give you, and thought nothing was better then the wrong thing... though i am unsure how nothing could be better...cause something would of at-lest shown they were thinking of you... so even if the gift was something with no thought put into it, lest they were thinking of you. i tried to look on the bright side your such a wonderful person, so sweet and caring, it is so shocking to find anyone could not want to spend the holidays with you.

*hugs* lest you have the new years and all of the party's to look forward too

P.S sorry for the odd grammer and mispellings, i sort of just spoke my mind and makeing it gramerly correct just made it sound too uncareing

[Guest Donna Jean]

Angie, Sweetheart...

It distresses me to know that you are feeling so badly...

If anytime of the year can make one feel low, it's got to be Christmas...

But, Girlfriend..Like Carolyn says..their loss..of course that doesn't help you any...I'm so sorry..

But I have to agree..you are a beautiful, personable, fun lady...I think this will be your last Christmas alone!

HUGGS, GF

Donna Jean

[Guest sarah f]

Angie, I know it is a little too late but Merry Christmas and Happy New Year to you. You know when I feel a little down I always come to Laura's too find a pick me up. All it takes is the love that everyone here shows each and everytime you write something. Consider us your immediate family as we don't judge you and all of us care deeply for you and how you are feeling.

Love Always,

Sarah F

[Guest Kayliegh]

Angie -

I can relate. While Christmas was good, my B-Day is the 26th. After coming out to my wife, who told her family, I did not get a card nor present for my B-Day – the first time ever from my SO and my kids (and my SO’s parents!)

I did, however, get warm B-Day wishes from my friends here at Laura’s, which I am thankful for. We never asked to be trans, and to have folks treat us differently is very hard.

At least we have each other (and thank you, all of my friends here at Laura’s – my B-Day was special just because I know I will always have friends here!)

Love - Kayleigh

[Guest angie]

Angie -

I can relate. While Christmas was good, my B-Day is the 26th. After coming out to my wife, who told her family, I did not get a card nor present for my B-Day – the first time ever from my SO and my kids (and my SO’s parents!)

Love - Kayleigh

Be prepared for no holiday or birthday to be the same ever again.

Folks you have known for twenty years wont know how to talk around you.They wont tell jokes

or relax,wondering how they didn't catch that you were/are so(weird) as to want to be a girl.

If they do and include you and you happen to be the butt of jokes for a while,be happy you are

accepted in any way.

Hugs Kayleigh you are in for a long haul my sister,

Angelique

[Guest ricka]

Angelique---First of all I have to tell you that you are one of my favorite-all-time women!!! Your fabulous smile says sooo much about who you are as a person. How sad that your family do not recognize and appreciate the beautiful diamond they have in you.

One of my goals for the new year is to build a circle of transwomen friends. This afternoon my dear friend Matthew brought over a transwoman friend of his to meet me. This was my first holiday party for me entertaining en femme. I was soooo excited! I wore my new Christmas dress and had a warm fire going---it had been snowing all day outside. I served hot tea and warm walnut-apple bread. Matthew's friend, Marcie was just a sweetheart. What a beautiful, sweet soul!!!

Someone once told me expectations are premeditated resentments. I have learned long ago not to expect my family members---including my gay brother to accept me as me. But meeting new people, and calling them friends because of their acceptance and warmth and love as I did today.

Oh I did get one Christmas present from my sister: a Field & Stream heavy flannel shirt. It's sooo butch! And coincidently I have the exact same shirt hanging in my closet. (Which I do put on to wear outside when it is 0 degrees I admit!) She must be psychic! Well her gift will not go unappreciated. I will give it to a homeless person--and a specific person I have in mind. I work in a small town next to an Indian reservation. There is a homeless population here and there are some that I have come to know and care very much about. My friend Ralph will love this shirt. Lest you think of me as a generous soul, I am merely passing on the love and acceptance I have found here on Lauras--including from you my dear sister!

Angelique I think I know you well enough to know how you would scream to find a diamond and sapphire bracelet under the Christmas tree from the man of your life!!! Some day, sister!!!

Hugs, Ricka