A Thought Occured To Me

[Guest AshleeB]

I dunno how to put what i am thinking into words but im gonna try

Ive never had a problem passing so long as i shave (which i make a point to do 5 minutes before i ever go out so its as smooth as it can be )

and i started using the ladys bathrooms in public places and passing fine in their too, which is handy coz i often need to touch up my make up lol

but i suddenly feel strange... like i know im a girl and everyone HERE knows im a girl, all my friends and family know im a girl but i cant help but feel like using the womans toilets is like... well like not... good? lol

what im trying to say is, its ok for us to use the bathroom of your TRUE gender before things like hrt and srs right?

I just need reassuring i guess

Lots of love

Ash

p.s... even if it probably wasnt a bad idea, i would still do it. mens bathrooms are just disgusting... lol

[Guest Eth]

I am not sure about the laws on this over there. I know some places you could get in trouble for doing that if you were caught. I don't think it's a bad idea but maybe you should research bathroom-related laws in your area.

If you pass well, odds are you shouldn't get caught and it shouldn't be a problem. But it's better to be safe than sorry.

[Sally]

I have a letter from my therapist that should help if anyone were to get agitated.

It won't save you from embarrassment so passing in the ladies room is very important.

Love ya,

Sally

[Guest Donna Jean]

I also have a letter from my therapist (Carry Letter)...

I've never been called on the carpet when I use the ladie's room, though.

And you are so right...most men's rooms are disgusting! YUCK!

HUGGS!

Donna Jean

[Guest viv]

Hi Ash,

At the end of the day its all about passing hun.

The ladies room is a much more private """space""

than the guys is. (not trying to start anything here)

You said it yourself,,you touch up your makeup

and so on there so privacy is all important,,in

the strictest sense. Looking at your little photo,

your ok Ash, best of luck, luv,viv

[Guest Elizabeth K]

My therapist gave me advice on this:

If you look female DON"T go into the men's room! It could be dangerous. She said something else that styed with me, "There are no panty checks when you are transsexual."

Hope that helped

Lizzy

[Guest Lizzie McTrucker]

I'm on the fence about which bathrooms are cleaner. I've been in some gross men's rooms but I've also been in some equally gross women's rooms.

But to the question at hand: if you're looking the part and acting the part, using the ladies room should be automatic.

[Guest nova]

I would hate to even think what could happen to you if you were to use the men's room. Even if you were not molested or worse, someone very possibly could call the authorities (mall cop, security guard, police, whatever) after seeing a female go into the public men's room. I agree with everyone who says get a carry letter if it's bothering you. Relax! Don't act nervous, unless you have to really pee bad !

[Guest nymphblossom]

I was clocked in Penney's the week before Christmas. I have been using the ladies room for months when I am in public presenting female so I was actually a bit taken back when the manager stopped me on the way out. She was polite, called me maam and said something about me making the other customers uncomfortable. She asked if I would use the family restroom next time. I said Sure, smiled, wished her a Merry Christmas and went about my shopping.

I don't start HRT for a couple more weeks, but in 75+ hours presenting as female in public, this was only the second time I have been clocked. I would never even think of making a fuss or showing my Carry Letter for something so trivial. But I can't even imagine using the men's room presenting as a female.

Blossom

[Guest Lizzie McTrucker]

She asked if I would use the family restroom next time. I said Sure, smiled, wished her a Merry Christmas and went about my shopping.

That has to be one of the best ways to handle a situation like that from a managerial standpoint.

She acknowledged you with correct pronouns, she conveyed that she knew you were TS but didn't make a big deal out of it and offered a fair compromise. I mean sure it's the family restroom but... at least it's not the men's.

[Guest viv]

Hi Blossom,

Good for you and the manager, political correctness re the manager (if something was gonna be said )

and you hun, a class act,, good on ya ,,,,,, luv,viv,

[Guest sarah f]

I say use which ever bathroom you want to use. Looking at your picture you should not be afraid of using the womens bathroom. I think you pass well enough that nobody will say anything in fear of embarrasment if they were to be wrong.

Love,

Sarah F