Feelings

[Guest Amy LeBlanc]

Hello all:

Have not posted in a long time cause I have been busy with work and the holidays. But I have been feeling out of it lately because for some reason I have not dressed in 1 month and I am feeling too up tight and have not been myself. I know how I have said that I have finally come out to my mom and sister and they are ok with me and comfortable with me but yet they are still trying to get used to the idea of myself dressing so I still dress in private. I want to dress up more offten and let my other side out alot more but I am still afraid of the teasing and ridcule that others will say.

I wish I was making a little more at my job so I can get a place of my own so I can dress up everyday and not have to worry too much.

Hope to talk to you all

Amy

[Guest Anna_Banana]

Amy,

I know what's it like to have the "supportive" family but still receive the stigma. My best advice, if you haven't already done so, is to find a transgender/crossdresser support group. I'm not saying that you need help. I'm recommending this because it gives you the opportunity to dress among friends. A lot of the people in my support group, for instance, don't actually need help, they just need a place to be themselves once a month. I'm sure you'll be able to find one nearby.

.Anna

[Guest ChloëC]

I can certainly feel for you Amy. Money and privacy. The enemies of many of our desires. I can't really offer too many suggestions, except that it's not unusual to have ups and downs in this desire to dress en femme. I've just learned to grab the moments I can and go with them and enjoy and appreciate them and hope the next comes shortly, but more often then I hope, it doesn't.

Hugs

Chloë

[Carolyn Marie]

Amy, I know its really difficult when you live at home and feel like you can rarely be yourself.

Have patience, and you will achieve what you want. In the meantime, take advantage of every opportunity that you're alone and can dress appropriately.

Anna's suggestion is excellent, or perhaps you can find one or two friends who are understanding and supportive and will let you dress at their houses,

or go out with you.

I hope your situation improves. Best of luck, hon.

Carolyn Marie

[Guest julia_d]

2 words.. The Railway .. get on at one end how you are.. get off the other end who you want to be and have a day out where nobody at all knows you... one warning.. I have a habit of running into old faces in the strangest places.. how about a friend from school who I bought a guitar amp from once.. at 7.30 in the morning one November in the rain 200 miles from home.. Get the dress sense right tho and you can walk right past people you used to live with and get no flicker of recognition..

It's oddly empowering