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Guest Michele H

This not gender related but need to 'talk about it'. Some background:For the first time in many years, i didn't spend Christmas by myself. I spent christmas with my room mate and her family. - My room mate is MUCH younger thahwn me and I have rather adopted her, she says she is like the grandma she never knew. (having a 27 year old call you grandma does make you feel old!). Both my parents died when I was young and I have been taking care of people ever since so the grandma roll was easy to fall into. I even seem to have become something of a mother figure to her mother as well. - anyway - when I was staying with her family- IT WAS REALLY strange - part of me continued this role of mother, grandmother and part of me wanted needed - desparetly for her mom to be my mom and Jen to be my baby sister. anyway thanks for listening

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Michelle,

I understand those feelings all too well.

I have also have bypassed daughter and mother to become grandmother or great aunt to everyone but rather than regret the things that I have missed like the childhood I wanted to have instead I have chosen to accept the love that is offered and finally realize the joy of being loved for who I really am.

It is bittersweet but the lingering after taste is very sweet.

Love ya,

Sally

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Guest Michele H

Believe me - I do acept the love - and am very content in the mom/grandma role - love it actually - THATS why I was so surprised at the intense feelings I had there -

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Guest Amanda joan

Hi Michele,

It sounds like you have found your family and you are a part of the family history now. The love is wonderful and it only gets better. I do understand the need to be Mothered and I think we will always feel that lose because we did not have that as a child.

Peace & Love Amanda

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